Has anyone on here found their spouse on the Ashley Madison list?

[Anonymous]

yes. i'm not sure what to do next. i just want to throw up. he used his credit card, so not a voyeur. we have a young kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, we met through work.

Well played.

[Anonymous]

I found a person whose wedding I worked at. The bride was one of the sweetest people I ever worked with. The groom seemed like an a**hole. Looks like I was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found my husband. He cheated on me before and I thought we worked through it. We have 2 very small children. The last credit card payment happened when I was 8 months pregnant. I confronted him last night. I'm devastated. I can't see this going anywhere but divorce. I think he is a sex addict or something.

Stay strong, if you have small kids then please start counseling. Don't start thinking about divorce, if possible try to work things out and hopefully he regrets doing this and learns his lesson. It's hard to raise small kids by yourself, try to keep the family together (I don't mean this as a sexist advise, just practical). Good luck!

[Anonymous]

I really hope most people are not looking to end their marriage over this if this is the *only* indiscretion. Maybe your spouse was bored, maybe you were going through a rough patch, maybe they were just curious, etc. Chances are that they only "looked" and never actually acted on anything through this site.

[Anonymous]

So if you find a name on the list, how do you find more details about it? transaction history, etc.

[Anonymous]

If he used his credit card in an effort to find some strange online he was obviously up to no good and knew exactly what he was getting into. Marriage counseling is a load of BS. Once a cheater always a cheater.

[Anonymous]

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What is an explanation for why an address and name wouldn't match? My neighbor's address is on this map, but the name is wrong. I thought the addresses came from credit card info, so seems unlikely someone can use a fake name.

Could have used a pre-paid credit card and used any name he wanted. Lots of Fred Flintstones on the list.

[Anonymous]

I suppose this is easy to say since neither I nor spouse are on the list.

What these lists show is how common infidelity is. 30 million members in the U.S. Now add in all the people who have or attempted to cheat through old fashioned communication, Craigslist, Facebook. People aren't good at monogamy.

I can't tell you what to do, but I have a hard time believing all of these families are going to be better off with public humiliation, divorce, broken homes, etc. I have a ton of sympathy for spouses caught up in this. Perhaps it helps those who found their spouses names to know that many many more of your friends have also been cheated on and the only difference is they get to go on with life blissfully unaware.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't find my spouse, but found a few neighbors.

Question: If someone's name is listed multiple times, what does that mean? One neighbor has his name listed once. Another has his name listed at least 5 times (listed twice in a row, then a few other peoples name in between, then listed again 3 times in a row.) I saw other names (not people I know) listed even more than that.

Also, the only comprehensive list I've seen is for Northern VA. If anyone happens to know of a similar list/site that shows the names for Paulding county, GA, I would love to see it. Thank you.

You have too much time on your hands.

? It took all of 5 minutes to look at the site and see all the names for my city...How is that "too much time?"

That you even care to know after seeing your spouse is not in it, you'd take even 5 minutes to check out your neighborhood. Why do you care?

I think you are projecting your own insecurities here and making assumptions about my motives.

I looked through my neighborhood to see if my spouse's name was on it. I was on my phone and I didn't know of another way to search other than to just look though every name. The list that I saw has all addresses within the same city together, so it did not take long to scroll down to my city and look through all the names. While looking, I did happen to notice the names of several neighbors. I noticed after the fact that the list also appeared to be in alphabetical order (by first name.)

Ha. You can 'think' all you want. Why are people insecure enough to look for their spouses on there? Then, scroll through to find others! I don't care about your motives at all. Clearly, you took the time to search people out. It's OK. Everybody is doing it. It's the cool thing to do.

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What is an explanation for why an address and name wouldn't match? My neighbor's address is on this map, but the name is wrong. I thought the addresses came from credit card info, so seems unlikely someone can use a fake name.

Could have used a pre-paid credit card and used any name he wanted. Lots of Fred Flintstones on the list.

But then why would they need to give an address at all? Why not give a fake address? I can't really imagine being paranoid enough to get a prepaid card and use a fake name and then put down your correct address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found my husband. He cheated on me before and I thought we worked through it. We have 2 very small children. The last credit card payment happened when I was 8 months pregnant. I confronted him last night. I'm devastated. I can't see this going anywhere but divorce. I think he is a sex addict or something.

so you will divorce him over a sickness? maybe it isn't a choice but rather he was born that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I suppose this is easy to say since neither I nor spouse are on the list.

What these lists show is how common infidelity is. 30 million members in the U.S. Now add in all the people who have or attempted to cheat through old fashioned communication, Craigslist, Facebook. People aren't good at monogamy.

I can't tell you what to do, but I have a hard time believing all of these families are going to be better off with public humiliation, divorce, broken homes, etc. I have a ton of sympathy for spouses caught up in this. Perhaps it helps those who found their spouses names to know that many many more of your friends have also been cheated on and the only difference is they get to go on with life blissfully unaware.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't find my spouse, but found a few neighbors.

Question: If someone's name is listed multiple times, what does that mean? One neighbor has his name listed once. Another has his name listed at least 5 times (listed twice in a row, then a few other peoples name in between, then listed again 3 times in a row.) I saw other names (not people I know) listed even more than that.

Also, the only comprehensive list I've seen is for Northern VA. If anyone happens to know of a similar list/site that shows the names for Paulding county, GA, I would love to see it. Thank you.

You have too much time on your hands.

? It took all of 5 minutes to look at the site and see all the names for my city...How is that "too much time?"

That you even care to know after seeing your spouse is not in it, you'd take even 5 minutes to check out your neighborhood. Why do you care?

I think you are projecting your own insecurities here and making assumptions about my motives.

I looked through my neighborhood to see if my spouse's name was on it. I was on my phone and I didn't know of another way to search other than to just look though every name. The list that I saw has all addresses within the same city together, so it did not take long to scroll down to my city and look through all the names. While looking, I did happen to notice the names of several neighbors. I noticed after the fact that the list also appeared to be in alphabetical order (by first name.)

Ha. You can 'think' all you want. Why are people insecure enough to look for their spouses on there? Then, scroll through to find others! I don't care about your motives at all. Clearly, you took the time to search people out. It's OK. Everybody is doing it. It's the cool thing to do.

Yes, I do think, which is apparently not possible for you. Once I scrolled through the names and didn't see my own spouse there, I was done. No "Searching" or "scrolling" beyond that. I do have a reason to look up someone in Paulding Co. Georgia---but beyond that, I don't care who is on the list.

[Anonymous]

How do I find a list w/DC names? Come on people - help me out with a link!