Frustrated with my looks and dating.

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Anonymous wrote:Too many jealous women on this thread must have looked really rough by the time they were 27. Sucks to be them.

Not jealous. Just find her annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:You're frustrated with your looks yet you apparently date doctors and lawyers and don't have to resort to online dating. drama queen!

Yeah, I don't quite get the problem, OP. Dating is hard for everyone, until you find the right person. I think this is a chip on your shoulder you don't need to carry. It sounds like you have no problem meeting men and people to date. Let it go.

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Op, guy here. If you see a guy you like talk to him, but make sure you tell him your age quick. Just work it into the conversation. Many normal guys will not want to date someone who they think is a lot younger. I don't think you can just sit back and wait for a guy. You are just attracting the creeps.
Invest in a personal shopper(say you want to look old- more confident) and get you hairstyle changed(again go to a professional and let them give you a few choices- more professional, old, etc look). This will help keep the creeps away...they don't like the look of a confident women(not saying you are not confident, but there might be something in your look that is attracting these type of guys). Invest the money and have fun. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you need to take more control of your dating situation. You complain about the types of guys that hit on you, so why don't you go flirt with the guys who don't seem that way? Chances are they are interested too, they're just not overtly going after you. Don't be a passive participant in your love life.

How dare you offer reasonable, sensible advice to this woman. She doesn't want to "take control" of her dating situation, never the less take control of anything. She wants a pity party and she wants someone else to fix her dating "issues" for her.

Talk about first world issues with OP...

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Anonymous wrote:I think you need to take more control of your dating situation. You complain about the types of guys that hit on you, so why don't you go flirt with the guys who don't seem that way? Chances are they are interested too, they're just not overtly going after you. Don't be a passive participant in your love life.

How dare you offer reasonable, sensible advice to this woman. She doesn't want to "take control" of her dating situation, never the less take control of anything. She wants a pity party and she wants someone else to fix her dating "issues" for her.

Talk about first world issues with OP...

God damn it, she's only 27. She's too young and too pretty with great bosoms to have to "take control" of her dating situation.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I will try makeup and a hair change. I don't wear much makeup, and I have dark blonde hair, blue-eyed. My hair is long. I'm thinking of changing it to brown with highlights and a new cut. I would not look good with short hair and will not cut it off. Maybe some layers would look nice. I'm a nanny and student so I do not dress in business attire.

LOL, so you're 27 and a student and a nanny. How long have you been in school? How about you get a real career before you turn 40?

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Anonymous wrote: I am a very mature 27 year old

I laffed

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Anonymous wrote:
I am a student going for a degree in the medical field. I only nanny because I like kids and it's pays my way through school. I've never had a previous boyfriend care that I was a nanny, and I've dated a doctor, and two lawyers. I believe I said that in my opening post.

Are you actually in medical school, or going for a degree in a medical "field?" Stop lying.

[Anonymous]

Annnnnd the helpfulness has ended.

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Anonymous wrote:
See this whole "men approach women" thing is just completely broken.
Why do women feel they just inherently "deserve" to be approached by a stream of men who meet their highest standards?
What is wrong with YOU approaching the men you like?

YES!!!! Women, especially moderately attractive ones, feel entitled to have high-quality men approach them. That's why I said this woman feels she's too young and still too pretty and well endowed to be forced to "take control" of her dating situation. That's for homely and older women who are running out of options, she believes.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
See this whole "men approach women" thing is just completely broken.
Why do women feel they just inherently "deserve" to be approached by a stream of men who meet their highest standards?
What is wrong with YOU approaching the men you like?

YES!!!! Women, especially moderately attractive ones, feel entitled to have high-quality men approach them. That's why I said this woman feels she's too young and still too pretty and well endowed to be forced to "take control" of her dating situation. That's for homely and older women who are running out of options, she believes.

And they have to resort to online dating.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dating online does not make you desperate … it makes you a normal human being. OP you do sound immature. Also, nannying is not a career most men will accept unfortunately. Most men see it as a non-permanent job. I don't think a lot of men would see it as a career choice.

I am a student going for a degree in the medical field. I only nanny because I like kids and it's pays my way through school. I've never had a previous boyfriend care that I was a nanny, and I've dated a doctor, and two lawyers. I believe I said that in my opening post.

Blah blah blah. Op you sound annoying.

Agreed. I had a lot of sympathy for op initially but her follow ups are so defensive and irritating. Op you vented and ppl gave very good advice. Get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. I will try makeup and a hair change. I don't wear much makeup, and I have dark blonde hair, blue-eyed. My hair is long. I'm thinking of changing it to brown with highlights and a new cut. I would not look good with short hair and will not cut it off. Maybe some layers would look nice. I'm a nanny and student so I do not dress in business attire.

LOL, so you're 27 and a student and a nanny. How long have you been in school? How about you get a real career before you turn 40?

Not OP but people go back to college at all different ages in life. Going back to college at 40 is admirable, not laughable. I was a nanny before I became a mom. You know nothing of the field because it is
" a real job". You sound real bitter and clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too many jealous women on this thread must have looked really rough by the time they were 27. Sucks to be them.

Yep!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, guy here. If you see a guy you like talk to him, but make sure you tell him your age quick. Just work it into the conversation. Many normal guys will not want to date someone who they think is a lot younger. I don't think you can just sit back and wait for a guy. You are just attracting the creeps.
Invest in a personal shopper(say you want to look old- more confident) and get you hairstyle changed(again go to a professional and let them give you a few choices- more professional, old, etc look). This will help keep the creeps away...they don't like the look of a confident women(not saying you are not confident, but there might be something in your look that is attracting these type of guys). Invest the money and have fun. Good luck.

This is really great advice.

I am a different PP who has the same problem and I am slowly realizing I will have to start approaching men, which is daunting when you've never done it before. But, as you said, quality guys don't want to date a girl who is super younger than them.

It's funny, because when I was a freshman in college I looked young but not ten years younger. Seemed I was approached by way more guys my own age, guys who were quality. Now I feel like I just get approached by a parade of dudes with "teen girl" fantasies. Yuck.