Am I reading too much into it? Weird relationship between my dad and SIL

[Anonymous]

If she's in her 50s and your dad is what, in his 70s (???), there's nothing you can do. Your mom and brother have eyes and ears. They will use them or they won't. This whole thing sounds icky, but MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's creepy that OP is jealous that her father is flirting and being sexual at her SIL? You want your dad to touch your butt, OP? That's not right.

My thoughts exactly. OP's dad is directing romantic/sexual attention at the SIL and OP describes her feelings as "jealousy".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's in her 50s and your dad is what, in his 70s (???), there's nothing you can do. Your mom and brother have eyes and ears. They will use them or they won't. This whole thing sounds icky, but MYOB.

I think that was a different poster, not OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's creepy that OP is jealous that her father is flirting and being sexual at her SIL? You want your dad to touch your butt, OP? That's not right.

My thoughts exactly. OP's dad is directing romantic/sexual attention at the SIL and OP describes her feelings as "jealousy".

I am not jealous of their flirtatious relationship I am no sure how you infected that. I said I have had my share of jealousy toward my SIL before but it is unrelated to my dad. It's the sibling rivalry type of jealousy which strained my relationship with my brother. I do not want my dad to smack my ass or to flirt with me that's just gross. But I do agree with one of the posters that my overall jealousy maybe clouding my judgement and I am ascribing more meaning to their interactions then there actually is. My dad is in his 50s and my SIL is in her early 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's creepy that OP is jealous that her father is flirting and being sexual at her SIL? You want your dad to touch your butt, OP? That's not right.

My thoughts exactly. OP's dad is directing romantic/sexual attention at the SIL and OP describes her feelings as "jealousy".

I am not jealous of their flirtatious relationship I am no sure how you infected that. I said I have had my share of jealousy toward my SIL before but it is unrelated to my dad. It's the sibling rivalry type of jealousy which strained my relationship with my brother. I do not want my dad to smack my ass or to flirt with me that's just gross. But I do agree with one of the posters that my overall jealousy maybe clouding my judgement and I am ascribing more meaning to their interactions then there actually is. My dad is in his 50s and my SIL is in her early 30s.

You said: "Like they have this bond that he and I should have. He is interested in keeping a conversation with her while mostly ignoring me."

Then you described sexual interactions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here I know that there is nothing sexual going on between them but I just feel very weird like they have some sort of platonic connection Or an emotional affair in DCUM lingo. My brother is spending most of the vacation on his laptop he is working. So today we were at the beach and one of her kids got cranky so she left to put him to bed. My dad was upset that she did not tell him that they are leaving. He also Keeps commenting on her tan and appearance in general. I have never vacationed Witt her before but apparently she is a little uninhibited. She came back to the beach in a shirt And lace underwear because all her bikinis were wet. Just totally weirded out by the whole thing.

Okay, now it sounds like someone's exploring a little pervy fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks it's creepy that OP is jealous that her father is flirting and being sexual at her SIL? You want your dad to touch your butt, OP? That's not right.

My thoughts exactly. OP's dad is directing romantic/sexual attention at the SIL and OP describes her feelings as "jealousy".

I am not jealous of their flirtatious relationship I am no sure how you infected that. I said I have had my share of jealousy toward my SIL before but it is unrelated to my dad. It's the sibling rivalry type of jealousy which strained my relationship with my brother. I do not want my dad to smack my ass or to flirt with me that's just gross. But I do agree with one of the posters that my overall jealousy maybe clouding my judgement and I am ascribing more meaning to their interactions then there actually is. My dad is in his 50s and my SIL is in her early 30s.

You said: "Like they have this bond that he and I should have. He is interested in keeping a conversation with her while mostly ignoring me."

Then you described sexual interactions.

This. Sorry OP, I totally got the vibe that you were jealous daddy wasn't playing grab ass with you. Even if you didn't intend it, that is how it came off.

I also agree with a PP that your jealousy/issues are coloring how you see their interactions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here I know that there is nothing sexual going on between them but I just feel very weird like they have some sort of platonic connection Or an emotional affair in DCUM lingo. My brother is spending most of the vacation on his laptop he is working. So today we were at the beach and one of her kids got cranky so she left to put him to bed. My dad was upset that she did not tell him that they are leaving. He also Keeps commenting on her tan and appearance in general. I have never vacationed Witt her before but apparently she is a little uninhibited. She came back to the beach in a shirt And lace underwear because all her bikinis were wet. Just totally weirded out by the whole thing.

Okay, now it sounds like someone's exploring a little pervy fantasy.

Ya think?

"Because all her bikinis were wet" ... really? I didn't know bikinis got wet. r/incest is calling... it wants its post back, troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your dad is gross.

+1

They are BOTH gross. What grown woman walks around in underwear and t-shirt in public or answers the door like that?

+1 that's why I think someone is exploring their kink.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to assume that OP is telling the truth since I had a potential SIL (my brother's fiancee) that would come out and eat breakfast with the whole family in her skimpy negligee. My dad loved it and it was embarrassing to be there. My mom didn't say anything because she was a guest in their home but my sisters and I thought it was highly inappropriate. She craved attention, especially male attention and always wore the skimpiest bikinis, sunned topless around my parent's pool, and wore deep plunging necklines and the shortest dresses when we went out. My brother just though she was "a character". Her parents had put her in charge of her many younger siblings while they went out and pursued their careers, affairs and social lives. She had been a model in her twenties and developed an eating disorder. Although we felt sorry for her difficulties, it still was disruptive to our family harmony when she was around. She ended up cheating on my brother on a business trip. I empathize with OP. Until you have had someone like that in your family, you have no idea how annoying and destabilizing it can be. No, my dad didn't touch her but he enjoyed her hugs/kisses and stared at her often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad is gross.

+1

They are both gross. SIL shouldn't get a pass just because she is a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op[b] here I know that there is nothing sexual going on between them[/b] but I just feel very weird like they have some sort of platonic connection Or an emotional affair in DCUM lingo. My brother is spending most of the vacation on his laptop he is working. So today we were at the beach and one of her kids got cranky so she left to put him to bed. My dad was upset that she did not tell him that they are leaving. He also Keeps commenting on her tan and appearance in general. I have never vacationed Witt her before but apparently she is a little uninhibited. She came back to the beach in a shirt And lace underwear because all her bikinis were wet. Just totally weirded out by the whole thing.

How do you know there is nothing sexual going on between them? It sure sounds as if there is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother could not get away from work. My brother and SIL spend a lot of time at my parents house. Basically they stay there from Friday to Monday every week because my parents have a pool. I only see them two to three times a year. But every time I go I feel like SIL is a replacement for me. She walks around the house in a t shirt no pants. Just all around inappropriate. I think my mom is a little jealous too because she has mentioned things to me like SIL will call dad daily just to check in or to ask for advice. The thing is her parents are nearby and they have a pool too!

I'm calling troll. Why would SIL call Dad daily if she's living there Monday-Friday?

[Anonymous]

Omg this is OP no I am not a troll . They live at my parents house Friday to Monday as in over the weekend. SIL calls my dad daily during the week to check in. They have a very close relationship they talk and share things. I said before that I am a little jealous and feel left out because they keep talking to each other like I am not even there. I am not part of any conversations. This is completely separate from the butt smacking. How do bikinis get wet? There are numerous ways to accomplish this. One can urinate but a more common approach is to partake in swimming. Anyways I decided that I am reading way too much into the whole thing. My dad has issues with boundaries. My SIL isn't shy about her body and feels confident to display her ass for the world to see. And I am just jealous and a prude.

[Anonymous]

Is your dad named Chester?
Who answers the door wearing a thing?