Am I reading too much into it? Weird relationship between my dad and SIL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP at first I thought you were on to something, but with your subsequent posts it seems like you may indeed have a jealousy issue surrounding your SIL. I think you are reading into situations and seeing or embellishing what you want to feed that jealousy/dislike of her.

I do not deny that I have some jealousy issues. However I am not embellishing anything I saw. The reason I am posting his on an anonymous board is because I cannot possibly discuss it with my brother or my mom. I don't want to ruin my mom's relationship wry my SIL. And my brother an I have a rocky relationship as it is, no need to add more to it. My DH who could not come to this vacation, thinks I should let it go. I am not planning on talking about his to anyone but DH, but since he does not think it's a big deal, I wanted to run it by someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your father and SIL have a thing going on and either you or your mother better put a stop to it because your brother is too occupied to notice.

This will end badly if it continues.

I Am Pretty sure there is nothing going on. SIL is madly in love with my brother much more so than he is with her. Maybe the flirting with my dad is her way of trying to get my brother's attention.

[Anonymous]

can this really be real? i really hope troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your dad is gross.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:can this really be real? i really hope troll[/quote

This is very real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My SIL does the same thing with my FIL (not related by blood). She comes from a f'ed up family and I figure this is how her many stepfathers behaved with her. Was gross 20 years ago, but is just pathetic-looking for both of them now. Really bums out FIL's daughter and the rest of us non-blood relatives make fun of them in private.

Fixed that for you.

Great job. So tired of all the victim blaming.

[Anonymous]

Stay out of it. You don't have credibility with your family, your relationship with father and brother already strained. Just let it be. Work on your issues with respect to feeling displaced, jealous and insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your father and SIL have a thing going on and either you or your mother better put a stop to it because your brother is too occupied to notice.

This will end badly if it continues.

I Am Pretty sure there is nothing going on. SIL is madly in love with my brother much more so than he is with her. Maybe the flirting with my dad is her way of trying to get my brother's attention.

This

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay out of it. You don't have credibility with your family, your relationship with father and brother already strained. Just let it be. Work on your issues with respect to feeling displaced, jealous and insecure.

+1 Anything coming from OP will be dismissed and make things worse for HER not SIL and FIL. Stay out and away from them which should be easy since you already said you only see them around 3x a year anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad is gross.

+1

They are BOTH gross. What grown woman walks around in underwear and t-shirt in public or answers the door like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP at first I thought you were on to something, but with your subsequent posts it seems like you may indeed have a jealousy issue surrounding your SIL. I think you are reading into situations and seeing or embellishing what you want to feed that jealousy/dislike of her.

I do not deny that I have some jealousy issues. However I am not embellishing anything I saw. The reason I am posting his on an anonymous board is because I cannot possibly discuss it with my brother or my mom. I don't want to ruin my mom's relationship wry my SIL. And my brother an I have a rocky relationship as it is, no need to add more to it. My DH who could not come to this vacation, thinks I should let it go. I am not planning on talking about his to anyone but DH, but since he does not think it's a big deal, I wanted to run it by someone else.

I didn't mean you were embellishing it purposely. I meant your jealousy might be clouding the issue and you are seeing things that aren't there or aren't as they seem through your bias/jealousy.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a John Updike Rabbit novel. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:can this really be real? i really hope troll

If it is a troll I think it's a pretty good one, and an entertaining topic! 8/10 troll score.

[Anonymous]

I am going to keep my mouth shut.

[Anonymous]

Am I the only one who thinks it's creepy that OP is jealous that her father is flirting and being sexual at her SIL? You want your dad to touch your butt, OP? That's not right.