School sent email to another parent about my son

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

NP here.

I've always felt very strongly that parents should be more concerned about their children's behavior than trying to manage (educated, gainfully employed---which is where you want your child to be someday) adults. This view governed the way I patented-to outstanding results.

It was an honest mistake. Stuff happens. You really should be much more concerned with your child's poor behavior. Seems as if you're looking for a diversion.

No diversion, my son does have a diagnosis which I won't get into. However what she emailed me about, was stuff that happened over the last few months. The thing that happened today, was really minor and actually I feel she was out of line even emailing me about that but I'm not going to say anything about that.

Not looking for a diversion.

[Anonymous]

Don't bite the hand that feeds you - your son already is having behavior issues at the school, right?

Tread lightly. . .

Tell the principal you think he/she sent it to the wrong mom, same name, you understand the mix up could happen but to please, please be careful next time, and to please let the other mother know that the email was sent in error and to please delete it because it contained sensitive information.

[Anonymous]

OP, what is it that you ultimately want? The error cannot be undone, so what is it you are looking to get out of the situation you are now in?

There are lots of suggestions here that could lead to many different outcomes - letting it go will lead to nothing, contacting the recipient of the email could lead to her not reading the information not intended for her, yelling at the principal might prove a point but strain future interactions in a counterproductive way.

My suggestion is to first decide what you want and then act in a way that you're sure will help achieve your end goal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't bite the hand that feeds you - your son already is having behavior issues at the school, right?

Tread lightly. . .

Tell the principal you think he/she sent it to the wrong mom, same name, you understand the mix up could happen but to please, please be careful next time, and to please let the other mother know that the email was sent in error and to please delete it because it contained sensitive information.

I meant send this message to whoever sent the original message. I wouldn't tattle on anyone to get them in trouble or anything, as you are already in a tricky situation with a child who apparently has lots of issues at school. You need the assistance of these people - you need them on your side.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I would ignore this incident if it happened today to my son. But then he's in elementary school, and his issues, while highly important to me, aren't something I'm embarrassed about.

However, your son is a teen and his behavior is in question - I think it's a little bit more serious. I would send an email to the principal to record your displeasure about the breach of his privacy, and request that the principal send an email to the other parent acknowledging the mistake and reminding her that this is confidential information.

[Anonymous]

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Honestly, I would ignore this incident if it happened today to my son. But then he's in elementary school, and his issues, while highly important to me, aren't something I'm embarrassed about.

However, your son is a teen and his behavior is in question - I think it's a little bit more serious. I would send an email to the principal to record your displeasure about the breach of his privacy, and request that the principal send an email to the other parent acknowledging the mistake and reminding her that this is confidential information.

Forgot to add, your request would make her look good (if she hasn't sent an email out already). The other mother must be thinking how disorganized this principal is right now! An apologetic email would go a long way to rectify this.

It's disappointing that she did not include an apology to your husband and yourself when she sent the second email. I hope she will apologize at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

NP here.

I've always felt very strongly that parents should be more concerned about their children's behavior than trying to manage (educated, gainfully employed---which is where you want your child to be someday) adults. This view governed the way I patented-to outstanding results.

It was an honest mistake. Stuff happens. You really should be much more concerned with your child's poor behavior. Seems as if you're looking for a diversion.

Please give yourself a PAT ON THE BACK PP.

OP, I would be pissed.
Write the principal. I would be concerned about privacy breech.

[Anonymous]

meant breach.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

NP here.

I've always felt very strongly that parents should be more concerned about their children's behavior than trying to manage (educated, gainfully employed---which is where you want your child to be someday) adults. This view governed the way I patented-to outstanding results.

It was an honest mistake. Stuff happens. You really should be much more concerned with your child's poor behavior. Seems as if you're looking for a diversion.

Please give yourself a PAT ON THE BACK PP.

OP, I would be pissed.
Write the principal. I would be concerned about privacy breech.

Agree that PP was over the top.

[Anonymous]

I would have expected that, when that person realized his/her mistake, she should have told you and apologized. Not just resend as if nothing had happened.
I would mention this to him/her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was in exactly this situation except I was the parent inadvertently receiving the email. I immediately let the sender know and that I would be deleting the email and treating the contents as confidential. This happened many years ago and I have never revealed the contents to another soul. OP, do not tell your son and let it go -- nothing you can do about it.

Were the contents juicy? It's anonymous here, spill it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have expected that, when that person realized his/her mistake, she should have told you and apologized. Not just resend as if nothing had happened.
I would mention this to him/her.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have expected that, when that person realized his/her mistake, she should have told you and apologized. Not just resend as if nothing had happened.
I would mention this to him/her.

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plus the Principal needs to send an email to you , your DH, and the other mom stating the email was sent in error and that he/she expects the other mom to keep the information in confidence.

[Anonymous]

I think that it could be problematic that your husband forwards sensitive, personal information like this to your work e-mail.

[Anonymous]

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I think that it could be problematic that your husband forwards sensitive, personal information like this to your work e-mail.

I own my own business.