School sent email to another parent about my son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a huge mess up on their part, but the damage is done. Unless you can somehow prove malice I really don't think you have a recourse. But that wouldn't stop me from raising all kinds of hell just to make sure it doesn't happen again.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

Nope, we have regsitered and paid for next year.

means nothing

My kids have been in both settings. Plenty of parents paid for the following year and registered - only to see little Joey get the boot mid-year. If your son has issues the school can't handle, private is under NO obligation to service him.

That "breach of privacy" is probably the least of your issues, honey.

Exactly. If the principal and not your teen's teachers are emailing you, take that as a sign that they are documenting as a reason to get rid of you.


Fear not, he won't be going anywhere. I guarantee it.

Making this into a big deal isn't going to help your cause if you want your teen to stay at this school.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Quite frankly, you just sound crazy.


"If I did this at work, heads would roll." Then, " I own my own business." So, you'd fire yourself if you did this at work?

Everything you've written makes you sound hysterical and PITA. I'm with the group that says the school is probably trying to get rid of you and your son. I suggest counseling for both of ou, because your reactions to people on this thread suggest that you have some serious issues, which have probably affected your son, too.

[Anonymous]

if my son's privacy wasn't already breached I would post about what happened. these issues are truly small. personality clashes between groups. with him making a dumb comment. the issues have been through out the course of the year.

honestly. not a huge deal.
flame away
he is being dealt with as he cannot be making dumb comments.

he is a top student. they would never get rid if him. I guarantee it.

You are deflecting and minimizing. By all means, let the school know how displeased you are that they sent the email to the wrong parent. But then focus on what is going on with your kid. You feel is is not a huge deal, the school obviously disagrees, so if you want him to continue there, you've got to get on board with addressing it as the serious issue they view it as.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Quite frankly, you just sound crazy.


"If I did this at work, heads would roll." Then, " I own my own business." So, you'd fire yourself if you did this at work?

Everything you've written makes you sound hysterical and PITA. I'm with the group that says the school is probably trying to get rid of you and your son. I suggest counseling for both of ou, because your reactions to people on this thread suggest that you have some serious issues, which have probably affected your son, too.

+1,000,000. OP,can complain to the principal all she wants but I doubt he'll care -- doesn't' sound like a valued family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I would reach out to the principal and say that you noticed that she inadvertently sent your email to the other mother. I'd request that she reach out to the other parent (incorrect recipient) to ask that she respect your family's privacy.

We all make mistakes, but she should have acknowledged hers to you. Still, I'd be low key about it and just have her try to undo some of the damage.

This. Just this.
Then turn inward and make the changes you need to make at home.
ANd my guess is there is no real confidentiality breach. Officially yes; but practically - probably not. No doubt folks have talked.

[Anonymous]

I'm a teacher and emailed the wrong parent once. The parents and students all had very similar names and I didn't catch the auto fill. It was about missing homework and a low test grade. I felt so horrible and sent an apology. What else could I do? It was a mistake and has never happened again.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

NP here.

I've always felt very strongly that parents should be more concerned about their children's behavior than trying to manage (educated, gainfully employed---which is where you want your child to be someday) adults. This view governed the way I patented-to outstanding results.

It was an honest mistake. Stuff happens. You really should be much more concerned with your child's poor behavior. Seems as if you're looking for a diversion.

OP already said she would be dealing with her son's issues. I don't see this as her looking for a diversion. The problem with what the principal did is he or she didn't even acknowledge the mistake or say what corrective action should be taken. The principal clearly knows there was a mistake, hence the subsequent email to OP. An email to the other parent from the principal requesting discretion is in order. OP should be told whether or not this was done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP,

Quite frankly, you just sound crazy.


"If I did this at work, heads would roll." Then, " I own my own business." So, you'd fire yourself if you did this at work?

Everything you've written makes you sound hysterical and PITA. I'm with the group that says the school is probably trying to get rid of you and your son. I suggest counseling for both of ou, because your reactions to people on this thread suggest that you have some serious issues, which have probably affected your son, too.

+1,000,000. OP,can complain to the principal all she wants but I doubt he'll care -- doesn't' sound like a valued family.

I find this statement appalling. Why would anyone write something like this? Say what you want about OP, but you come off sounding way worse that she does.