School sent email to another parent about my son

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's a mistake, it happens, I would focus on my DC and try to forget. Easier said than done!

This. Sorry, but mistakes happen.

So ignore the mistake? Really?

Yep! It was a mistake.

She is hoping I don't notice.

[Anonymous]

I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

[Anonymous]

OP here, if course I don't want her fired.

[Anonymous]

I think I would just respond to the teacher and say, 'Please take care in sending emails to the correct parents, since they can contain sensitive information.'

- PP that asked if she owned up to it. (As they say, it's not the crime, it's the cover up!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would just respond to the teacher and say, 'Please take care in sending emails to the correct parents, since they can contain sensitive information.'

- PP that asked if she owned up to it. (As they say, it's not the crime, it's the cover up!)

Great advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think I would just respond to the teacher and say, 'Please take care in sending emails to the correct parents, since they can contain sensitive information.'

- PP that asked if she owned up to it. (As they say, it's not the crime, it's the cover up!)

Great advice.

I like that.

[Anonymous]

I was in exactly this situation except I was the parent inadvertently receiving the email. I immediately let the sender know and that I would be deleting the email and treating the contents as confidential. This happened many years ago and I have never revealed the contents to another soul. OP, do not tell your son and let it go -- nothing you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would just respond to the teacher and say, 'Please take care in sending emails to the correct parents, since they can contain sensitive information.'

Agree with this. I actually was the recipient of a note about another child's behavior wrongly sent home to me. I just sent it back to the teacher with a note saying, we seemed to receive this in error. I understood it was a mistake & didn't betray the 'confidence' implied by the situation -- and hopefully most other parent will be understanding & act responsibly if they received something clearly in error.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I would just respond to the teacher and say, 'Please take care in sending emails to the correct parents, since they can contain sensitive information.'

- PP that asked if she owned up to it. (As they say, it's not the crime, it's the cover up!)

I would forward her the mail from your husband, since it will show that other parent's email address. I would also probably be a bit passive-aggressive and say "I know you already realize that you sent it to someone else, since you subsequently resent it to me, but" and then the reminder about being careful and asking her to ask the other parent to keep it confidential. I'd be annoyed that she didn't fess up and apologize about the error.

[Anonymous]

first I wouldn't tell the kid.

If the email itself requires a response or an acknowledgement about your son, send that, you or DH.

then, considering the cover-up and lack of honest dealings on part of the principal, I'd deal with that. I'd start by forwarding the email your DH forwarded to you (that shows the mistake) to the principal and your DH and asking how she has addressed the privacy violation with the other parent. Handle this in a separate mail than the one dealing with the actual problem--change the subject line, for example. My goal would be 1. an apology to me 2. an email from principal to other parent acknowledging the mistake, apologizing and asking for discretion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's a mistake, it happens, I would focus on my DC and try to forget. Easier said than done!

You wouldn't even let her know that you are concerned? I Doubt that.

I'm never ever complain about the school or teachers. But this has us upset.

Not that PP, but I probably would not even mention it. We know the school realized the mistake because they resent the e-mail. And the author is probably embarrassed. I just don't see why its worth going any further.

To be clear, I DO understand why you're upset about it. And I would be upset too. But I can't see the value of yelling at anyone about it or demanding some sort of additional remedial action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

NP here.

I've always felt very strongly that parents should be more concerned about their children's behavior than trying to manage (educated, gainfully employed---which is where you want your child to be someday) adults. This view governed the way I patented-to outstanding results.

It was an honest mistake. Stuff happens. You really should be much more concerned with your child's poor behavior. Seems as if you're looking for a diversion.