School sent email to another parent about my son

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Anonymous wrote:
I think that it could be problematic that your husband forwards sensitive, personal information like this to your work e-mail.

Wow, your are really grasping at straws.

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They have to pay for the horrible mistake.

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This is tricky. Mistakes happen and I think many of us have forwarded or sent emails to a person whom they were not intended for. I think, I would initially be pissed off, too. Do you know the other parent? Do they know your son? One can only hope that this person deletes the mail and keep the information discreet, but you never know.

I think, I would approach the teacher via email or even set up a quick conference in person, let her know your concerns and ask what she suggests should happen. Acknowledge the issues with your son and make sure that she knows that you are not trying to distract from your son's issues in class, but you are concerned about the privacy of your son.

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Anonymous wrote:It's a mistake, it happens, I would focus on my DC and try to forget. Easier said than done!

+1

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However what she emailed me about, was stuff that happened over the last few months. The thing that happened today, was really minor and actually I feel she was out of line even emailing me about that but I'm not going to say anything about that.

Not looking for a diversion.

Ok, what happened re the email being sent to the wrong parent is obviously a very bad mistake, and I can understand why you are upset about it. But your statement that she is "out of line" emailing you about unacceptable behavior, which you construe as minor, after you say that there has been other unacceptable behavior over a period of a "few months," is really unreasonable.

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It's hard to explain without explaining. So, think what you want.

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I might email the other parent, cc'ing the principal, and tell them you see that an email about your child was sent to them in error and you hope that they will delete/keep it confidential.

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Anonymous wrote:It was a mistake. I'm sure the teacher is upset about it. No need to get her fired. Focus your energy on your kid.

Plus 1

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely a huge mess up on their part, but the damage is done. Unless you can somehow prove malice I really don't think you have a recourse. But that wouldn't stop me from raising all kinds of hell just to make sure it doesn't happen again.

Can you tell me what you would do?
I'm thinking of emailing her and the other principal ( he sort of oversees her) and letting them know I'm not happy his private info was shared with another parent. It's a privacy breach.


If I did this at my work, heads would roll.

It had his first and last name in it and everything.
Also, would you let your teen know this happened?

This is not a 'privacy breach'. It's an honest mistake. And it's your son that you should be seeking advice on. We're talking a TEEN here--as well as ongoing issues. Yeah, I'd say your priorities are screwed.

Other posters have alluded to the fact that this is a private school. They don't have to deal with you or your child's behavior. I'd let it drop before you and your son find yourselves out of educational options.

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PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

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OP, I would reach out to the principal and say that you noticed that she inadvertently sent your email to the other mother. I'd request that she reach out to the other parent (incorrect recipient) to ask that she respect your family's privacy.

We all make mistakes, but she should have acknowledged hers to you. Still, I'd be low key about it and just have her try to undo some of the damage.

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I'd probably email the principal with the email to the other mom and my husband below it and asks why this private email was sent to Mrs. X and was she planning on doing anything to ensure Mrs. X kept the matters disclosed private?

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Anonymous wrote:PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

Nope, we have regsitered and paid for next year.

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Anonymous wrote:PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

Nope, we have regsitered and paid for next year.

Doesn't mean they can't or aren't planning to give him the boot before fall.

Again, you seem to focus on the small stuff. The real issue is your child's behavior. No I wouldn't be thrilled about the error either, but it is just that-and not your family's real issue.

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Call the principal who made the mistake and indicate that you would like a phone call, instead of an email in the future, so this doesn't happen again. Keep in mind that my kids talk about what other kids do in the classroom (and certainly not about their behavior in the classroom so that information is able to get out anyway. Then, focus on the issue at hand, your son's behavior. The other mother will or won't keep it confidential based on her value system. Unlikely a call or email asking her to do so will help and might just inflame her if it is taken as you are not trusted to keep this confidential on your own without this request.