School sent email to another parent about my son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

Nope, we have regsitered and paid for next year.

means nothing

My kids have been in both settings. Plenty of parents paid for the following year and registered - only to see little Joey get the boot mid-year. If your son has issues the school can't handle, private is under NO obligation to service him.

That "breach of privacy" is probably the least of your issues, honey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

Nope, we have regsitered and paid for next year.

Doesn't mean they can't or aren't planning to give him the boot before fall.

Again, you seem to focus on the small stuff. The real issue is your child's behavior. No I wouldn't be thrilled about the error either, but it is just that-and not your family's real issue.

you assume I'm not dealing with my son because I am not posting about it.
I know exactly what to do with him and thus do not require advice on that.

[Anonymous]

if my son's privacy wasn't already breached I would post about what happened. these issues are truly small. personality clashes between groups. with him making a dumb comment. the issues have been through out the course of the year.

honestly. not a huge deal.
flame away
he is being dealt with as he cannot be making dumb comments.

he is a top student. they would never get rid if him. I guarantee it.

[Anonymous]

If it's all so small and inconsequential then who cares? Other mom probably already has been told by her kid your son is a jerk who makes dumb comments.

[Anonymous]

OP, what do you want? People have given you plenty of good advice here. It seems like an honest mistake.

You are entitled to:

1) an apology for the error
2) having someone reach out to the other parent and request their cooperation in keeping sensitive information sensitive
3) a better process for communication that will ensure your child's privacy in the future.

What else do you need to feel whole? It sounds like your child is having ongoing problems at the school, so there's probably plenty of work there for you, your child and the school without belaboring this email situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what do you want? People have given you plenty of good advice here. It seems like an honest mistake.

You are entitled to:

1) an apology for the error
2) having someone reach out to the other parent and request their cooperation in keeping sensitive information private
3) a better process for communication that will ensure your child's privacy in the future.

What else do you need to feel whole? It sounds like your child is having ongoing problems at the school, so there's probably plenty of work there for you, your child and the school without belaboring this email situation.

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[Anonymous]

The other mother is probably happy that the school is dealing with your child's behavior. Win-win, I say.

[Anonymous]

Any protected health info? I'd sue and settle for free tuition until graduation.

[Anonymous]

I would ask the principal to make sure the other parent says nothing about the email that they saw. The principal owes you an apology and damage control.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

You can be pissed that it happened and still realize that mistakes happen genius!
And it is a common mistake !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any protected health info? I'd sue and settle for free tuition until graduation.

This kind of thinking is what is wrong with our society.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be Very Unhappy but not to the point to try to get someone fired or anything like that. But you should absolutely let them know that this bothers you and is unacceptable so that they are more careful in the future.


And I say this as someone who sent the wrong email to a person at work and it was just awful. It sure would have been nice if they had just said, "Oh well, mistakes happen, let it go" but they didn't and I don't blame them. It was pointed out to me, my boss was pissed, and I made DAMN sure never to do it again.

But then there are all the posters who says "oh well mistakes happen ". Bet they wouldn't say that if that was their child.

Yeah, I'm suspecting some pretty big hypocrisy here.

NP here.

I've always felt very strongly that parents should be more concerned about their children's behavior than trying to manage (educated, gainfully employed---which is where you want your child to be someday) adults. This view governed the way I patented-to outstanding results.

It was an honest mistake. Stuff happens. You really should be much more concerned with your child's poor behavior. Seems as if you're looking for a diversion.

No diversion, my son does have a diagnosis which I won't get into. However what she emailed me about, was stuff that happened over the last few months. The thing that happened today, was really minor and actually I feel she was out of line even emailing me about that but I'm not going to say anything about that.

Not looking for a diversion.

You proved the other pp's point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any protected health info? I'd sue and settle for free tuition until graduation.

This

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any protected health info? I'd sue and settle for free tuition until graduation.

This

You have to prove damages.

You have never received email meant for someone else? I have from a lawyer, educational consultant, my neighbor, etc. I am surprised it does not happen more often. A click on the wrong name in the address book and boom. I ignore emails when it's obvious it is meant for someone else although in the case of the lawyer, I had to explain to another person who also received the group email that it was obviously sent in error.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PS: Ongoing issues...Is your son one foot out the door? Is the principal building a case for an expulsion by docunending his behavior & contacts with you in writing? Is this why you're trying to divert the real issue? I find it telling that it is the principal-not a teacher-reaching out.

Nope, we have regsitered and paid for next year.

means nothing

My kids have been in both settings. Plenty of parents paid for the following year and registered - only to see little Joey get the boot mid-year. If your son has issues the school can't handle, private is under NO obligation to service him.

That "breach of privacy" is probably the least of your issues, honey.

Exactly. If the principal and not your teen's teachers are emailing you, take that as a sign that they are documenting as a reason to get rid of you.

Making this into a big deal isn't going to help your cause if you want your teen to stay at this school.