Chevy Chase Club to Parents: Your kids are brats

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These children are clearly gifted and brilliant! All bad behavior in DC is dismissed as a sign of intelligence.

(I know this because a CC friend inferred that my son wasn't bright because he is well behaved and polite.)

This is a common theme on DCUM too -- kids who misbehave in the W schools (and BCC) do so because they are bored in class, ie, the kids are gifted.

Well, the other common theme on DCUM is disbelief that kids can be bored in class or gifted. It absolutely does not excuse bad behavior, but many of us have well-behaved kids who are nonetheless bored and/or gifted. Signed, mom of kid who never gets in trouble and is miserably bored in school.

I have been in D.C. long enough to know that people in D.C. are pretty stupid. Low EQ does NOT equal high IQ - but D.C. people are too stupid to realize.

Ok, but not relevant to PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These children are clearly gifted and brilliant! All bad behavior in DC is dismissed as a sign of intelligence.

(I know this because a CC friend inferred that my son wasn't bright because he is well behaved and polite.)

This is a common theme on DCUM too -- kids who misbehave in the W schools (and BCC) do so because they are bored in class, ie, the kids are gifted.

Well, the other common theme on DCUM is disbelief that kids can be bored in class or gifted. It absolutely does not excuse bad behavior, but many of us have well-behaved kids who are nonetheless bored and/or gifted. Signed, mom of kid who never gets in trouble and is miserably bored in school.

Everyone is bored at school. Your child isn't unique. I have never read that children aren't bored or gifted. Bad behavior is not a sign of intelligence. If it was then kids in certain failing schools in DC would be scoring better on standardized tests. Rich people see their children's bad behavior as intelligence but poor kids' bad behavior is proof of criminality.

No, my child isn't unique, but definitely not true that everyone is bored at school. Totally agree with you that bad behavior is not a sign of intelligence. And I agree that rich people around here don't expect their children to behave respectfully, which makes no sense. But I have seen -- PLENTY -- on DCUM that if you say your kid is bored in school (NOT as an excuse for bad behavior, just is bored) you are slammed with a hammer. Same with "gifted" (a word I never use, because it's such a third rail).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These children are clearly gifted and brilliant! All bad behavior in DC is dismissed as a sign of intelligence.

(I know this because a CC friend inferred that my son wasn't bright because he is well behaved and polite.)

This is a common theme on DCUM too -- kids who misbehave in the W schools (and BCC) do so because they are bored in class, ie, the kids are gifted.

Well, the other common theme on DCUM is disbelief that kids can be bored in class or gifted. It absolutely does not excuse bad behavior, but many of us have well-behaved kids who are nonetheless bored and/or gifted. Signed, mom of kid who never gets in trouble and is miserably bored in school.

Everyone is bored at school. Your child isn't unique. I have never read that children aren't bored or gifted. Bad behavior is not a sign of intelligence. If it was then kids in certain failing schools in DC would be scoring better on standardized tests. Rich people see their children's bad behavior as intelligence but poor kids' bad behavior is proof of criminality.

No, my child isn't unique, but definitely not true that everyone is bored at school. Totally agree with you that bad behavior is not a sign of intelligence. And I agree that rich people around here don't expect their children to behave respectfully, which makes no sense. But I have seen -- PLENTY -- on DCUM that if you say your kid is bored in school (NOT as an excuse for bad behavior, just is bored) you are slammed with a hammer. Same with "gifted" (a word I never use, because it's such a third rail).

Uh yes, after I posted this someone chimed in stating that. Lol. I stand corrected! My apologies! I think this has become a touchy subject for me because I was insulted that a "friend" would say that about my son. There is not a dearth of bitches in CC that's for sure!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These children are clearly gifted and brilliant! All bad behavior in DC is dismissed as a sign of intelligence.

(I know this because a CC friend inferred that my son wasn't bright because he is well behaved and polite.)

This is a common theme on DCUM too -- kids who misbehave in the W schools (and BCC) do so because they are bored in class, ie, the kids are gifted.

Well, the other common theme on DCUM is disbelief that kids can be bored in class or gifted. It absolutely does not excuse bad behavior, but many of us have well-behaved kids who are nonetheless bored and/or gifted. Signed, mom of kid who never gets in trouble and is miserably bored in school.

Everyone is bored at school. Your child isn't unique. I have never read that children aren't bored or gifted. Bad behavior is not a sign of intelligence. If it was then kids in certain failing schools in DC would be scoring better on standardized tests. Rich people see their children's bad behavior as intelligence but poor kids' bad behavior is proof of criminality.

No, my child isn't unique, but definitely not true that everyone is bored at school. Totally agree with you that bad behavior is not a sign of intelligence. And I agree that rich people around here don't expect their children to behave respectfully, which makes no sense. But I have seen -- PLENTY -- on DCUM that if you say your kid is bored in school (NOT as an excuse for bad behavior, just is bored) you are slammed with a hammer. Same with "gifted" (a word I never use, because it's such a third rail).

Uh yes, after I posted this someone chimed in stating that. Lol. I stand corrected! My apologies! I think this has become a touchy subject for me because I was insulted that a "friend" would say that about my son. There is not a dearth of bitches in CC that's for sure!

I'd be insulted by that too. And definitely true about CC and mean girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After spending my weekend at a vacation home next to a wealthy family with kids who don't include mine b/c their daddy doesn't make enough $, I thank you.

Sorry, but not buying this. How would the kids next door know?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OK, I think this is the time to tell an anecdote of the last time I was at Chevy.


I grew up going there and was recently home visiting my parents for Christmas (I live in Los Angeles now)

I went to the bathroom and while in there a group of young girls were milling around, playing with the hairbrushes and kind of joking with each other. I noticed that one of the girls seemed kind of bossy, but thought nothing of it when I walked up to wash my hands.

The bossy one came up to me and asked how old I was.

Thinking they were sweet little girls, I gave them and a big smile and told them my age, 26.

The girl immediately glared at me and informed me that I dont look 26, I look like a teenager. (This was not intended as a compliment, I can assure you)

This seemed to break some kind of onslaught, and as I dried my hands, one of them shouted at me that she hated my dress.

It was really SO bizarre, and I kind of wanted to say something back, or tell them that they were being completely out of line. But then I realized that I was genuinely thinking of insulting a bunch of ten year olds, so I didn't do it.

BUT I dont think I've ever been so appalled by the behavior of kids. It was really strange.

As I walked away from the bathroom I could hear them saying stuff to a woman who had walked in.

It was pretty gross, like Mean Girls Chevy Edition.

If that's what the kids are like now, I'm glad Chevy is doing something.

What a crazy story! You were way more easy-going than I would have been. I would have busted them big time. but then I'm old (44) and have zero tolerance for lip from kids.

Afterwards I literally felt like I had been attacked, like I had been bullied. It was only after I got to my seat that I realized how egregious it was. I told my parents and thought about complaining to a manager, but in all honesty, most of those kids have parents that would argue with the manager, try to turn it back on me, and probably the kids wouldn't have gotten punished AT ALL.

Anyway, I admit I walked back to the bathroom about a half hour after it happened (and after drinking some wine) fully intending to break it down for them if they tried it again, but they were gone. It was definitely bizarre, like out of Children of the Corn.

[Anonymous]

I can't be the only one who initially thought the whole thing was satire, like an Onion article.
Are we surprised that CC kids are brats?

[Anonymous]

At 16:35, you are probably right. Cue CC mom "but her dress WAS ugly!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I think this is the time to tell an anecdote of the last time I was at Chevy.


I grew up going there and was recently home visiting my parents for Christmas (I live in Los Angeles now)

I went to the bathroom and while in there a group of young girls were milling around, playing with the hairbrushes and kind of joking with each other. I noticed that one of the girls seemed kind of bossy, but thought nothing of it when I walked up to wash my hands.

The bossy one came up to me and asked how old I was.

Thinking they were sweet little girls, I gave them and a big smile and told them my age, 26.

The girl immediately glared at me and informed me that I dont look 26, I look like a teenager. (This was not intended as a compliment, I can assure you)

This seemed to break some kind of onslaught, and as I dried my hands, one of them shouted at me that she hated my dress.

It was really SO bizarre, and I kind of wanted to say something back, or tell them that they were being completely out of line. But then I realized that I was genuinely thinking of insulting a bunch of ten year olds, so I didn't do it.

BUT I dont think I've ever been so appalled by the behavior of kids. It was really strange.

As I walked away from the bathroom I could hear them saying stuff to a woman who had walked in.

It was pretty gross, like Mean Girls Chevy Edition.

If that's what the kids are like now, I'm glad Chevy is doing something.

What a crazy story! You were way more easy-going than I would have been. I would have busted them big time. but then I'm old (44) and have zero tolerance for lip from kids.

Curious: How would you have handled it?

[Anonymous]

People who expect their kids to become doctors and lawyers know that their kids need to behave well, be polite, and conform to social norms.

One percenters who operate in the corporate world have a different viewpoint. They want kids who are risk takers and who won't take guff. They want a kid who sees a grade of "B" on a test paper as an initial negotiating point.

Many country clubs used to be populated by the former group, and, increasingly only the latter, the new money, can afford the fees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I think this is the time to tell an anecdote of the last time I was at Chevy.


I grew up going there and was recently home visiting my parents for Christmas (I live in Los Angeles now)

I went to the bathroom and while in there a group of young girls were milling around, playing with the hairbrushes and kind of joking with each other. I noticed that one of the girls seemed kind of bossy, but thought nothing of it when I walked up to wash my hands.

The bossy one came up to me and asked how old I was.

Thinking they were sweet little girls, I gave them and a big smile and told them my age, 26.

The girl immediately glared at me and informed me that I dont look 26, I look like a teenager. (This was not intended as a compliment, I can assure you)

This seemed to break some kind of onslaught, and as I dried my hands, one of them shouted at me that she hated my dress.

It was really SO bizarre, and I kind of wanted to say something back, or tell them that they were being completely out of line. But then I realized that I was genuinely thinking of insulting a bunch of ten year olds, so I didn't do it.

BUT I dont think I've ever been so appalled by the behavior of kids. It was really strange.

As I walked away from the bathroom I could hear them saying stuff to a woman who had walked in.

It was pretty gross, like Mean Girls Chevy Edition.

If that's what the kids are like now, I'm glad Chevy is doing something.

What a crazy story! You were way more easy-going than I would have been. I would have busted them big time. but then I'm old (44) and have zero tolerance for lip from kids.

Curious: How would you have handled it?

NP here, but about the same age. Had I been in this situation, I would have walked up to the girl who told me she hated my dress, looked her right in the eye and said, EXCUSE ME? WHAT WAS THAT COMMENT? And I would have stood there, right in front of her, until I received an answer.

[Anonymous]

^ See, this is what I would like to think I would do, but wouldn't think of it until later. Like George Costanza and the jerk-store comment.

[Anonymous]

^I dont think that would have worked. It was a group of them, they were super vocal, and again- really entitled. The idea of them getting in trouble or feeling shamed is not one they are acquainted with.

I turned around and ignored them as I washed my hands, which I think annoyed them, as they were looking for a reaction, and that's when they started shouting about my dress (which was a gorgeous black silk dress, if I do say so myself, and totally unworthy of nasty comments).

It was almost like feral children. Totally out of control.

[Anonymous]

a chevy mom obnoxiously asked our MS director at a coffee when they would start leveling language classes because her DD was so bored and was forced to do math homework to keep her self entertained and not disruptive in class and that the teacher was horrible. It was SO rude and entitled and not the appropriate venue. Also her DD is terrible at language (I speak fluently) and has a bad accent. Maybe if she paid attention in class she wouldn't be so bored. Like mother like daughter, both are complete brats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who expect their kids to become doctors and lawyers know that their kids need to behave well, be polite, and conform to social norms.

One percenters who operate in the corporate world have a different viewpoint. They want kids who are risk takers and who won't take guff. They want a kid who sees a grade of "B" on a test paper as an initial negotiating point.

Many country clubs used to be populated by the former group, and, increasingly only the latter, the new money, can afford the fees.

This is very true. It's also the case at the private schools.