Why do you call it "spanking" when it is "hitting"?

[Anonymous]

Spanking is on the ass
Slapping is across the face
Smacking is up side the heat
Beating is a combination of them all

All of them are hitting, but it is hard to get a full picture with the word hit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:After reading through these forums and seeing the pride that so many take from hitting their children, I'm really curious about this.

You are hitting your children. Why not own it?

So they can sleep at night. It's hitting, straight up. If a spouse did it to them they'd be arrested

If a spouse continually behaved in a manner that I didn't like, I'd probably divorce the spouse. I can't divorce my kids. I think it's stupid logic to equate children to adults. One adult is not responsible for another adult; we don't have the same expectations of a child as we do an adult. I don't teach my spouse how to behave or make him do his work. I do all those things to my kids.

If I don't feed my spouse (unless incapacitated) I won't get arrested. I would get arrested if I didn't feed my child. I won't get arrested if I don't make my spouse go to work; I would if I don't make my kid go to school. I can go and on. Just bad logic.

Which is precisely the reason children should be protected from being hit. They are helpless.

You must be the same poster on that other thread about spanking. You've tried to use the same logic in that other thread.

Yes, kids are helpless to some degree, but kids also need to be disciplined. For some kids, taking away privileges works fine; for others, it doesn't. Every kid is different. Until you've parented every child on this earth, I don't think you are in any position to mandate how people should parent.

I think most people understand the difference between abuse and spanking, and the PP said it best, when you equate spanking to abuse, you are belittling real abuse. To equate a smack on the bottom of an 8 yr old with his clothes on with beating of a child with a bat is an insult to both kids.

Think about the case of the parent in Silver Spring who were investigated for child neglect for letting their kids walk home alone from the park. What some called neglect, others called free-range parenting. I think some parents have swung too far to the left in how kids should be treated and disciplined. This is going to produce a generation of bratty kids who don't know how to deal when they things don't go their way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're arguing against the English language. You won't win.

You hit your children, what's so hard to accept?

They're two different words, with two different meanings. Who's having difficulty with acceptance?

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Why do you call it "asking" when it is "trolling"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you call it "asking" when it is "trolling"?

LOL! And with that, good night and good luck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you call it a shot when it is stabbing?

This is excellent.

A shot is a type of stabbing.

Spanking is a type of hitting. It sounds cute but it is still hitting.

[Anonymous]

Hitting is the general term. Spanking is a form of hitting, usually used as a consequence/punishment. The connotations are different though they are obviously related words.

[Anonymous]

We are a literate society and words have meanings. They mean things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After reading through these forums and seeing the pride that so many take from hitting their children, I'm really curious about this.

You are hitting your children. Why not own it?

Just to piss you off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did I really just read the words "calm and loving spanking"?

Np. If spanking is done properl, this is what it is.

Oh geez, no.

All of these threads about spanking have been really disappointing (in that I can't believe people think like the Np above, but apparently a lot of you really do). Spanking is physical aggression against a smaller, weaker human. What is loving about that? And I guess I can't wrap my head around why you'd do it. Have I had the urge to in extreme moments of frustration? Of course. But I wouldn't actually do it. At what point is the line between "calm and loving" and what some PPs have called "actual abuse"? It's a slippery slope. To me saying it's OK because it's somehow "loving" is justifying poor behavior on the part of adults (it's not abuse because I didn't hit him that hard - it was just a gentle spanking, with an open hand, etc.).

So I agree with OP - if you're Ok with spanking, then acknowledge it for what it is (hitting!), and own it. Don't fall back on bizarre justifications like it's "calm and loving."

[Anonymous]

I've spanked (hit if OP insists on it) both of my children. When they have run into the street without looking, when my DD was hyper and in invaded an aggressive dog's space, and my DS when he tried to lean over our banister way too far and almost flipped over it. I use slamming, very deliberately, to surprise and shock the kids to alert them to immediate danger. I have never spanked a child when I was angry, and it has always benn intentional. Always Palm open an just enough to startle them. I see absolute nothing wrong with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've spanked (hit if OP insists on it) both of my children. When they have run into the street without looking, when my DD was hyper and in invaded an aggressive dog's space, and my DS when he tried to lean over our banister way too far and almost flipped over it. I use slamming, very deliberately, to surprise and shock the kids to alert them to immediate danger. I have never spanked a child when I was angry, and it has always benn intentional. Always Palm open an just enough to startle them. I see absolute nothing wrong with this.

"Slamming" should have read "spanking"!

[Anonymous]

Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Exactly my point. It seems that the word is so offensive the hitters have to pull out the dictionary and "prove" they aren't really hitting their kids. But that is what they are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Exactly my point. It seems that the word is so offensive the hitters have to pull out the dictionary and "prove" they aren't really hitting their kids. But that is what they are doing.

And notice how the hitters feel compelled to separate "beating" from "spanking"? Hitting a child in any way produces a psychological terror, the degree of it isn't nearly as damaging as the act of doing it.