Why do you call it "spanking" when it is "hitting"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought the intention of spanking is to overpower someone who is helpless. That's my definition of hitting, too.

?? No, that is not the intent of spanking. Get educated before judging people.

[Anonymous]

Hitting is to strike with the intention to hurt. Spanking is to strike with the intention of getting a kids attention through surprise. 2 light swats on diaper covered buttocks don't hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hitting is to strike with the intention to hurt. Spanking is to strike with the intention of getting a kids attention through surprise. 2 light swats on diaper covered buttocks don't hurt.

"Swats"? You mean hitting?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Exactly my point. It seems that the word is so offensive the hitters have to pull out the dictionary and "prove" they aren't really hitting their kids. But that is what they are doing.

And notice how the hitters feel compelled to separate "beating" from "spanking"? Hitting a child in any way produces a psychological terror, the degree of it isn't nearly as damaging as the act of doing it.

I don't spank and I feel compelled to separate beating from spanking. Because I believe that words have meanings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Exactly my point. It seems that the word is so offensive the hitters have to pull out the dictionary and "prove" they aren't really hitting their kids. But that is what they are doing.

And notice how the hitters feel compelled to separate "beating" from "spanking"? Hitting a child in any way produces a psychological terror, the degree of it isn't nearly as damaging as the act of doing it.

I don't spank and I feel compelled to separate beating from spanking. Because I believe that words have meanings.

Me too. I also believe spanking is only swatting on the butt. Hitting to me implies the full-force of the hitter, whereas spanking doesn't mean an adult is putting all their weight into a hit.

I don't spank. I also was a CPS and investigated a lot of beatings. While I disagree with spanking, there is no way a swat on the butt can be equated to what I saw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

OK, that's fine. I own it. There are times when my kids' misbehavior or defiance leads to me putting them over my knee and hitting their bottoms. What else do you want to hear?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hitting is to strike with the intention to hurt. Spanking is to strike with the intention of getting a kids attention through surprise. 2 light swats on diaper covered buttocks don't hurt.

"Swats"? You mean hitting?

NP here. I've noticed from these threads that people who hit their kids love to hide behind euphemisms like "swat," "pop," "tap," etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Spanking is on butt only and the force is controlled. Hitting is much broader term.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Spanking is on butt only and the force is controlled. Hitting is much broader term.

This.

Really, OP just doesn't agree with spanking, and that's perfectly fine. Not everyone is going to parent the same way. But to pretend that she's found some logical inconsistency or hypocrisy is ludicrous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Exactly my point. It seems that the word is so offensive the hitters have to pull out the dictionary and "prove" they aren't really hitting their kids. But that is what they are doing.

And notice how the hitters feel compelled to separate "beating" from "spanking"? Hitting a child in any way produces a psychological terror, the degree of it isn't nearly as damaging as the act of doing it.

No. There is no evidence that suggest a handful of spankings in a child's lifetime produces psychological terror or lasting damaging effects.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unbelievable. You spanking parents seriously deny hitting your kids?! I had no idea...I am so anti spanking but that takes it to a new level. Hitting someone means forcefully bringing your hand towards any part of their body against the other persons will. That's what spanking is people. Wake up. Own it. You ARE hitting your children and if you can't even own that maybe you should re-think if spanking/hitting your child really is so very okay with you...since you can't even call it what it is.

Exactly my point. It seems that the word is so offensive the hitters have to pull out the dictionary and "prove" they aren't really hitting their kids. But that is what they are doing.

And notice how the hitters feel compelled to separate "beating" from "spanking"? Hitting a child in any way produces a psychological terror, the degree of it isn't nearly as damaging as the act of doing it.

No. There is no evidence that suggest a handful of spankings in a child's lifetime produces psychological terror or lasting damaging effects.

Would you be surprised to learn that you are dead wrong about that? And not through anecdotal stories, through peer-reviewed science?

http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx

[Anonymous]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-me-in-we/201202/how-spanking-harms-the-brain

[Anonymous]

And more evidence:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201309/research-spanking-it-s-bad-all-kids

[Anonymous]

people doing these studies are crusaders in the OP mold.

[Anonymous]

They have no control groups. That is not research. (np)