I haven't heard from my boyfriend since Friday night

[Anonymous]

Back off! Make him worry about YOU, honey! He should be worried about what you've been up to!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, I say this nicely but if you've been dating half a year and have no way to contact him outside a cell phone, maybe he's not as serious as you and just decided to take another day up in Maine.

OP here: I have Facebook too. How else should I be able to contact him? We are long distance and see eachother every 2-3 weekends so it's hard to get to know all of his family and friends when it's like this. He hasn't been active on FB since Thursday and I just messaged him on there too. Idk what else I can possibly do besides go and drive 4 hours up to his house which I don't think would be the best thing to do at the moment.

Damn, OP----you sound clingy. He's probably enjoying the peace and quiet away from you!

[Anonymous]

I don't think you are overreacting OP, but I don't think you should post on his FB yet. If he were missing, his family members would likely be trying to reach you via FB, since you are listed as his gf there, and the fact that they haven'tis a good sign as far as his safety goes. It's nerve wracking but I'd wait until tomorrow and see if he reaches out. I hope he does!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can almost guarantee there is a house phone and other family members who have contact with them. If something happened, someone would have reached out to you via Facebook.

I agree with this. I'm sure the uncle and grandfather have people expecting them back. If there was a problem someone would let you know.

[Anonymous]

I say own your worry, don't worry about 'scaring him off'. At the worst, something not good happened to him, at a minimum, he's inconsiderate and not worrying about keeping his commitments. And yes, saying he'll be back at a certain time and not contacting you is not keeping a commitment. Not a major one, but certainly an indicator. Find out one way or another, so you can get some sleep.

Do you really care if you look nuts to a person who doesn't give a shit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he went with his uncle and grandfather, do they have someone who'll be looking for them? Spouse, sibling, children? On Facebook?

Op here: yes, both are married. My concern was that they drove separate. His uncle and grandfather went up on Thursday morning and he went up Friday morning so he would have been driving the 9 hours back himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say own your worry, don't worry about 'scaring him off'. At the worst, something not good happened to him, at a minimum, he's inconsiderate and not worrying about keeping his commitments. And yes, saying he'll be back at a certain time and not contacting you is not keeping a commitment. Not a major one, but certainly an indicator. Find out one way or another, so you can get some sleep.

Do you really care if you look nuts to a person who doesn't give a shit?

+1

If he's just hanging out and leaving you to worry, do you want to be with him anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you are overreacting OP, but I don't think you should post on his FB yet. If he were missing, his family members would likely be trying to reach you via FB, since you are listed as his gf there, and the fact that they haven'tis a good sign as far as his safety goes. It's nerve wracking but I'd wait until tomorrow and see if he reaches out. I hope he does!

OP here: thank you. I haven't posted on his FB yet, just messaged him and his uncle saying I hope everything is ok and was just worried that I hadnt heard from him yet. I can understand why some may think I am over reacting but I am the one who knows him and this is NOT like him at all.
He will tell me he will text me at 6pm and will literally text me by 6:05pm the latest so the fact that he said he was gonna be home by 10pm the latest on Sunday and would reach out and it's now 10:30pm on Monday and I haven't heard from him and his phones still off, is concerning.

[Anonymous]

Have you emailed him?

[Anonymous]

If his uncle hasn't messaged you then clearly all of them are still there. IF there was an accident the uncle would have made it back safe and message you. If the uncle was caring for him he would be at a hospital with service and message you back to. Nothing points to foul play OP!

Pop some benzos and call a dr in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he went with his uncle and grandfather, do they have someone who'll be looking for them? Spouse, sibling, children? On Facebook?

Op here: yes, both are married. My concern was that they drove separate. His uncle and grandfather went up on Thursday morning and he went up Friday morning so he would have been driving the 9 hours back himself.

In that case I'd chill a bit. Presumably the spouses are tracking them and will raise the alarm if they don't come back as planned. It's only been a day - it's very likely they just extended the trip.

[Anonymous]

OP, bad news travels fast. If something were wrong, you'd know by now.

[Anonymous]

I had a boyfriend of several months after college who did this same thing. I mentioned in passing to someone I worked with that I hadn't heard from my boyfriend in x-number of days and they just said, "...and you still consider him your boyfriend?"

That was a dead-on response. He's just not into you, OP, but he's letting you know in no uncertain terms by this behavior. Consider it a blessing, as you now have permission to get back out there and find the one who is right for you. I've been married to mine for 15 years, now.

[Anonymous]

Stop chasing him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, I say this nicely but if you've been dating half a year and have no way to contact him outside a cell phone, maybe he's not as serious as you and just decided to take another day up in Maine.

Ditto.