My son left me a mean note, WWYD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, there's a new thread that's giving you a window into your future, should you allow this behavior to continue.

I saw it, and I see the results of these kids with no respect for anyone or themselves...not a pretty sight.

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I think it is great that he communicated his feelings to you. I would not want to shut that down, it is very important. But, you can brainstorm with him other ways to talk with you about his feelings. Help him learn how to express his feelings in a more productive fashion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this ALL THE TIME. I would just ignore it. They are allowed to express themselves.

I disagree I would bust some ass

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I would have a 'come to Jesus' meeting with him.

I had to do this once with my son and my reaction (verbal only) was so nuclear that he never did it again. Considering that we are very indulgent and loving parents = it was a complete shock to him. My DH would not have been able to be the strict parent, so I am glad that my DS tried it with me, and DH was not home to intervene!

Actually both my kids have tested the boundaries at least once in their lives. And they have been taught a good lesson only once too.

Parents, do not tolerate disrespect from your children. This is a cancer that only grows. Nip it in the bud.

BTW - my kids are now teens, and they are gems.

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Courtesy is owed.
Respect is earned.
Love is given.

Posted on our fridge. So stupid is unacceptable.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this ALL THE TIME. I would just ignore it. They are allowed to express themselves.

Yes!!! Of course!!! Let it go, OP.

Do you let your kids say mean things to other kids? Would you "let it go" if your child called another child stupid? Would you be upset if your child's friend put a note in his backpack telling him that he was stupid?

Kids are allowed to express themselves, but I hope that parents are teaching them that it's not okay to say hurtful things. The kid could have written a note that said, "I'm mad at you, Mommy," and I would have no problem with that. But name-calling is not okay in our house. Personally, I would tell the kid that I understand that he was mad and frustrated, but he needs to find a better way to express that, because what he did is not acceptable.

Your poor children.

I'm not the poster you responded to, but you actually find it ok to call a parent stupid? I let my children express themselves, but no insults aloud. They need to know that words do hurt feelings and that it is unacceptable to insult a parent.

[Anonymous]

I would say, "I didn't like your note".

Leave it at that. No more, no less.

[Anonymous]

My DD wrote a note like this to me. By then the storm had blown over, but I did talk with her about it.

And I kept the note. Because she misspelled stupid and I thought we'd look back on that a laugh. And we have.

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Am I the only mom that would think this was funny? I don't know, but if we're me, I wouldn't care about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only mom that would think this was funny? I don't know, but if we're me, I wouldn't care about it.

I was thinking the exact same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I just re-read your original post, OP. So your kid didn't actually hand you the note or ask you to read it, right? You just found it. So he wrote it but didn't know for sure if you'd read it. Well, that's kind of different, right? Maybe tell him he should dispose of things that aren't meant to be seen by others.

He left it on my desk where he knows I sit and work every day. He knew I'd see it. I'm definitely addressing it with him. The disrespect won't be tolerated.

[Anonymous]

1. Laugh at childish prank.
2. Summon child.
3. Frown at child and tell him off for writing something rude.
4. Require apology (complete sentence, eye contact, heartfelt tone).
5. When he's gone, laugh at childish prank again.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only mom that would think this was funny? I don't know, but if we're me, I wouldn't care about it.

I was thinking the exact same thing.

Phew, glad I'm not alone. But in our case, while ds knows that disrespect of his parents will not be tolerated (there is a time and place for everything), we have a silly relationship with lots of inside jokes and we both use humor to help us cope, so that's why a note like that might be viewed as a joke to me.

[Anonymous]

My kid tried this once. I told him I'd save it along with the special birthday cards and drawings he'd made me in the past. This caused him to freak out immediately, burst into years, and beg me not to keep it because he didn't mean it and loved me so much. We then had a heart to heart about the difference between having feelings (perfectly fine) and doing or saying unkind things while feeling those feelings (not fine). That's the last nasty note I got.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid tried this once. I told him I'd save it along with the special birthday cards and drawings he'd made me in the past. This caused him to freak out immediately, burst into years, and beg me not to keep it because he didn't mean it and loved me so much. We then had a heart to heart about the difference between having feelings (perfectly fine) and doing or saying unkind things while feeling those feelings (not fine). That's the last nasty note I got.

Now he just keeps those thought to his self.