Served my DH with divorce papers and he was stunned

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Anonymous wrote:To pp re: securing your money - there's really no way to hide assets. Everything will be traced back, tallied up and split. Unless she secretly siphoned off a little cash here and there, there's really no way to hide large amounts of money.

I don't think most people mean hiding money when they talk about securing assets. It's usually more about getting copies of all financial records and, if you don't have an income to support yourself, move a reasonable amount of money into a solo account (which you don't have to hide) so that your spouse can't immediately clean you when you tell them you're leaving.

Thanks- I'm the one who asked about this initially. I have absolutely no plans to divorce, I was just really curious since this always seems to come up in these kinds of discussions. This makes sense. Is there any recourse when you 1) secure your assets 2) serve divorce papers and 3) spouse goes crazy and mounts up debt? I guess that would all be traceable at that point. I have no idea why I'm curious about this. People do crazy things.

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Anonymous wrote:It amazes me how stupid men can be.

Enjoy your new life!

I agree. Who ever thought "until death do us part" really meant until death? C'mon now.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear that, OP.

But just remember: you picked him, and the one common denominator in your relationships is you. So try to figure out some things about yourself before getting involved with another person.

Oh, now you've done it. The DCUM harpies don't stand for personal responsibility. Nothing is EVER their fault. That's a woman's prerogative!

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Anonymous wrote:It amazes me how stupid men can be.

Enjoy your new life!

I agree. Who ever thought "until death do us part" really meant until death? C'mon now.

x3!

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear that, OP.

But just remember: you picked him, and the one common denominator in your relationships is you. So try to figure out some things about yourself before getting involved with another person.

Oh, now you've done it. The DCUM harpies don't stand for personal responsibility. Nothing is EVER their fault. That's a woman's prerogative!

And you dont sound bitter at all

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My father still acts blindsided as to why my mother got a divorce. He still brings it up and is bitter. It's absurd. We were all living in one corner of our house to get away from his crazy rages and mood swings and made it abundantly clear how bad things were. (I was 17 at the time)

It amazes me how men can take no personal responsibility and play the victim about absolutely everything.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear that, OP.

But just remember: you picked him, and the one common denominator in your relationships is you. So try to figure out some things about yourself before getting involved with another person.

Oh, now you've done it. The DCUM harpies don't stand for personal responsibility. Nothing is EVER their fault. That's a woman's prerogative!

And you dont sound bitter at all

Am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

I know how the first card the DCUM harpies play is "you're bitter."

How about I'm fukkin right?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hear that, OP.

But just remember: you picked him, and the one common denominator in your relationships is you. So try to figure out some things about yourself before getting involved with another person.

Oh, now you've done it. The DCUM harpies don't stand for personal responsibility. Nothing is EVER their fault. That's a woman's prerogative!

And you dont sound bitter at all

Am I wrong?

Yes, actually.

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Anonymous wrote:I know how the first card the DCUM harpies play is "you're bitter."

How about I'm fukkin right?

Geez I wonder why people keep calling you bitter... so bizarre...

Maybe just maybe it's cuz... drumroll please... you are indeed very bitter and it's totally obvious to anyone who reads the dribble you post!

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Just imagine the reaction on this board if OP was a guy and had posted how he blindsided his wife instead.

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Anonymous wrote:It amazes me how stupid men can be.

Enjoy your new life!

As a man, it amazes me how sadistic, selfish, and cruel some women can be. And I speak from direct experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just imagine the reaction on this board if OP was a guy and had posted how he blindsided his wife instead.

AMEN.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It amazes me how stupid men can be.

Enjoy your new life!

As a man, it amazes me how sadistic, selfish, and cruel some women can be. And I speak from direct experience.

Yet men will pass up nice women for ones like you describe.

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Anonymous wrote:
I hope you don't have kids - and that you are not over 40.


Not OP, but when this husband goes (leaves or dies), I am not going out to look for another guy to date or marry. I am so DONE with being partnered. I'm looking forward to being over 40 with no partner. Men are so much work.

All the divorce women I know who are over forty really want to get married again...and I mean really quickly. I think to myself....why?

You obviously don't live in NW DC or Chevy Chase or Bethesda. I would say it's about half and half. The more money and resources that women have, the LESS likely they want to get married again.