Does a 7 o'clock date mean dinner to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you're right...I left feeling disappointed. That's not a good sign.

If you're really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt -- how old is he? Could it be that he hasn't dated much and is clueless of how to handle dating outside a college campus -- which isn't really dating always but just going out or hanging randomly in the dorms? What was the conversation like? Does he seem like he's outgoing and has a lot of friends? I find that sometimes the quiet/shy guys will do these bizarre things on dates bc they don't know what to do -- they don't have a pack of bros that are always talking about their various dates; lots of times they are nice guys, just clueless. I can deal with that better than someone who is plenty experienced but just does not give a damn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My date told me to grab dinner first. That seems really lame or cheap. Or maybe he's broke? None of these are good options.

LOL, props to this man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:he doesn't have a date first. he's stuck in traffic coming from baltimore because he said the weather is terrible. he won't have eaten either. well, i will just order expecting to pay for myself.

Poor fucking baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

If you have to tell her, she isn't worth dating. Pump and dump. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, you're right...I left feeling disappointed. That's not a good sign.

If you're really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt -- how old is he? Could it be that he hasn't dated much and is clueless of how to handle dating outside a college campus -- which isn't really dating always but just going out or hanging randomly in the dorms? What was the conversation like? Does he seem like he's outgoing and has a lot of friends? I find that sometimes the quiet/shy guys will do these bizarre things on dates bc they don't know what to do -- they don't have a pack of bros that are always talking about their various dates; lots of times they are nice guys, just clueless. I can deal with that better than someone who is plenty experienced but just does not give a damn.

Take your pretentiousness and screw yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't sound like a keeper to me -- and I say this as someone who doesn't think guys have to always spend a lot on dates, but his lack of consideration shows a lack of interest.

If he doesn't want to do dinner bc of expense or bc he's not sure whether he wants to spend 2 hrs with you, then there are ways around it that still show consideration. I feel like most guys would suggest drinks -- at either a 5 or 6 pm happy hr type thing or late night drinks say at 9 pm or later. That clearly suggests to you that both of you are on your own for dinner and you will be spending 60-90 min together without saying it.

To schedule drinks smack in the middle of dinner hour and to explicitly say "eat first," seems like he doesn't care what you think or how he comes across, it's about his own convenience. If he's driving down from Baltimore and can't do happy hr drinks, then he should have opted for 9 pm. But I guarantee you he's thinking to himself "ugh -- if I go out at 9, I'm not going to be done until 10:30 and then I have to drive back to Baltimore, let's just do 7 and get it over with."

Honestly if it were me, I'd try to figure out if he is saying this whole thing as a chore and that's why meeting late is out. Maybe that's not it -- it could easily be that once he gets together with you, he has a great time but in planning he may be feeling like "uh I don't want to be too bothered."

He's making a proactive effort to spend time with her in the initial stages. If that isn't good enough for her because it upsets her comfort level, she can fuck herself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:well i asked him because he was asking for bar suggestions. but i can't drink and not eat. i guess i will order food anyways and he can offer to pay or not.

I just went out on a first date last weekend at a bar. We met at 5:30 (he was 20 mins late) and he said, "Let's sit at the bar." It was full so I said we should grab a table and he hesitated. I know he didn't want a table b/c then he would have to order food. I told him that I can't drink and not eat esp at dinnertime. I hate that guys have become so cheap.

You're lucky a shitbag like yourself was even taken out on a date. Listen to yourself. Why should any man date you? Why didn't you offer to pay for dinner at table?

You make me sick.

[Anonymous]

Dating = porking

[Anonymous]

He's 50

[Anonymous]

You had an entree, he had soup, and you split the check evenly, when he told you he didn't want to eat that late?!

I really don't understand why most of DCUM thinks the man should pay for everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:well i asked him because he was asking for bar suggestions. but i can't drink and not eat. i guess i will order food anyways and he can offer to pay or not.

I just went out on a first date last weekend at a bar. We met at 5:30 (he was 20 mins late) and he said, "Let's sit at the bar." It was full so I said we should grab a table and he hesitated. I know he didn't want a table b/c then he would have to order food. I told him that I can't drink and not eat esp at dinnertime. I hate that guys have become so cheap.

You're lucky a shitbag like yourself was even taken out on a date. Listen to yourself. Why should any man date you? Why didn't you offer to pay for dinner at table?

You make me sick.

NP here. Listen to YOURSELF pp. Not appropriate. Calm down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You had an entree, he had soup, and you split the check evenly, when he told you he didn't want to eat that late?!

I really don't understand why most of DCUM thinks the man should pay for everything.

She doesn't think that. She's not annoyed about paying for dinner. She's annoyed he told her not to eat dinner.

[Anonymous]

Or rather..,that he told her to eat dinner beforehand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had an entree, he had soup, and you split the check evenly, when he told you he didn't want to eat that late?!

I really don't understand why most of DCUM thinks the man should pay for everything.

She doesn't think that. She's not annoyed about paying for dinner. She's annoyed he told her not to eat dinner.

No, she also sounded annoyed that he left with her $30 cash in his wallet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You had an entree, he had soup, and you split the check evenly, when he told you he didn't want to eat that late?!

I really don't understand why most of DCUM thinks the man should pay for everything.

She doesn't think that. She's not annoyed about paying for dinner. She's annoyed he told her not to eat dinner.

You missed the part where PP was referring to the DCUM attitude (not just OP) and all the comments about how this means he's cheap.