Does a 7 o'clock date mean dinner to you?

[Anonymous]

Big mistake if you don't listen to his request.

You should assume he knows what he is asking. If he says eat before, then eat before

[Anonymous]

OP, are you always this dense? It doesn't matter if a 7 o'clock date typically means dinner. He said you should eat before. It is so rude to ignore him entirely, order food there, and expect him to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

Tell her the name of the restaurant. If a date told me that, I'd absolutely google it to get a feel for the place. You might also say something along the lines of "Will a 7:00 reservation give you time to change and stuff after work?" which would absolutely signify to me that my work clothes won't be appropriate for this restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you always this dense? It doesn't matter if a 7 o'clock date typically means dinner. He said you should eat before. It is so rude to ignore him entirely, order food there, and expect him to pay.

+1 Just eat before you go. I do think it's a bit weird he told you this but maybe he was aiming for drinks (and hopefully apps) versus a more serious sit down dinner.

[Anonymous]

Cheap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

Tell her the name of the restaurant. If a date told me that, I'd absolutely google it to get a feel for the place. You might also say something along the lines of "Will a 7:00 reservation give you time to change and stuff after work?" which would absolutely signify to me that my work clothes won't be appropriate for this restaurant.

Ugh, no, don't make a woman feel like she has to go home and change before a date. That is her choice.

I agree you should tell her the name of the place. Let her figure out what to wear. Do not tell her to dress up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

Tell her the name of the restaurant. If a date told me that, I'd absolutely google it to get a feel for the place. You might also say something along the lines of "Will a 7:00 reservation give you time to change and stuff after work?" which would absolutely signify to me that my work clothes won't be appropriate for this restaurant.

Ugh, no, don't make a woman feel like she has to go home and change before a date. That is her choice.

I agree you should tell her the name of the place. Let her figure out what to wear. Do not tell her to dress up.

And there's really only a few restaurants in DC that have a required dress code. If she is dressed more casual, just roll with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheap

Only if you're entitled.

[Anonymous]

It will be weird if you sit down and order dinner after he said eat first. he meant to meet you up for drinks...which is a very reasonable request in the early dating stage.

[Anonymous]

I don't mind paying for my own dinner at all on a date. But I don't like being told to eat before a 7 pm get together. I'm not an 85 year old grandma doing the early bird special. If he just wants to do drinks, meet later than 7.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just eat first and go. See what happens. You'll know if the reason is because he's cheap.

Yes, just play along. Who knows? Might end up being fine. If not, you'll know. Don't overanalyze these things. (I wasted a lot of my time doing so.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

Don't tell her how to dress. It's a bit weird you are even thinking about. (By the way, this is more than awkward- it's potentially red-flag controlling).
You could tell her the name of the place or send a link and let her figure it out herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:well i asked him because he was asking for bar suggestions. but i can't drink and not eat. i guess i will order food anyways and he can offer to pay or not.

I just went out on a first date last weekend at a bar. We met at 5:30 (he was 20 mins late) and he said, "Let's sit at the bar." It was full so I said we should grab a table and he hesitated. I know he didn't want a table b/c then he would have to order food. I told him that I can't drink and not eat esp at dinnertime. I hate that guys have become so cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own dinner at all on a date. But I don't like being told to eat before a 7 pm get together. I'm not an 85 year old grandma doing the early bird special. If he just wants to do drinks, meet later than 7.

Exactly!

[Anonymous]

I say give him a chance. I once had a man almost cancel a blind date on me because I suggested meeting for drinks, not dinner, and he found my manner a bit brusque. Married 10+ years now!


Eat something light, but don't feel like you can't order some bar food to go with it. Whether he's looking for a shorter get together or trying to save $ will become clear.