Does a 7 o'clock date mean dinner to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own dinner at all on a date. But I don't like being told to eat before a 7 pm get together. I'm not an 85 year old grandma doing the early bird special. If he just wants to do drinks, meet later than 7.

Exactly!

Correct.

And to the dude-women can dress themselves don't tell her how to dress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own dinner at all on a date. But I don't like being told to eat before a 7 pm get together. I'm not an 85 year old grandma doing the early bird special. If he just wants to do drinks, meet later than 7.

Exactly!

Yeah he should have asked to meet around 9.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't mind paying for my own dinner at all on a date. But I don't like being told to eat before a 7 pm get together. I'm not an 85 year old grandma doing the early bird special. If he just wants to do drinks, meet later than 7.

+1 Why not do drinks at 9? that part is weird..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheap

Only if you're entitled.

x1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
New poster here. I have an unrelated question but don't want to start a new thread.

I am a Male and have scheduled a 7pm dinner date. The previous dates were very casual. I'm taking her to a nice restaurant where better dress / heels would be appropriate.

Should I just assume she knows to dress well for a dinner date, or should I tell her to dress up ? Seems awkward to tell a woman how to dress !!!

Tell her where it is. She should dress accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's either working late (which would be the best explanation on his end) or he already had dinner plans with someone else (hmm...fishy....) or like you stated, he is too cheap to buy you dinner.

So maybe he is thinking of only meeting up for drinks at a bar which means he hopes he will get lucky.

Or if he wants to meet up for a movie, that could mean he is cheap/broke, but not necessarily looking to get lucky.

[Anonymous]

You met two weeks ago and you had to hint at going out again on a real date? He's not that excited about you. Don't spend too much time with this one.

[Anonymous]

Cheap

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound like a keeper to me -- and I say this as someone who doesn't think guys have to always spend a lot on dates, but his lack of consideration shows a lack of interest.

If he doesn't want to do dinner bc of expense or bc he's not sure whether he wants to spend 2 hrs with you, then there are ways around it that still show consideration. I feel like most guys would suggest drinks -- at either a 5 or 6 pm happy hr type thing or late night drinks say at 9 pm or later. That clearly suggests to you that both of you are on your own for dinner and you will be spending 60-90 min together without saying it.

To schedule drinks smack in the middle of dinner hour and to explicitly say "eat first," seems like he doesn't care what you think or how he comes across, it's about his own convenience. If he's driving down from Baltimore and can't do happy hr drinks, then he should have opted for 9 pm. But I guarantee you he's thinking to himself "ugh -- if I go out at 9, I'm not going to be done until 10:30 and then I have to drive back to Baltimore, let's just do 7 and get it over with."

Honestly if it were me, I'd try to figure out if he is saying this whole thing as a chore and that's why meeting late is out. Maybe that's not it -- it could easily be that once he gets together with you, he has a great time but in planning he may be feeling like "uh I don't want to be too bothered."

[Anonymous]

I can't decide if I would eat first then meet for drinks and see how it goes, or just cancel.

[Anonymous]

OP here. So we met and I was famished. My plan was to eat and pay for myself so I opened the menu. He stated that he usually doesn't eat past 7 pm because he gets bad dreams..!?? He didn't appear to be joking. I ordered an entree and he had soup. We split chips and guac, I had one glass of wine, he too. Convo was okay, he's cute but I wasn't impressed that he kept his hat on the whole meai.. But that's certainly not a deal breaker. Well, the check came and I was talking so he picked it up and opened it. Since my plan all along was to pay for my own dinner I reached for my purse. He immediately stated, "Let's split it. I don't mind doing that, it's fine" (as if he was doing me a favor or something). Bill came to $52, we each put in $30. I mentioned how our server was excellent and maybe we should tip a bit more and he said, "well how do you want to do that?" I said maybe he could take the cash and put it on his card which he did. I was really only thinking a few more dollars but maybe that wasn't necessary. I was parked in a lot so he walked me to the garage (not the car) hugged me and left.

Clearly he's not interested but I wasn't impressed that he left with my $30 in his wallet. It just doesn't seem like a man who wants to impress me and put his best foot forward.

Would I go out with him again if he asked? Possibly but I wouldn't expect to pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. So we met and I was famished. My plan was to eat and pay for myself so I opened the menu. He stated that he usually doesn't eat past 7 pm because he gets bad dreams..!?? He didn't appear to be joking. I ordered an entree and he had soup. We split chips and guac, I had one glass of wine, he too. Convo was okay, he's cute but I wasn't impressed that he kept his hat on the whole meai.. But that's certainly not a deal breaker. Well, the check came and I was talking so he picked it up and opened it. Since my plan all along was to pay for my own dinner I reached for my purse. He immediately stated, "Let's split it. I don't mind doing that, it's fine" (as if he was doing me a favor or something). Bill came to $52, we each put in $30. I mentioned how our server was excellent and maybe we should tip a bit more and he said, "well how do you want to do that?" I said maybe he could take the cash and put it on his card which he did. I was really only thinking a few more dollars but maybe that wasn't necessary. I was parked in a lot so he walked me to the garage (not the car) hugged me and left.

Clearly he's not interested but I wasn't impressed that he left with my $30 in his wallet. It just doesn't seem like a man who wants to impress me and put his best foot forward.

Would I go out with him again if he asked? Possibly but I wouldn't expect to pay.

Yeah he's not interested in impressing you. I wouldn't have said to do a bigger tip, but that's just me -- 15% is plenty and I'd want to get the hell out of there. It's not just that though -- acting like he was doing you a favor by splitting, eating when he said he wouldn't/couldn't, walking you to the garage but not the car, and no kiss or attempt to kiss -- just doesn't strike me as someone who is interested. If you know that, then why would you waste your time. Unless he is so fascinating that you could talk to him forever or so cute you could look at him forever and are hoping that you'll just jump into bed -- but I'm not hearing that from your post.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, you're right...I left feeling disappointed. That's not a good sign.

[Anonymous]

Thank you OP for posting the details so that those of us without a life could follow along, lol

Male here. Hard to say if he's interested or not. Could be he just has no experience nor a clue how to treat a woman. Personally, I just can't imagine not walking you to the car and making sure you were tucked in safely. May not be the best choice for relationship material. Could be broke, but doesn't explain everything. Could be his car is running on fumes back home !! Was he hiding his baldness ?

I think you have to judge the date more based on the convo versus his behavior. Just be willing to make a lot of compromises if he turns out to be the "one"

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a dud. Plus who wants to date a guy in freaking Baltimore? No offense to Baltimore but have you ever tried to drive from DC to Baltimore on a Friday night at rush hour? 30 minutes into the gridlock you will call him and break up with him.