Splitting custody 12 hours a day to each parent?!?!?!?

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Anonymous wrote:And now they have a kid together and need to find a way to get along.

OP here. Couldn't agree more. He apparently dragged out every intimate detail she'd ever shared with him to paint her as unstable. Had the military conduct a half-assed investigation painting his as a victim of emotional abuse. Big tough military guy. What a joke. I've told her to try mediation but I doubt he will agree.

And people, just because tiny babies go to daycare doesn't mean that the most emotionally or physically healthy thing for either the ban or the parents. Doesn't the court have a responsibility to do what is best for the child?

No, of course not. You are correct, and I'm sorry you're struggling with this awful situation. No one here can really understand unless they've been through this themselves. I've seen so many stupid comments on this thread.

Don't engage in battles about babies in daycare here. People here are projecting their own crap onto you.

No, the courts have NO responsibility for doing what's best for the child. They have a responsibility to interpret the existing laws, which are not necessarily the best thing for YOUR child. Please understand this. Lawyers don't do what's morally right, and neither do judges. They do what's LEGAL. They deal in generalizations: children need both parents (they don't take into account mothers who are mentally ill but manage to work - or fathers who are physically abusive but make sure they don't leave any marks).

Go to surviving infidelity.com and get some advice there from less naive people. And good luck. Stay strong.

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What makes no sense to me is how all of this happened in a few weeks from the allegations to military investigation to court.

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Speak to your attorney. I was in the same situation, he put me out of the home. I have primary custody of my infant. He has supervised custody. Get a good lawyer, that is the only way you can win this. - A GOOD/ TOP LAWYER.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom can pump. Chikd should be with bit parents. Maybe it is around work schedules.

Have you ever had a newborn? They need stability, not to be shuttled around every day like objects.

Kids need two parents. Plenty of kids get shuffled to family members or other child care options. This is no different. I am assuming you are mom.

No I am not mom. But dad has proven to be useless when it comes to caring for the child so far, has been totally hands off, tries to engage a newborn in inappropriate ways at inappropriate times, has no idea how often to feed, how to swaddle, etc. He can change a diaper. That is about it. How is going to work 8 hours a day and take care of an infant who is up every two hours all night? Mom is on maternity leave; she is the best place for a newborn. This is usually the case, no?

The mom has made her bed, it is a lumpy bed but it is the bed she made.

You can't date a loser, get pregnant, live in his house then all of a sudden go to court and expect the judge to save your sorry ass. All of a sudden he sucks?... But he was a good enough partner before, so much so you moved in with him and had his baby.

The courts are not there to fix your big fat messes.

I am seriously tired of people like you. Not only are you unhelpful you are sanctimonious, smug and clueless. The mom may have made the bed, but the OP is actually asking what is in best interest of the child. Being shuffled every 12 hours is most likely not. Please just stop! You make me sick.

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Anonymous wrote:Mom can pump. Chikd should be with bit parents. Maybe it is around work schedules.

Have you ever had a newborn? They need stability, not to be shuttled around every day like objects.

Kids need two parents. Plenty of kids get shuffled to family members or other child care options. This is no different. I am assuming you are mom.

No I am not mom. But dad has proven to be useless when it comes to caring for the child so far, has been totally hands off, tries to engage a newborn in inappropriate ways at inappropriate times, has no idea how often to feed, how to swaddle, etc. He can change a diaper. That is about it. How is going to work 8 hours a day and take care of an infant who is up every two hours all night? Mom is on maternity leave; she is the best place for a newborn. This is usually the case, no?

The mom has made her bed, it is a lumpy bed but it is the bed she made.

You can't date a loser, get pregnant, live in his house then all of a sudden go to court and expect the judge to save your sorry ass. All of a sudden he sucks?... But he was a good enough partner before, so much so you moved in with him and had his baby.

The courts are not there to fix your big fat messes.

I am seriously tired of people like you. Not only are you unhelpful you are sanctimonious, smug and clueless. The mom may have made the bed, but the OP is actually asking what is in best interest of the child. Being shuffled every 12 hours is most likely not. Please just stop! You make me sick.

I agree, the PP is a miserable and bad person who is clueless. I don't think she's smug though - I'm guessing she's very unhappy with her own decisions.

And just so she knows, the courts in our country ARE there for people like the OP mom (and their children) who find themselves in these kinds of situations. That is our country, and that is what is good about our country. The courts are here to protect children. I personally think it's a very imperfect system. But that doesn't take away from the fact that moms (and dads) sometimes need court intervention.

OP, hope you're doing okay.

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Anonymous wrote:This is for a newborn of four weeks between non-married parents. Baby is breastfeeding, dad threw mom out of the house and then sued for custody. State of TX. I feel like this is unheard of. Any attorneys here who can advise or people who have been in this situation? How can this possibly be in the best interest of the child?

This is so stupefyingly stupid that it makes stupid look brilliant! Not a lawyer, FWIW