Splitting custody 12 hours a day to each parent?!?!?!?
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Anonymous
| This is for a newborn of four weeks between non-married parents. Baby is breastfeeding, dad threw mom out of the house and then sued for custody. State of TX. I feel like this is unheard of. Any attorneys here who can advise or people who have been in this situation? How can this possibly be in the best interest of the child? |
Anonymous
| Mom can pump. Chikd should be with bit parents. Maybe it is around work schedules. |
Anonymous
| How can dad throw mom out of the house? I'm not familiar with the laws in Texas, but I know around here even if you're not on the mortgage or deed or lease you can't just be thrown out of your home suddenly. |
Anonymous
| Are you saying that a judge has ordered this? Or that this is what the other parent is requesting? |
Anonymous
| Sounds like Texas misunderstood Solomon's plan. |
Anonymous
This is what a judge has ordered. Yes, dad threw mom out of the house. She is not on the mortgage. He told her to leave (i.e. get out of my house by tonight) and that he was starting eviction proceedings. Due to his erratic behavior mom put a restraining order on him restricting him from access to the child. He countersued for full custody and this is what the judge has ordered temporarily. Seems insane to me to split a newborn baby 12 hours each day between each parent when he needs his mother. Dad had nothing to do with the child these past few weeks - basically came home from work, drank for 3-4 hours locked in his TV room, then decided that he wanted to play with the baby at 10pm. This was all presented to the court and this was their insane decision. What can the mom do? Ask for a guardian ad litem to advocate neutrally for the child? Find a new attorney? Petition for a change of venue? Dad is military in a big military town and I think he is getting favors. |
Anonymous
Have you ever had a newborn? They need stability, not to be shuttled around every day like objects. |
Anonymous
Kids need two parents. Plenty of kids get shuffled to family members or other child care options. This is no different. I am assuming you are mom. |
Anonymous
No I am not mom. But dad has proven to be useless when it comes to caring for the child so far, has been totally hands off, tries to engage a newborn in inappropriate ways at inappropriate times, has no idea how often to feed, how to swaddle, etc. He can change a diaper. That is about it. How is going to work 8 hours a day and take care of an infant who is up every two hours all night? Mom is on maternity leave; she is the best place for a newborn. This is usually the case, no? |
Anonymous
The mom has made her bed, it is a lumpy bed but it is the bed she made. You can't date a loser, get pregnant, live in his house then all of a sudden go to court and expect the judge to save your sorry ass. All of a sudden he sucks?... But he was a good enough partner before, so much so you moved in with him and had his baby. The courts are not there to fix your big fat messes. |
Anonymous
OP here. I know, and I agree. Again, I am not mom in this situation. I just don't understand how this arrangement is in the best interests of the child. A NEWBORN. Of FOUR weeks. I can see a week with mom/weekends with dad arrangement (so he can spend decent time with baby when he has him), that maybe changes once the child is old enough to go to daycare. But at this stage, this seems like an awful arrangement for a tiny baby. |
Anonymous
| How are you getting this information? I'm surprised they got a ruling at all in less than four weeks. If it's for real, mom needs to talk to her attorney about her options, because that's really not in the baby's best interest. |
Anonymous
| This is likely the result of a pendente lite hearing, not a final court order. |
Anonymous
+1 The baby father sounds despicable. |
Anonymous
Translation of pendente lite hearing, please? |