DD's teacher won't call her by her nickname

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Best regards,
Phyllis (call me Mildred)

Haha! If I were the teacher getting this email, I'd laugh and FINALLY remember to call her Bella.

[Anonymous]

You want the world to call her Bella change her legal name to Bells.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To your child:

"Bella, I know you prefer to be called Bella, but Isabella is your given name, and it is beautiful and lovely. For the rest of your life, it will be on your official documents and school records, so you will meet a lot of people who will call you Isabella at first or forever. I know it's hard right now because you're not used to "Isabella", but it's okay -- you are Bella and Isabella, too, and you'll get used to it."

To her teacher, via email:

"Dear Ms. Crabapple,

Thank you so much for all of the work you have done to get Bella's year off to a great start. I enjoyed meeting you at open house and look forward to all Bella will learn in your class this year.

I am sure you are inundated with work and requests at this time of year, and I just wanted to check in via email to see if you had received the note that we sent in about Bella's name. We are trying to teach her to be adaptable and understanding about sometimes being called Isabella, which we know will happen at school sometimes because it is her legal name. People who do not know her well will occasionally call her Isabella, but people with whom she has a close and warm relationship have always called her Bella. We hope she will have a warm relationship with you, and we would appreciate it if you would try to remember to call her Bella. Would that be possible, or is there a reason you would rather not call her Bella that we can explain to her at home?

We'd appreciate a reply when you have a chance. Thank you!

Best regards,
Phyllis (call me Mildred)

+1 I mean, I wasn't going to be that clever, but yes, this. It is not disrespectful to call your child by her given name when you have asked other wise, just mildly thoughtless at worst. So teach DD to deal, and ask again, nicely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well my son's name is Jake and his teacher called him Jack for a year... so I eventually told him to get over it... but the year sucked.

I have a beautiful friend named Bella and another named Belle... PP is angry at her own life, ignore her.

I am a teacher who has both a Jack and a Jake in my class. I didn't mean too, but I did mix up the names quite frequently. They has very different personalities and I felt awful every time I mixed up the names, but there is something about those names that makes them easy to confuse. I've never had it happen in class before- and I've had both a Kate and a Katie among other similar names.

[Anonymous]

The teacher likes to use formal names. I agree with pps that I wouldn't pick that hill to die on. Other people will also refer to her by her formal name unless it is changed to Bella.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well my son's name is Jake and his teacher called him Jack for a year... so I eventually told him to get over it... but the year sucked.

I have a beautiful friend named Bella and another named Belle... PP is angry at her own life, ignore her.

I am a teacher who has both a Jack and a Jake in my class. I didn't mean too, but I did mix up the names quite frequently. They has very different personalities and I felt awful every time I mixed up the names, but there is something about those names that makes them easy to confuse. I've never had it happen in class before- and I've had both a Kate and a Katie among other similar names.

Haha! I used to be a teacher in another country where the names were almost all unfamiliar to me. I used to make fun of myself to the teenagers when I messed up--taking all the blame for my weird old brain not being able to get things right. They were very forgiving!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To your child:

"Bella, I know you prefer to be called Bella, but Isabella is your given name, and it is beautiful and lovely. For the rest of your life, it will be on your official documents and school records, so you will meet a lot of people who will call you Isabella at first or forever. I know it's hard right now because you're not used to "Isabella", but it's okay -- you are Bella and Isabella, too, and you'll get used to it."

To her teacher, via email:

"Dear Ms. Crabapple,

Thank you so much for all of the work you have done to get Bella's year off to a great start. I enjoyed meeting you at open house and look forward to all Bella will learn in your class this year.

I am sure you are inundated with work and requests at this time of year, and I just wanted to check in via email to see if you had received the note that we sent in about Bella's name. We are trying to teach her to be adaptable and understanding about sometimes being called Isabella, which we know will happen at school sometimes because it is her legal name. People who do not know her well will occasionally call her Isabella, but people with whom she has a close and warm relationship have always called her Bella. We hope she will have a warm relationship with you, and we would appreciate it if you would try to remember to call her Bella. Would that be possible, or is there a reason you would rather not call her Bella that we can explain to her at home?

We'd appreciate a reply when you have a chance. Thank you!

Best regards,
Phyllis (call me Mildred)

This is perfect! I had a teacher who refused to call me by my given name because he deemed it too weird and insisted on calling me by my middle name instead. It resulted in me sincerely disliking that class for the entire year (7th grade science). You'd hate for your daughter to start off 1st grade not liking school over this issue so I would try to talk to the teacher in person or send her a very nice e-mail like the one posted above to try to get this resolved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bella is a fat girl name. Thank the teacher.

You know what? I'm actually going to start bookmarking posts like this. I can't (wel, would prefer not to) believe that there are tons of posterswho just respons with som seriously nasty one liner. It's got to be one person trying to stir up sh!t. Maybe if I get enough Jeff can check the IP address and call the person out (or tell me that there really are that many awful people on these boards...)

to OP - I have no idea Have you asked the teacher WHY she insists on calling you're daughter by her "proper" name rather than the one you both prefer? Maybe it's some sort of school standard?

+1000. Also, chart out at what time of day the posts were written...I noticed this particular one was written after 2 pm today....hmmmm....don't high schools get out after two pm, like in Fairfax County?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bella is a fat girl name. Thank the teacher.

??? What? I have a few Bella's in my life and they are average....not bigger than me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask to meet with the teacher and discuss with her. Don't escalate it unless necessary -- just go talk to the teacher.

This. Ask the teacher about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So even though child's name is, in fact, Isabella the parent prefers she be called

"Bella"
And for some reason since the teacher calls the child her actual name instead of

"Bella"
This is somehow some sort of insult?

Riiiight...

Riiight.... This made me lol!

[Anonymous]

My mom has a child named Mackenzie in her preschool class whose mom is demanding that they call her Mackidoodle. I think teachers do need to draw the line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To your child:

"Bella, I know you prefer to be called Bella, but Isabella is your given name, and it is beautiful and lovely. For the rest of your life, it will be on your official documents and school records, so you will meet a lot of people who will call you Isabella at first or forever. I know it's hard right now because you're not used to "Isabella", but it's okay -- you are Bella and Isabella, too, and you'll get used to it."

To her teacher, via email:

"Dear Ms. Crabapple,

Thank you so much for all of the work you have done to get Bella's year off to a great start. I enjoyed meeting you at open house and look forward to all Bella will learn in your class this year.

I am sure you are inundated with work and requests at this time of year, and I just wanted to check in via email to see if you had received the note that we sent in about Bella's name. We are trying to teach her to be adaptable and understanding about sometimes being called Isabella, which we know will happen at school sometimes because it is her legal name. People who do not know her well will occasionally call her Isabella, but people with whom she has a close and warm relationship have always called her Bella. We hope she will have a warm relationship with you, and we would appreciate it if you would try to remember to call her Bella. Would that be possible, or is there a reason you would rather not call her Bella that we can explain to her at home?

We'd appreciate a reply when you have a chance. Thank you!

Best regards,
Phyllis (call me Mildred)

I love you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom has a child named Mackenzie in her preschool class whose mom is demanding that they call her Mackidoodle. I think teachers do need to draw the line.

I'd ask the mom if that's anything like a labradoodle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mom has a child named Mackenzie in her preschool class whose mom is demanding that they call her Mackidoodle. I think teachers do need to draw the line.

I'd ask the mom if that's anything like a labradoodle.

Lol
Pp- is your mom honoring the request?