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How long did it take you to conceive and what was your age
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Anonymous
How unbelieveable ignorant are you? Infertility is a medical issue. It has NOTHING to do with stress. Please, just shut up with this crap. |
Anonymous
Not ignorant at all. There was a study done on this some years ago (maybe 8 or 10). It was reported on in a national trade publication for women lawyers and the MSM. I paid attention to it because I knew my husband and I would be trying to have a baby in the next couple of years. There is a relationship between difficulty conceiving and stress. Obviously, this is not the case for people who have blocked tubes, low sperm counts or any of the other factors that cause true infertility. It can be a factor in the case of unexplained infertility. Maybe you should read more and attack less. I was actually trying to be supportive. But I should know better on DCUMs. |
Anonymous
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ITA, 18:16. We tried and tried and tried and cried over it and then the first month I said, I GIVE UP, we got pregnant. I just had a lot going on at work that month, was tired of trying and was thinking we go to a fertility clinic in the next few months. So I just stopped caring and took a break. For us that was the charm.
You say "infertility is a medical issue" - you don't think that stress impacts your body in a medical sense? Think about people who have heart attacks who eat great diets and exercise...but have lots of stress. |
Anonymous
Hi there, I was the "legs in the air" poster. I can see why the subsequent post about stress would be very aggravating coming from someone who had good luck. The fact is, stress can play a huge role. It would, of course, be silly to think that stress is the ONLY thing that played a role, but ovulation and fertility is a tremendously hormonal process and stress has a proven impact on hormones. My OB, when we said we were going to try, told me straight out that stress levels can have a huge effect on ovulation so I should try hard not to get worked up about it if it took a while to conceive because that could make it worse. But to the extent that PP quoted above might thing people are suggesting there's something you're doing wrong, or that all you have to do is "relax" and it'll happen, I can imagine that would be infuriating! That said, nobody suggested that, outright. For so many women, stress is clearly the issue. There's a tremendous amount of research out there that includes studies of couples who tried and tried and tried, gave up, and then bang, got pregnant. And in any case, science or not, I think the poster who quoted me was just trying to be nice, so you jumped the gun telling her to shut up. So far you're the only one who got rude on this sensitive thread, which is unfortunate. |
Anonymous
| 1st try, age 29 |
Anonymous
| DH was 31, I was 30. Took us 13 months after having an HSG. |
Anonymous
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1st: Me 34, DH 44, we werent' trying, just drinking way too much wine.
2nd: Me 38, DH 48, we weren't trying, just drinking way too much wine. Hmmmm.......there's a pattern here. |
Anonymous
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25, second month
31, first month, ended in m/c 31, first month I did a lot of charting leading up to trying. We were doing insemination (I'm a lesbian) and I wanted to get the timing perfect. It is quite a hassle when there isn't sperm available 24/7. |
Anonymous
| I was 29 and it was the first month trying. I didn't expect it to happen that quickly. |
Anonymous
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38 -first try
40 first try |
Anonymous
| I was 31 and my partner 33. I went off birth control in April and got pregnant in May. |
Anonymous
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I suspect the only trend is that there's no clear trend!
For us, I was 36, in poor health, and have a history of chemo (which can ruin your eggs). So when I went off the Pill, we thought the rhythm method would be pretty safe ... but there was no chance to even figure out my regular cycle because 6 weeks later we were pregnant! |
Anonymous
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37 -- 2 months (not using ovulation predictor), ended in m/c
38 -- 1 month 40 (almost 41 actually) -- oops (I guess that counts as one month) |
Anonymous
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38, first month, but miscarried.
Then got pregnant 3 month later, just before my 39th birthday. |
Anonymous
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Baby #1 36, first try
Baby #2 38, first try |