Queen Bee Mom unhappy with me and I'm afraid my kid will pay the price

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

Is the school GDS? Are you talking about me?

I would respond with "did you just say that out loud"?

OP here. No, not GDS. Not even private!

The great equalizer--bitchy queen bees thrive everywhere!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What do you have against pronouns, OP?

Do you mean articles?

Thank You!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you have against pronouns, OP?

Do you mean articles?

Thank You!!!!

both were missing

[Anonymous]

I was the one who earlier posted regarding the use of the term "queen bee" and I would urge you all to go back and read this thread from start to finish and I think you will find that it is a conversation appropriate for 13-year old girls not adults. The OP is worried about the silent treatment? All of the who is inviting whom to what . . . Adults shouldn't act like that and that is not to suggest that the person referred to as a queen bee isn't nasty, a bitch, mean as all get out but it is to say you shouldn't respond or act like a 13-year old girl, and all of the supporters are in the same way. Your kids pick up on it, that you are afraid of the wrath of the popular kids, and they will be affected by that more than the influence of the queen bee. I am just saying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you have against pronouns, OP?

Do you mean articles?

Thank You!!!!

both were missing

No. There were many pronouns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the one who earlier posted regarding the use of the term "queen bee" and I would urge you all to go back and read this thread from start to finish and I think you will find that it is a conversation appropriate for 13-year old girls not adults. The OP is worried about the silent treatment? All of the who is inviting whom to what . . . Adults shouldn't act like that and that is not to suggest that the person referred to as a queen bee isn't nasty, a bitch, mean as all get out but it is to say you shouldn't respond or act like a 13-year old girl, and all of the supporters are in the same way. Your kids pick up on it, that you are afraid of the wrath of the popular kids, and they will be affected by that more than the influence of the queen bee. I am just saying.

I think it's important to keep things in perspective and realize that very few adults have the time nor the inclination to engage in this type of bitchy behavior. Not saying that it never happens, I just don't think that most grown ups have the energy for that sort of nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the one who earlier posted regarding the use of the term "queen bee" and I would urge you all to go back and read this thread from start to finish and I think you will find that it is a conversation appropriate for 13-year old girls not adults. The OP is worried about the silent treatment? All of the who is inviting whom to what . . . Adults shouldn't act like that and that is not to suggest that the person referred to as a queen bee isn't nasty, a bitch, mean as all get out but it is to say you shouldn't respond or act like a 13-year old girl, and all of the supporters are in the same way. Your kids pick up on it, that you are afraid of the wrath of the popular kids, and they will be affected by that more than the influence of the queen bee. I am just saying.

The two types of responses I saw were 1) stand up to her and b) avoid her. I don't see what is so 13-year-old-girl about either of these.

Unless I missed something, the OP doesn't care about being besties with the QB. She is afraid of the repercussions her DD will encounter, and having BTDT, I agree it's a possibility.

It also kind of sucks to get frozen out at school events, but that doesn't seem to be the point of OP's post.

[Anonymous]

QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

I don't understand what the problem is. What are the actual repercussions that either you or your child have suffered, other than someone you didn't like much anyway not speaking to you? Seems like it worked out fine. You are investing too much time and energy thinking about this woman.

[Anonymous]

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QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

I don't understand what the problem is. What are the actual repercussions that either you or your child have suffered, other than someone you didn't like much anyway not speaking to you? Seems like it worked out fine. You are investing too much time and energy thinking about this woman.

The OP should give it time. Maybe nothing will happen, but apples don't fall far from trees, and she should not be surprised if QB's DD starts mimicking mom and excluding the OP's DD.

I think anyone who's asking what's the big deal has just never been in this situation. I felt that way til it happened to me. It still boggles my mind that grown women will take the time and energy to gang up on others.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

I don't understand what the problem is. What are the actual repercussions that either you or your child have suffered, other than someone you didn't like much anyway not speaking to you? Seems like it worked out fine. You are investing too much time and energy thinking about this woman.

The OP should give it time. Maybe nothing will happen, but apples don't fall far from trees, and she should not be surprised if QB's DD starts mimicking mom and excluding the OP's DD.

I think anyone who's asking what's the big deal has just never been in this situation. I felt that way til it happened to me. It still boggles my mind that grown women will take the time and energy to gang up on others.

Maybe being excluded by a mean mom/kid is just as well?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand what the problem is. What are the actual repercussions that either you or your child have suffered, other than someone you didn't like much anyway not speaking to you? Seems like it worked out fine. You are investing too much time and energy thinking about this woman.


The OP should give it time. Maybe nothing will happen, but apples don't fall far from trees, and she should not be surprised if QB's DD starts mimicking mom and excluding the OP's DD.

I think anyone who's asking what's the big deal has just never been in this situation. I felt that way til it happened to me. It still boggles my mind that grown women will take the time and energy to gang up on others.

Well, if in fact that does happen, she can deal with it from there, but to date, it has not, and she has not indicated any problems between the kids at this point. Will the "queen bee" be inviting OP's daughter for play dates? No. Is there any indication that the child is being harassed, excluded at school? No.
Frankly, OP seems to worried about what this woman says about her Ivy education, out downs of OP's daughter. It is not healthy. If someone puts your kid down, ask them what they mean and put them in a position of having to explain. If someone says something annoying about their educational background, ignore it.

[Anonymous]

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I don't understand what the problem is. What are the actual repercussions that either you or your child have suffered, other than someone you didn't like much anyway not speaking to you? Seems like it worked out fine. You are investing too much time and energy thinking about this woman.


The OP should give it time. Maybe nothing will happen, but apples don't fall far from trees, and she should not be surprised if QB's DD starts mimicking mom and excluding the OP's DD.

I think anyone who's asking what's the big deal has just never been in this situation. I felt that way til it happened to me. It still boggles my mind that grown women will take the time and energy to gang up on others.

Well, if in fact that does happen, she can deal with it from there, but to date, it has not, and she has not indicated any problems between the kids at this point. Will the "queen bee" be inviting OP's daughter for play dates? No. Is there any indication that the child is being harassed, excluded at school? No.
Frankly, OP seems to worried about what this woman says about her Ivy education, out downs of OP's daughter. It is not healthy. If someone puts your kid down, ask them what they mean and put them in a position of having to explain. If someone says something annoying about their educational background, ignore it.

Yes, nothing is happening now. That's why I said the OP should give it time. However, queen bees are such because they have followers. I wish someone had warned me that although I thought the issue was between the QB and me, the QB proceeded to talk behind my back and her DD started messing with my DD and getting other girls involved. You're right; it would have been a blessing if we'd just been rid of those two, but QBs don't work that way. They're nothing without their little circle. It is truly junior high behavior, but if you're the target, it doesn't matter if you try to approach it in a mature fashion.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was the one who earlier posted regarding the use of the term "queen bee" and I would urge you all to go back and read this thread from start to finish and I think you will find that it is a conversation appropriate for 13-year old girls not adults. The OP is worried about the silent treatment? All of the who is inviting whom to what . . . Adults shouldn't act like that and that is not to suggest that the person referred to as a queen bee isn't nasty, a bitch, mean as all get out but it is to say you shouldn't respond or act like a 13-year old girl, and all of the supporters are in the same way. Your kids pick up on it, that you are afraid of the wrath of the popular kids, and they will be affected by that more than the influence of the queen bee. I am just saying.

The two types of responses I saw were 1) stand up to her and b) avoid her. I don't see what is so 13-year-old-girl about either of these.

Unless I missed something, the OP doesn't care about being besties with the QB. She is afraid of the repercussions her DD will encounter, and having BTDT, I agree it's a possibility.

It also kind of sucks to get frozen out at school events, but that doesn't seem to be the point of OP's post.



Besties? I rest my case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the one who earlier posted regarding the use of the term "queen bee" and I would urge you all to go back and read this thread from start to finish and I think you will find that it is a conversation appropriate for 13-year old girls not adults. The OP is worried about the silent treatment? All of the who is inviting whom to what . . . Adults shouldn't act like that and that is not to suggest that the person referred to as a queen bee isn't nasty, a bitch, mean as all get out but it is to say you shouldn't respond or act like a 13-year old girl, and all of the supporters are in the same way. Your kids pick up on it, that you are afraid of the wrath of the popular kids, and they will be affected by that more than the influence of the queen bee. I am just saying.

The two types of responses I saw were 1) stand up to her and b) avoid her. I don't see what is so 13-year-old-girl about either of these.

Unless I missed something, the OP doesn't care about being besties with the QB. She is afraid of the repercussions her DD will encounter, and having BTDT, I agree it's a possibility.

It also kind of sucks to get frozen out at school events, but that doesn't seem to be the point of OP's post.


Besties? I rest my case.

What's your case? It's unclear what you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the one who earlier posted regarding the use of the term "queen bee" and I would urge you all to go back and read this thread from start to finish and I think you will find that it is a conversation appropriate for 13-year old girls not adults. The OP is worried about the silent treatment? All of the who is inviting whom to what . . . Adults shouldn't act like that and that is not to suggest that the person referred to as a queen bee isn't nasty, a bitch, mean as all get out but it is to say you shouldn't respond or act like a 13-year old girl, and all of the supporters are in the same way. Your kids pick up on it, that you are afraid of the wrath of the popular kids, and they will be affected by that more than the influence of the queen bee. I am just saying.

The two types of responses I saw were 1) stand up to her and b) avoid her. I don't see what is so 13-year-old-girl about either of these.

Unless I missed something, the OP doesn't care about being besties with the QB. She is afraid of the repercussions her DD will encounter, and having BTDT, I agree it's a possibility.

It also kind of sucks to get frozen out at school events, but that doesn't seem to be the point of OP's post.


Besties? I rest my case.

What's your case? It's unclear what you are talking about.

It's only clear that she doesn't understand sarcasm.

Scolding PP, whoever you are, my posts were intended for the OP, and I hope they help her out. Since you seem to have no experience with QBs, not sure why you thought you had much to offer this thread.