Husbands: do you secretly wish your SAH wives bought in a paycheck?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I'm glad my wife doesn't work outside the home. She does everything household related and all I have to do is go to work and relax when I'm home.

lol This is why I'm glad I kept working. I think my husband would feel the same way. When does your wife get to relax?

[Anonymous]

No. She takes care of my parents, child and household.

[Anonymous]

My DH wants me to stay at home AND bring in a paycheck. Hmmm . . . it's one or the other until I hit the Lotto.

[Anonymous]

No, not secretly. I openly do.

[Anonymous]

My wife stays at home; there's no fucking way I could ever do it.
My work is brutally hard but there's no amount of money that could get me to switch jobs with her; I'll never tell her either.

I don't put controls on money and I don't ever question her decisions; she is treated as an equal partner in our operation.

But sometimes I do really miss the $98k she used to bring in.

[Anonymous]

I bet the answer would depend on how old the kids are. I assume there are probably lots of men who might wonder what their wives do all day, once the kids are in school full-time. I know my guy friends have wondered this aloud to me. But when the kids are really young, it's cool for the wives to be home with them.

it would probably also depend on the salary that's not being earned. a $30K earner isn't going to have much impact on the family if the husband makes a lot, but a $100K salary could make a big difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is free.

You bring home the bacon. I'll cook it.

Can't much have one without the other.

Parenting is a team effort.

It takes two to make 'em,
and two to raise 'em.
Properly.

No one gets everything, all at the same time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet the answer would depend on how old the kids are. I assume there are probably lots of men who might wonder what their wives do all day, once the kids are in school full-time. I know my guy friends have wondered this aloud to me. But when the kids are really young, it's cool for the wives to be home with them.

it would probably also depend on the salary that's not being earned. a $30K earner isn't going to have much impact on the family if the husband makes a lot, but a $100K salary could make a big difference.

Nope. Not in this house. I didn't stay at home until the older kids went to school. One of my school-aged sons threw up this morning. You can bet that my husband, away on business, doesn't want to deal with that. It seems like there is always a snow day/ doctor's appt/ after school sports/illness, especially when you have three kids.

I am in the same boat as a pp, I wouldn't mind returning to work but the kids and DH really appreciate that I'm at home. DH is a high earner, in excess of 500k, travels, and doesn't want to deal with running the household.

[Anonymous]

It depends on the whole family situation. My DH, while well compensated, makes nowhere near $500K; I really love to work; we stopped at two kids, in part so we could both continue to pursue careers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I like coming home to a clean house, a happy wife and a hot meal. I make enough so money is not an issue.

+1. I love my job and don't like raising kids/household chores. I like spending time with my kids doing fun activities, but leave the rest to my wife. Having a wife at home means I can go on work trips, take clients out to dinner, work late at the office, and spend weekends golfing or hiking with my friends if I want -- and know when I do get home, there will be a hot meal waiting for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I like coming home to a clean house, a happy wife and a hot meal. I make enough so money is not an issue.

+1. I love my job and don't like raising kids/household chores. I like spending time with my kids doing fun activities, but leave the rest to my wife. Having a wife at home means I can go on work trips, take clients out to dinner, work late at the office, and spend weekends golfing or hiking with my friends if I want -- and know when I do get home, there will be a hot meal waiting for me.

Does your wife ever get a break?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. I like coming home to a clean house, a happy wife and a hot meal. I make enough so money is not an issue.

+1. I love my job and don't like raising kids/household chores. I like spending time with my kids doing fun activities, but leave the rest to my wife. Having a wife at home means I can go on work trips, take clients out to dinner, work late at the office, and spend weekends golfing or hiking with my friends if I want -- and know when I do get home, there will be a hot meal waiting for me.

Cringe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. I like coming home to a clean house, a happy wife and a hot meal. I make enough so money is not an issue.

+1. I love my job and don't like raising kids/household chores. I like spending time with my kids doing fun activities, but leave the rest to my wife. Having a wife at home means I can go on work trips, take clients out to dinner, work late at the office, and spend weekends golfing or hiking with my friends if I want -- and know when I do get home, there will be a hot meal waiting for me.

Cringe.

Seriously. I'm hoping this was a troll, but honestly this is why I would never be a SAHm to my husband. I think this is the way he would think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet the answer would depend on how old the kids are. I assume there are probably lots of men who might wonder what their wives do all day, once the kids are in school full-time. I know my guy friends have wondered this aloud to me. But when the kids are really young, it's cool for the wives to be home with them.

it would probably also depend on the salary that's not being earned. a $30K earner isn't going to have much impact on the family if the husband makes a lot, but a $100K salary could make a big difference.

Nope. Not in this house. I didn't stay at home until the older kids went to school. One of my school-aged sons threw up this morning. You can bet that my husband, away on business, doesn't want to deal with that. It seems like there is always a snow day/ doctor's appt/ after school sports/illness, especially when you have three kids.

Agree. I am a SAHM of 4 school age kids. While I am sure my husband would love the extra income, he literally wouldn't know how to handle things like snow days, needing to pick up the kids early if they got sick, etc. He has always had me around to take care of that.

[Anonymous]

A good reason for both parents to be involved in childcare and running the house, IMO.