Husbands: do you secretly wish your SAH wives bought in a paycheck?

[Anonymous]

No judgments, just looking for honest answers.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Speaking for my DH - NO.

I sah and want to go back to work and my dh and kids veto every single attempt. They beg and plead and want me to be home. Makes me feel real good, i'll admit!

[Anonymous]

No, it's a win win. I haven't been in a grocery store or Target in twelve years. I don't do laundry, clean or run errands. Now if she only had a trust fund...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Speaking for my DH - NO.

I sah and want to go back to work and my dh and kids veto every single attempt. They beg and plead and want me to be home. Makes me feel real good, i'll admit!

if you want to go back to work, then you should go back to work. please don't let other people dictate your life.

signed, SAHM who is headed back to work FT next week.

to answer OP's question…probably.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

No.

What she contributes if worth far more than a paycheck.

[Anonymous]

If I go back to work we will have to hire someone for all the services I do on a daily basis. However, I do substitute from time to time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Speaking for my DH - NO.

I sah and want to go back to work and my dh and kids veto every single attempt. They beg and plead and want me to be home. Makes me feel real good, i'll admit!

if you want to go back to work, then you should go back to work. please don't let other people dictate your life.

signed, SAHM who is headed back to work FT next week.

to answer OP's question…probably.

Good for you. And my situation is good for me too.

My paycheck is not needed. I have also earned enough as a WOHM and invested wisely.

And, right now, my presence at home has more value to my kids and DH. No one dictates anything to me...unless I let them dictate it to me.

I will go back and do something that I love, when the kids are launched. I was answering the question of DH wanting me to bring a paycheck. Hell, NO!

[Anonymous]

I can speak for my DH. No way.

I know this because if I even hint at going back, he starts stressing. I'm sure he would find a way to be supportive if it's what I wanted. But he wouldn't like it.

[Anonymous]

All the 'no's' are from SAHMs!!!

DH has men confide all the time they wish their women brought in $ and bitch that they do nothing now that kids are in school 6.5 hours everyday.

I WAH with a high salary so they even have been known to say the same to me.

We know two DHs about to lose their jobs with wives that haven't worked in ages.

[Anonymous]

No.

[Anonymous]

Curious, what kind of HHI do PPs have? How much would the SAH parent earn in the workforce?

I know my DH would be aghast if I SAH, because our HHI would be less than half (we make nearly equal amounts, me slightly more).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the 'no's' are from SAHMs!!!

DH has men confide all the time they wish their women brought in $ and bitch that they do nothing now that kids are in school 6.5 hours everyday.

I WAH with a high salary so they even have been known to say the same to me.

We know two DHs about to lose their jobs with wives that haven't worked in ages.

Seriously. Why are SAHMs answering? Like your DH's would tell you.

[Anonymous]

DH here. I am glad my DW has a great career.

The fact that we both work makes child care harder, but it works for us.