My Husband Wants Me to Dress Like an Old Maid for an Outing that Will Include His Work Colleagues.

[Anonymous]

OP, little off topic for your event this weekend but have you considered reduction surgery? It sounds like the big boobs are causing you to not want to go out, causing problems with your DH and your "friends", and it's difficult to dress appropriately. As women age it's hard for big boobs to look anything but matronly. It really is such an unattractive look unless you are a stripper. I've recently lost weight and a couple of cup sizes and it's 100% better. Clothes actually fit and I don't look bigger than I am. Something to consider.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did we time warp to the 1950s? People actually allow their husbands to dictate what they wear? Wow.

+1

I'd be angry if my husband tried to pick out my clothes! I'd refuse to wear them just on principle.

OP if you want to minimize your bust, consult a personal shopper or look up some ideas on fashion blogs, there are plenty of sites out there to address this issue.

What if DH showed up like this at your major work function.

If DH suddenly morphed into this guy he could where whatever the hell he wanted, wherever and whenever!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did we time warp to the 1950s? People actually allow their husbands to dictate what they wear? Wow.

+1

I'd be angry if my husband tried to pick out my clothes! I'd refuse to wear them just on principle.

OP if you want to minimize your bust, consult a personal shopper or look up some ideas on fashion blogs, there are plenty of sites out there to address this issue.

What if DH showed up like this at your major work function.

If DH suddenly morphed into this guy he could where whatever the hell he wanted, wherever and whenever!

*wear

[Anonymous]

Why does it some posters are giving OP haterade for not being falsely modest? I can't stand that.

[Anonymous]

OP - If what your DH has selected for you to wear is going to make you feel ugly/uncomfortable, then you are likely to give off a negative vibe the whole time.

I would try to find a compromise item - something that is modest and appropriate but doesn't make you feel like you're dressed like an old maid.

People are going to talk - you've already established that. So have them talk about how personable/nice/pleasant you are, rather than how awful old-maidy or slutty you looked.

I'm sure there must be a happy medium in there somewhere!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeans, blouse & blazer?

Sounds to me that a maxi dress might not be structured enough for someone with your figure.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, little off topic for your event this weekend but have you considered reduction surgery? It sounds like the big boobs are causing you to not want to go out, causing problems with your DH and your "friends", and it's difficult to dress appropriately. As women age it's hard for big boobs to look anything but matronly. It really is such an unattractive look unless you are a stripper. I've recently lost weight and a couple of cup sizes and it's 100% better. Clothes actually fit and I don't look bigger than I am. Something to consider.

OP, don't listen to this goofy suggestiin from this big boob hater. People always "suggest" that big chested women get a reduction for their presumptuous off base reasons. PP, you dont cut off a body part because other women lack self-esteem. I hope you dont have any big busted friends. If so, they probably find you pathetic.

[Anonymous]

How about something from the Tyler Perry Madea line?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, little off topic for your event this weekend but have you considered reduction surgery? It sounds like the big boobs are causing you to not want to go out, causing problems with your DH and your "friends", and it's difficult to dress appropriately. As women age it's hard for big boobs to look anything but matronly. It really is such an unattractive look unless you are a stripper. I've recently lost weight and a couple of cup sizes and it's 100% better. Clothes actually fit and I don't look bigger than I am. Something to consider.

OP, don't listen to this goofy suggestiin from this big boob hater. People always "suggest" that big chested women get a reduction for their presumptuous off base reasons. PP, you dont cut off a body part because other women lack self-esteem. I hope you dont have any big busted friends. If so, they probably find you pathetic.

+1. I've had this "casually suggested" to me for the last 20 years. I'm actually a natural body-builder so my upper body has no problem holding up the twins. I also never complain and don't ask for advice. Still, there's always some small busted person out there to inform me that my back must hurt and I should probably get a reduction. Honey, your man would still want me so that won't matter!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about something from the Tyler Perry Madea line?

What would you wear then?

[Anonymous]

Also, I want to make clear I'm certain that friends who are making insecure comments to me- are insecure. Simple. Done. I don't like posting books on here, so please just go with that simple statement. We're friends and have discussed this for more than 20 years. Everyone is different, everyone has different tastes and confidence levels. I respect my friends and they respect me. I have a ton of confident friends (some big boob sisters, some small). I totally agree with their perspectives most of the time, etc...

You are the one who randomly brought up these friends in relation to your husband's request that you wear a certain outfit. Nobody asked you about them out of the blue. If it isn't germane, I don't know why you raised it.

[Anonymous]

^^and the point of your post is.... YAWN

[Anonymous]

Perhaps it's not so much that you have a huge rack but more that for a long time you've likely dressed way too trampy and now you're getting older and it's looking even trampier? And your husband doesn't have the heart to tell you this in these terms? I really think that you might not have clear self-awareness on how you present to the rest of the world and I think you have spent a lifetime feeding of the attention that your breasts earn you and that's hard not to use as a crutch. I commend you for your confidence...I just suspect your confidence is clouding how the rest of the world sees you. To put it bluntly, while I bet your husband fell for you partly because of how sexy you seemed to him, I'm wondering if he's now struggling with feelings of embarassment? Do you invest in really good bras? If not, you should. If you live in Silver Spring there is a terrific woman at Dor-Ne Corset shop on Georgia Ave who can fit you perfectly and make the most of your bust.

[Anonymous]

^^ Now OP is an aging tramp?! This thread has gone beserk. I'm not shocked though. Big boobs is a really sore subject to many. Big boob girl, here. OP, you knew you were rolling the dice posting on here. Next time say you're a flat chested stay at home mom looking to spruce it up. You would get tons of supportive messages.

[Anonymous]

^^I am a big boobed girl and I stand by my assessment based on what OP offed up. She is self-obsessed with her breasts and they figure prominently into her self-worth. That is very clear.