No help with #2... Now what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

No question that nannying for 2 young babies is hard, but jeeesh. Are you breastfeeding the infant twins too, 24/7? Managing postpartum hormones, whether they are the blues or more serious PPD?? Quite frankly, as the mother of two young kids who had a similar situation to OP (but throw in an inter-state move a couple of weeks postpartum), I was lucky to have some help from my mother. I might have been able to do it without her, but I would've been a lot more stressed. No question that nannying for 2 babies is very hard work, but toddlers often just don't act up or act out in the same way towards a nanny as they do toward their mothers, and let's face it -- you are getting paid AND you get to clock out. Sounds like you do work a lot of hours, but there isn't a mother on the planet who wouldn't kill for 5 nights and 1 day off each week from their work. You're basically describing a totally different situation, apples to oranges. And regardless, you sound like a self-righteous biatch anyways.

OP, good luck. You have a lot of great ideas here. Implement what you can and go easy on yourself! It will all settle down within a couple of blurry months.

[Anonymous]

I had my second when my first was 18 months old. My Mom came for the first week but that is it. My DH was also traveling a lot at the time. It was tough, but I got through it. I made sure to get the kids out of the house everyday, I found an exercise class where I could bring them, and I tried to be as organized as possible.

You can do it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will be fine.

When I had my second child, my oldest was 21 months. Husband was in the military and had to deploy when second child was 2 weeks. So you are already better off than I was by one week. He was was gone 6 months. How many months will your husband be gone before he will get to come home again? If less than six months, you have it easy!

I had no "mothers helper". I had no cleaning lady. I did it all my self. And we were not in an area where there was "peapod" or other grocery delivery. Honestly, your situation sounds like a piece of cake.

Too bad I'm not you, right? You sound so awesome, do you want a badge?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is bumming me out. There sure are a lot of dick women out here. Sorry so many of you raised your kids with no help, but fuck, maybe you didn't have any help because you're assholes and nobody wanted to help you.

THIS!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

Oh shut up!

OP here. I'm a former nanny and you're a bitch. I've cared for multiples along with older siblings but I never had to cook, clean, feed them and be on the clock 24/7. My charges never had sibling jealousy and I was not recovering from a C-section while carrying for them. I didn't have to do groceries, pay bills, take them to constant doctors appointments and the best part of all is that I could go HOME after I was done with them.

You're a horrible excuse of a human being and I hope your bosses don't find out. Poor children!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

And then you go home. Moms never get to leave.

If you can't do the time, don't do the crime principle applies to having children. If you can't take care of them, don't have them. Simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

And then you go home. Moms never get to leave.

If you can't do the time, don't do the crime principle applies to having children. If you can't take care of them, don't have them. Simple.

You stink!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

I am a nanny here too...please shut up. As much as we might be in the lives of our charges, it is absolutely not the same thing as being the parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

And then you go home. Moms never get to leave.

If you can't do the time, don't do the crime principle applies to having children. If you can't take care of them, don't have them. Simple.

Guess most of the world shouldn't have kids then. You really think people are just born with the means and money to be stay at home parents or something?? And what 'crime'??? You are so damn ignorant of the world around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

And then you go home. Moms never get to leave.

[b]

Nanny would do more work than this Mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

Oh shut up!

OP here. I'm a former nanny and you're a bitch. I've cared for multiples along with older siblings but I never had to cook, clean, feed them and be on the clock 24/7. My charges never had sibling jealousy and I was not recovering from a C-section while carrying for them. I didn't have to do groceries, pay bills, take them to constant doctors appointments and the best part of all is that I could go HOME after I was done with them.

You're a horrible excuse of a human being and I hope your bosses don't find out. Poor children!

[b]

Sounds like you were a pretty shitty nanny if you can't even handle your own kids after all that experience. You have anger issues too, lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

Oh shut up!

OP here. I'm a former nanny and you're a bitch. I've cared for multiples along with older siblings but I never had to cook, clean, feed them and be on the clock 24/7. My charges never had sibling jealousy and I was not recovering from a C-section while carrying for them. I didn't have to do groceries, pay bills, take them to constant doctors appointments and the best part of all is that I could go HOME after I was done with them.

You're a horrible excuse of a human being and I hope your bosses don't find out. Poor children!

[b]

Sounds like you were a pretty shitty nanny if you can't even handle your own kids after all that experience. You have anger issues too, lady.

WTH are you talking about? Have you tried dealing with your charges 24/7 while breastfeeding and recovering from major abdominal surgery with no break? Yeah, I didn't think so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

Oh shut up!

OP here. I'm a former nanny and you're a bitch. I've cared for multiples along with older siblings but I never had to cook, clean, feed them and be on the clock 24/7. My charges never had sibling jealousy and I was not recovering from a C-section while carrying for them. I didn't have to do groceries, pay bills, take them to constant doctors appointments and the best part of all is that I could go HOME after I was done with them.

You're a horrible excuse of a human being and I hope your bosses don't find out. Poor children!

Sounds like you were a pretty shitty nanny if you can't even handle your own kids after all that experience. You have anger issues too, lady.

[b]WTH are you talking about? Have you tried dealing with your charges 24/7 while breastfeeding and recovering from major abdominal surgery with no break? Yeah, I didn't think so.


Uhhhhhhh the husband is home for 4 weeks... Besides, this lady sounds too high maintenance to breastfeed.

[Anonymous]

Even if the DH travels a few days a week OP is a serious drama queen. Get a doula and stop whining.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- Women seem to have no problem expecting a nanny to do this. We manage just fine... You sound like a drama queen. I work 60 hrs a week with infant twins and also sleep over twice a night, plus do the brochure and housekeeping. Get a grip, lady.

Oh shut up!

OP here. I'm a former nanny and you're a bitch. I've cared for multiples along with older siblings but I never had to cook, clean, feed them and be on the clock 24/7. My charges never had sibling jealousy and I was not recovering from a C-section while carrying for them. I didn't have to do groceries, pay bills, take them to constant doctors appointments and the best part of all is that I could go HOME after I was done with them.

You're a horrible excuse of a human being and I hope your bosses don't find out. Poor children!

Sounds like you were a pretty shitty nanny if you can't even handle your own kids after all that experience. You have anger issues too, lady.

[b]WTH are you talking about? Have you tried dealing with your charges 24/7 while breastfeeding and recovering from major abdominal surgery with no break? Yeah, I didn't think so.


Uhhhhhhh the husband is home for 4 weeks... Besides, this lady sounds too high maintenance to breastfeed.

You're quoting me. I'm the OP. I had a C-sec with #1 and breastfed for 18 months, what makes you think that I won't breastfeed my second child? Seriously, what's your problem? I'm still hurting thinking of all the time I haven't seen my mom, the fact that she doesn't even know DC1 yet... I'm working on processing my feelings and looking for SUPPORT. What makes you believe you're being helpful with such horrible words? Do you take pleasure in hurting other people? If yes, this is truly messed up and if you're the nanny PP you should not be working with children.