Try to top my MIL story

[Anonymous]

my MIL from first marriage told her daughter (my SIL) that she wished she had aborted her when she could. Daughter was in 20's.

[Anonymous]

I would be totally unaffected by someone cutting my 2.5 year old's hair even for the 1st time. Now if she cut my 9 year old's hair, I would be pissed, but really at 2.5, who cares what their hair looks like?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be totally unaffected by someone cutting my 2.5 year old's hair even for the 1st time. Now if she cut my 9 year old's hair, I would be pissed, but really at 2.5, who cares what their hair looks like?

Because sometimes they have beautiful baby curls that disappear after the first haircut. My DD has unbelievable spirals that have now grown long and as soon as she has her first cut they will be gone forever. That's why.

[Anonymous]

My inlaws had DS's hair cut the first time, too. "OH he wanted it!" they said - Lovely long ringlets. Luckily, they grow back. And MIL and FIL have them cut again, and again (never do they ask) Finally when DS came home sad re: his hair cut, i told him it's o.k. to say "no." We discussed it in front of in-laws, and now I think he knows it's o.k. to have his hair the way HE wants it. DH has long long curly hair, so DS really values his own locks. He also values his grands' so it was confusing for him - but now I think he knows it's o.k. I hope. Definitely beyond reasonable boundaries for inlaws to do things like this w/out consent IMHO.

[Anonymous]

SIL agreed to come and help out after the birth of our second child. She hadn't met the first child and it would be great for them to get to know each other while I care for the newborn. Well, we did live in a tourist destination and she brought her boyfriend. DH was not able to have paternity because he had more important military obligations. We were also planning a move and wanted to get a jump on packing while his sister was there. Not to mention I would have liked a nap and some one to cook for me after having a c-section.

Nope, SIL left DC1 with DH and I and left us hanging while she and her boyfriend took our only car and went sight seeing. They had arrived the day before my birthday and I woke up and made our traditional birthday breakfast, took care of laundry, children, and did a hell of a lot of nursing before vacuuming. They didn't offer to stay and have my birthday dinner together or tell me happy birthday.

The day I got both kids down for a nap and fell asleep on the couch, SIL's BF came in and spoke in a very loud voice about how everyone was always napping. That's what you do when you have 2 under 1.5.

I didn't care at all when MIL and FIL took the kids for their first haircuts. It seemed like such a small incident in comparison.

[Anonymous]

I posted before about MIL suggesting the SIL's baby get my expressed breast milk and I give my kid formula for those instead so that way both babies get some breastmilk, afterall my baby did not really need only breastmilk and SIL was finding breastfeeding so difficult...... I cannot find the link

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Anonymous wrote:It's just hair. Get over it. She probably thought she was doing you a favor. You can take him for all of the other hundreds of haircuts he will need before he leaves for college.

Must be a MIL with poor boundaries chiming in to justify all the obnoxious things she has done.

[Anonymous]

We told my MIL we would call after the babies were born and please not to show up until then. Of course she arrived at the hospital during my labor and tried to sneak back to the delivery suite...the nurses turned her back. And then after my emergency C-section, my twins were taken to the NICU and nobody but the parents were allowed in because of the swine flu threat. Well, my MIL tried to sneak into the NICU to see them by saying she was THEIR MOTHER. She was quite adamant about it until hospital security showed up and then she insisted she had been saying GRANDmother all along.

I am friends with some of the NICU nurses and they laugh about it to this day. But it still pisses me off.

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I have posted this story around many times but it's so absurd I will put it up again. We rarely went to my MIL house and when DS was 18 months we went over for a BBQ. At one point MIL and SIL were inside and DS wanted to go in with them. I thought nothing of it and figured they were watching him. About 5 minutes later I decided to walk in to get soomething only to find my toddler walking out of her bedroom with a loaded handgun. I wish I was kidding. Her husband (DH's stepfather) had left a loaded handgun laying on the floor next to their bed! Needless to say I picked up DS and we left immediately, have never been back and that was over 2 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We told my MIL we would call after the babies were born and please not to show up until then. Of course she arrived at the hospital during my labor and tried to sneak back to the delivery suite...the nurses turned her back. And then after my emergency C-section, my twins were taken to the NICU and nobody but the parents were allowed in because of the swine flu threat. Well, my MIL tried to sneak into the NICU to see them by saying she was THEIR MOTHER. She was quite adamant about it until hospital security showed up and then she insisted she had been saying GRANDmother all along.

I am friends with some of the NICU nurses and they laugh about it to this day. But it still pisses me off.

They should have arrested her to teach her a lesson.

[Anonymous]

My MIL vaccinated some of my kids against my explicit wishes. (I vaccinate for almost everything, just on a different schedule.). Things like that happen when your MIL is a pediatrician.

It was kind of funny when my kids got a bad case of chicken pox anyway.

Also, (this is actually kind of a sad story), we are a different faith than my ILs. When my MIL's father died, we attended the funeral and the gathering afterwards. My daughter saw her grandmother crying, and went up to her and gently took her hand and said, "Don't cry, Grandma. You'll be together again someday. I'll pray for him, and someday, we'll all be together with God in heaven.". I started crying myself, because she was so little and sweet and sincere.

My MIL stood up and asked for everyone's attention. She said, "my granddaughter just said something that gave me so much comfort. It is amazing how little children know the truth so well. I wanted to share it with everyone. She said my father was reincarnated into the body of a very rich and powerful man."

Everyone cheered.

So many stories...but it could be worse...

[Anonymous]

I actually love my MIL. She is a great mother and grandmother but she has also come a long way since my story. It was our 1st Christmas as a married couple and my gift from her was an apron and a HUGE cookbook of Italian recipes so I could make "all her boy's favorite dishes" (they are Italian). My super independent, career-focused, furthest-thing-from-a-housewife mother was sitting next to me and almost spit her drink out.

[Anonymous]

My MIL is more passive-aggressive than aggressive so it's hard to put a story into this competition. Her specialty is to say "oh, I don't give unsolicited advice, I don't to interfere" but then she does. She doesn't do this to me so much as to my husband and it drives him insane. My two year old was eating with a spoon and fork, which he has been doing for months now, and she made this huge deal, grabbed the fork off of him and was like "let's not give him these things, okay?" It drives my husband nuts. I mean, okay, I guess she thought maybe he'd ram the fork into the back of his throat or something (??) but the whole "let's not" like it's her kid and the tone of the correction is ridiculous. She doesn't do that with me because I think she knows better but she does do this after-the-fact passive aggressive thing. I was a pretty modest person when nursing in public, used a "hooter hider" and everything. (Not that I think other people have to!). But one day my son was particularly distractable so I went to the car to nurse him. MIL later on says "oh, I'm SO glad you've started nursing him in private. I didn't want to say anything, but people were giving you funny glances and I didn't want you to notice and be embarrassed!" Once she saw a picture of my husband giving my son a bottle. It was pumped breast milk but she assumed it was formula and was like "oh, I am SO relieved to see you are using formula, this way you no how much DS is getting and it is just SO much easier on you. You'll wonder why you ever bothered breastfeeding!" When my husband said "it's breastmilk" she was like "Oh no, I would have never said any of that, you know I don't like to give advice, but you know formula will help him sleep through the night, right?"

(BTW, not that I hate formula, but c'mon. We'd made our decision and were very happy with nursing).

When my first was a newborn, they insisted on staying at a hotel but wouldn't rent a car or borrow ours, so my husband had to drive them to and from the hotel every day for 8 days. For our first, we were SUPER cautious and, although our pediatrician gave us the green light to go to open air places (autumn baby) like outdoor restaurants provided baby was either in a stroller covered or in a sling, we were a bit nervous. When baby was like 5 weeks old, the in-laws were visiting and we decided to go out for lunch. MIL was completely into the idea and was looking at menus and everything. No mention of any worry about taking DS out. At the last minute, my husband got nervous and we decided not to go, and my MIL was all "Whew. I thought I was going to have to say something. You just can't take a baby anywhere you want - if he would have caught something (my name) would have blamed herself. Of course, as new parents, you just don't think of those things."

The funny thing is, up until I had children I got along pretty well with my MIL. She's way different from me but I loved (and still do love) her. But there was just this insane period of time where her passive aggressive stuff drove me up one wall and down another. In my view, it's harder to deal with the passive aggressive second guessing than something more overt. Because my husband is all "Oh, I know it's annoying but she's just trying to help - she obviously is trying hard not to say something." And I'm like, oh yeah, she's trying really hard all right!

But in the grand scheme of things, I can deal. I'm not really easily bullied, though. If I were, I think she would make me absolutely miserable. As it is, I just focus on how much she LOVES my children, her grandchildren, and stock up on wine when they visit. (And I'm not a drinker!)

[Anonymous]

My MIL and FIL insisted on being first to fly out to "help" us after first baby was born (we live on opposite coasts as both our families). Then they canceled at the last minute (to "help" another one of their children deal with fixing up a house).

They came out to "help" with number 2, and gave us a bill for $2,000 for their services and food they bought while staying with us (incidentally, they changed their 2 week visit to a 6 week visit without asking so they could get a better deal on plane tickets). DH negotiated them down to $500.

While they were visiting, DH asked them to watch the kids while he went to work and I went to an emergency doctor's appointment (I was having some severe issues). They asked me to make it fast so they could get to a yoga class.

MIL also gave my SIL's kid her first hair cut without asking. So I hid the scissors when they came to visit us.

To be fair, my own mother is a piece of work too, especially around newborns. Perhaps this is why we live on opposite sides of the country as our families.

[Anonymous]

My MIL asked me once asked me "what size are you dear, you look large?" I was a size 8.....
So glad when me and my first husband divorced (no kids) that I'd never have to see that b*tch again.