Try to top my MIL story

[Anonymous]

This is horrible.

My MIL loved letting my DS1 sleep on his stomach when he was an infant because I had asked her not to. LOVED IT.

She also held DS1's stroller out into the road when there was oncoming traffic and I was demanding that she pull it back. She had a smile on her face. FIL screamed at her "Donna, get the stoller back on the side walk!" and she did.

She referred to DS1 as "jabba the hut" due to his adorably chubby physique.

This was 7 years ago - she is now the best grandma on earth. I don't know how the transformation happened but it did. I think part of it is that she now has 6 grandchildren (Ds1 was the first).

[Anonymous]

The grandma is still the same. You are now an experienced mother.

[Anonymous]

My Dad cut dd's hair when he knew I specifically didn't want to. We had had the actual conversation - he thought she needed bangs, I told him I wanted to grow the front out so it could be pulled back, he cut it himself anyway. Didn't tell me about it, but fessed up when I asked. And when I asked whether he had known I didn't want him to, he confirmed that yes, he knew we didn't want it cut.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:my dh once had to wrestle the phone away from his mother because she was calling 911. she said she caught me trying to smother the baby with a pacifier.

I cannot believe this. It makes me laugh, I'm sorry to say. But what an idiot you have as a MIL.

[Anonymous]

My SMIL alway thought I was over protective. I never let SMIL be alone with my 3yo DD. One day I came over to visit and she stated chewing me out for never leaving DD with her. I just ignored her. Then DD and her cousin asked to go outside and play, I said yes and that I would go check and make sure the gates were closed (they live on 5 acres with a raging creek running right behind the house) SMIL said "They are fine, you are too over protective) again I ignored her, good thing, because I was about one minute behind DD, and saw her heading toward the creek, through the open gate. She would have fallen in, because it was muddy, and very steep. That was the last time I took her there.

[Anonymous]

I think the OP MIL was as wrong as wrong can be, but the nutso awards should be divided between the tent in the backyard MIL and the 911 MIL.

[Anonymous]

My SIL was a wacko, and she decided to cut my nephews hair into a "buzz cut" with a pair of scissors. Her and my brother went on a cruise, and we watched him for a week. Of course he looked like a rag doll with his crazy haircut. It looked like she used a weed whacker. So I took him to the barber shop for the first time in his life. He was so cute, and so proud to have a real buzz cut. When my SIL came home, you would have thought I had exposed him to dysentery on purpose. She cussed and called me horrible names and told us she was growing his hair out. So, I have been on the other side of this issue. I know it is not the same as OPs story. BTW they are divorced and my once sweet nephew is 20 and in jail.

[Anonymous]

A friend's MIL did that to her 2.5 year old, except it was her first daughter and she had a headful of gorgeous blonde ringlets. She hacked it into an extremely short, uneven bob with a pair of kitchen sheers, when the mom and dad were sitting in another room. They walked in just as she was completing her handiwork. It was tragic.

The topper though happened to my sister. Her MIL was hosting her 4th grade daughter for her annual summer visit with grandma. This was the first year that my niece began to look like a pre-teen, and grandma was shocked. Her solution was to help her church to set up a week-long revival for my sister's child, culminating in "saving" her on the last day.

My sister and niece are Catholic, BIL is non-practicing Christian and MIL is a small sect of Missionary Baptist.

My sister found out about this when they picked up their daughter and she asked them to purchase her a Bible. My sister said that they had several, take her pick. Her daughter then rolled her eyes and said "I mean a REAL Bible. You wouldn't understand" She then proceded to explain to mom how since she wasn't saved she was going to hell, her church was the spawn of Satin and many other wonderfully inspiring words. Needless to say my niece is no longer allowed to go to church with Grandma, nor does she spend unsupervised visits with her any longer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny did it, OP.

Anyway, my friend gets angry when people call her son Casey HER. He has the longish curly hair too...

Mine, too! My nanny cut it herself and it looked terrible. I couldn't believe it. I just pretended that it didn't happen and took my DD to a hair place later for her first 'official' haircut.

[Anonymous]

Oh OP, that just sucks.

REALLY not trying to one up you, but provide a little humor maybe? My MIL:

Fed my daughter scrambled eggs at 3 months
Put whiskey on her gums one weekend
Poured out our organic whole milk so our daughter "wouldn't get fat."
Told her neighbors that I was breastfeeding, but she was secretly giving her formula to make sure "she got her vitamins."


Perhaps not too bad, but irksome and really irritating.

[Anonymous]

Once I finally decided to divorce my serial cheater husband, my mil told me, "well your contribution to this situation is that sarcastic sense of humor of yours".

Yes, because cheating on your spouse is equally as bad as being "sarcastic".

I'm just being sarcastic in that last sentence, BTW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My take:

OP, your MIL is a pain in the ass, and never should have done that. First hair cuts aren't always so much fun, but it was absolutely your right to choose to wait and a huge breach of trust that she went behind your back.

Pacifier mom, I laughed so hard that I cried reading your post. Seriously. I thought my MIL was a piece of work (true story: she refused to stay in our guest room following a tiny disagreement with her son, and set up a TENT in our BACKYARD for the duration of her stay). But yours absolutely takes the cake. She actually sounds crazy more than just mean or righteous. Eeeek.

Loved the pacifier mom story. Totally horrified at the baptism. But lmao at the tent in the backyard.

[Anonymous]

I may win, but it is not exactly a contest I am happy to win.

My MIL left my five-month old DD on a changing table, left the room to get a washcloth, and DD fell off onto the hardwood floor. But that is not the part that makes me win -- the horrible part is that SHE NEVER TOLD US and did not admit it when confronted. We came home from work, she was rocking DD as if nothing happened. I noticed she was acting weird and when I came close, she said DD got a fat lip from falling forward while sitting up on the floor. I took her, fed her, she seemed fine, I didn't think too much of it.
The next morning, our almost-3 year old woke up, ran into our room and reported "[baby sister] fell off her changing table onto the ground and bled all over!! Her face smashed on the floor and she screamed and screamed and bled and bled!!" He was very excited to tell this news.

MIL denied it. Said the 3 year old made it up. Which was totally unfathomable to us. DH found a bloody washcloth in the bathroom trash can. She claimed she had no idea where it came from.

We took DD to the pediatrician, who said that since the fall was more than 3 feet, she should have been observed overnight. But she was fine. MIL still denied it. FIL claimed he was not there. We did not speak to them for 6 months. (They live 8 hours away.) Slowly, the relationship has repaired. Kind of. I still sometimes can barely stand the sight of her, but we do allow visits (I try to limit to every 8-12 weeks or so, but they try and come more often) and visit them 2x per year. I try and think of it this way -- she is basically a good caretaker. She made a mistake, and was so incredibly scared that we would cut her off from seeing them, that she lied. And then, she couldn't go back on her lie despite it coming out. She is an insecure and sad person. So I try to think of it that way instead of staying mad at her forever, which I easily could do. The kids are older now (3.5 and 5.5) and I don't feel they are in danger when they are with her. I do think she is a liar, but I don't think she would (or could) get my 5.5 year old to lie about something to me.

Oh, she also cut DS's hair for the first time without permission, took DS to see Santa for the first time (while telling us she was going to the library), forces her religion on my kids, makes weight comments to me.....and she's racist and classist.
I win, right??

[Anonymous]

My MIL threw away my very first pumped ahead batch of BM (day 8 after baby was born). I was so proud of those 2.5 ounces and had it sitting on the counter with a stickit note that read '"for the 5pm feeding."

She said she didnt know what it was - even though I was pumping or BFing every 2 hours trying to build a supply. She said the baby should be on formula anyway. Oh and she showed up unannounced after the birth. Top that!

[Anonymous]

Not something done to me personally or my children, but my MIL called my SIL a c*nt b/c SIL wanted to go home to Peru (where she hadn't been in 5 years) instead of visiting MIL for Christmas.