Professionally successful women intimidate me

[Anonymous]

All I can say is THANK GOD you got out of teaching!

another dimwit out of the profession

[Anonymous]

So many people here are really mean. Would women please stop calling other women "bitches". It drives me nuts.

OP sounds like someone who just needs a little confidence boost. I like the advice someone gave her to "be herself". Volunteer to help others; listen to others; be a good friend. People will love you whether you're gorgeous or not. I'm someone who has been a "big wig" at different times of my career. I've always tried making friends with all different kinds of women. If you're a nice person, I'll be your friend. I don't care what you do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All I can say is THANK GOD you got out of teaching!

another dimwit out of the profession

Did it make you feel better to say that? If so, please seek some help for yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP is yet another example of a SAHM who isn't very bright. And a former teacher to boot!

A twofer!

[Anonymous]

Well, OP, I hope you learned your lesson. If you want women of any stripe (professional or otherwise) to like you (or just to play nice), don't acknowledge your looks. Huge eyeroll to the people who think you can't be cute in your 30's. I'm not anymore at 38, BOO!, but I used to be, and I know PLENTY of ladies who have aged so gracefully that they're still quite cute / lovely / pretty / etc well into their forties. In fact, I can think of a super cutie I know who is 49, and will be 50 in a month. She is about the cutest person I know. You could use other adjectives, but cute fits. And it's not cute "in a bad way," either, nor is it cute in a way that doesn't dress in an age-appropriate way, either. She even looks her age. But she's still cute.

Seriously though? Some of these women are really awful. They're either way past 35 and want to make the younger ladies feel bad, or they're not even in their 30's, and want to make the older ladies feel bad. Either way, UGH. If I met some of these women in person, I'd simply ignore them for the sour old biddies or perpetually competitive younguns they are.

either way, those women seem like a snooze.

[Anonymous]

Children, movies, books, current events, "did you see XXXX on XXXXX last night?" blah blah blah....

Do you think professional women want to talk about tort law or management styles all day long? When I leave the office I want to talk about my kids poop, where you got those shoes and last nights episode of the The Voice just as much as a teacher, a SAHM or anyone else. Just because I wear a suit and can fire people - doesn't mean I'm not the same as you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, OP, I hope you learned your lesson. If you want women of any stripe (professional or otherwise) to like you (or just to play nice), don't acknowledge your looks. Huge eyeroll to the people who think you can't be cute in your 30's. I'm not anymore at 38, BOO!, but I used to be, and I know PLENTY of ladies who have aged so gracefully that they're still quite cute / lovely / pretty / etc well into their forties. In fact, I can think of a super cutie I know who is 49, and will be 50 in a month. She is about the cutest person I know. You could use other adjectives, but cute fits. And it's not cute "in a bad way," either, nor is it cute in a way that doesn't dress in an age-appropriate way, either. She even looks her age. But she's still cute.

Seriously though? Some of these women are really awful. They're either way past 35 and want to make the younger ladies feel bad, or they're not even in their 30's, and want to make the older ladies feel bad. Either way, UGH. If I met some of these women in person, I'd simply ignore them for the sour old biddies or perpetually competitive younguns they are.

either way, those women seem like a snooze.

No more of a snoozeroni than OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Seriously though? Some of these women are really awful. They're either way past 35 and want to make the younger ladies feel bad, or they're not even in their 30's, and want to make the older ladies feel bad. Either way, UGH. If I met some of these women in person, I'd simply ignore them for the sour old biddies or perpetually competitive younguns they are.

either way, those women seem like a snooze.

I agree. I am in my early twenties and I know/see plenty of cute, pretty, or beautiful women in their thirties and up. The cutest woman I know is fifty.

The women attacking the OP for saying she's cute sound jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Children, movies, books, current events, "did you see XXXX on XXXXX last night?" blah blah blah....

Do you think professional women want to talk about tort law or management styles all day long? When I leave the office I want to talk about my kids poop, where you got those shoes and last nights episode of the The Voice just as much as a teacher, a SAHM or anyone else. Just because I wear a suit and can fire people - doesn't mean I'm not the same as you.

I don't want to talk about any of that trivial crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is yet another example of a SAHM who isn't very bright. And a former teacher to boot!

A twofer!

And you must be so accomplished and bright it is scary!

OP, don't listen to the meanies. If you a loving mom and a wife, and your marriage is satisfying, you might be - without even realising it - a head above some of those 'professionally accomplished' women who only see their children a couple of hours a day and whose marriages are often just a facade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Children, movies, books, current events, "did you see XXXX on XXXXX last night?" blah blah blah....

Do you think professional women want to talk about tort law or management styles all day long? When I leave the office I want to talk about my kids poop, where you got those shoes and last nights episode of the The Voice just as much as a teacher, a SAHM or anyone else. Just because I wear a suit and can fire people - doesn't mean I'm not the same as you.

I don't want to talk about any of that trivial crap.

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

"The women attacking the OP for saying she's cute sound jealous. "


Just.like.high.school.

[Anonymous]

OP, it happens to us career girls too. I have a regular job (mid level manager and I used to be a teacher) and DH is a lawyer and I am not insecure but being around all the female lawyers can stress me out. I am usually secure, but man, after a cocktail party when I was teaching, and hearing one too many times that it was so "cute" that I was teacher, I would get pretty frustrated. Some women will look down on you, some don't even care. You have to work really hard to ignore that stuff and focus on what you enjoy. You don't need the approval of those women. Imagine if you DID have their approval. What would be the change in your quality of life? NIL. They don't do anything for you. So, move on and you will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just.be.yourself.

This. You never know what's going on in other people's lives and heads. Everybody's got insecurities.

[Anonymous]

I'm not cute, I'm 5'10" and a brunette, so cute is not a descriptor for me.

One of my friends is 38 and she is petite, blonde, and adorable. All of the husbands can't get their dicks down when they are around her. She definitly qualifies at cute. However she is a business owner, so she is a double threat.