What's It Like Being Married to a Smart Man?

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PP Please omit the though in the last sentence. I've been pushing send without proof reading. :-X

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My DH has an amazing ability to remember facts, data, what we ate at a restaurant in Italy ten years ago. He also has an amazing sense of direction...can find his way anywhere. I can't retain details but am a better analytical thinker, and have a pretty intuitive sense of people and where they are coming from. Different intelligences, and we work well together as a team.

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Anonymous wrote:To your question, OP. The answer is, it's ANNOYING. Can ramble on for hours about chaos theory but can't figure out how to load the dishwasher without breaking a dish.

My husband is very smart. So am I. Can he find the one baby item he needs on a table with five items without asking me where it is? No. But I married him and I point out where the item is. Maybe I'm not so smart after all.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a similar marriage to yours, OP. Except my husband is the exceptionally intelligent person (Mensa) while I was simply smart enough.

Like you, he also was impatient if he has to 'explain' things to me. Truthfully, the problem isn't my comprehension it's the fact that he doesn't realize that we have different life experiences and educational backgrounds. I honestly don't know what it means when he brings up scientific journals. Not bc I'm dense but bc I have degrees in music, not science. He knows music as well bc he is so intelligent (not sarcasm) that he studied that as well. He just doesn't understnad sometimes how I don't know everything he does. I think this is the problem with you and your husband, OP.

Be nicer, be more patient, don't be such a jerk or he will leave you. It took my moving out for my DH to realize the problem was never me. We're happily married now but it took work.

MENSA is highly overrated. I wrote the above about the dishwasher. I'm MENSA, but you would never know it. My husband is, you would know it immediately, and he's an idiot around the house.

You would know my husband is Mensa and he is highly competent at everything that he does. I agree that Mensa is overrated but I just wanted to give the 'proof' of how intelligent he is. He really is amazing now but as I mentioned it took my leaving for him to become more self aware. I'm glad that he learned, though.

I have to admit, though, that your dishwasher story made me laugh.

Mensa 98% isn't that smart. I know because I could join based on my SAT scores for chrissakes and I'm not that smart. Of course, I took a lot of drugs after that so maybe that had something to do with it. On the other hand I still managed to be 99%ile in my law school. Anyway, try Prometheus or Mega society. That's smart.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people are smart in different ways OP. I'm a lawyer and my husband is an MBA. He can find any place on a map and get there blindfolded. I can't read a map to save my life. But, I can do a lot of other things. I complimented DH the other day when we were driving somewhere. He turned the compliment around back to me saying...you can't get us there...but you're the one who finds the best deals on everything so that we can go to more restaurants, movies, trips, etc. That was a really nice way for him to sum up our respective strengths.

This. My husband is intellectually smarter than I am, but I am better with people and other communication skills. DH isn't odd and both of us can play in the others space (I can be the intellectual one, and I think at work many think I am; he can be the social, very funny one). Together I think we make the perfect person. Everyone has shortcomings, just don't marry the person who has the same ones as you.

[Anonymous]

" Everyone has shortcomings, just don't marry the person who has the same ones as you. "

Or a pencil dick.

[Anonymous]

DH is creative and has a engineering/science background. He puts me down frequently for not knowing the "basics" of science in biology, physics, etc. because he comes from a country where educational standards are much higher than in the US.

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Anonymous wrote:DH is creative and has a engineering/science background. He puts me down frequently for not knowing the "basics" of science in biology, physics, etc. because he comes from a country where educational standards are much higher than in the US.

DH sounds like an asshole. An asshole with a good education.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is creative and has a engineering/science background. He puts me down frequently for not knowing the "basics" of science in biology, physics, etc. because he comes from a country where educational standards are much higher than in the US.

DH sounds like an asshole. An asshole with a good education.

Nope, just a"creative" asshole. Why the fock did PP marry him?

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Anonymous wrote:DH is creative and has a engineering/science background. He puts me down frequently for not knowing the "basics" of science in biology, physics, etc. because he comes from a country where educational standards are much higher than in the US.

What an asshole.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is creative and has a engineering/science background. He puts me down frequently for not knowing the "basics" of science in biology, physics, etc. because he comes from a country where educational standards are much higher than in the US.

What an asshole.

Please tell me you haven't reproduced with this idiot, please.

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Anonymous wrote:" Everyone has shortcomings, just don't marry the person who has the same ones as you. "

Or a pencil dick.

I guess you don't want no short dick man.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH is creative and has a engineering/science background. He puts me down frequently for not knowing the "basics" of science in biology, physics, etc. because he comes from a country where educational standards are much higher than in the US.

What an asshole.

What country is he from? Not that it's hard to find countries with higher educational standards than the US.

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18:49 - you're kidding, right?

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Anonymous wrote:18:49 - you're kidding, right?

Maybe you misread? 18:49 makes the case that there are many countries with higher educational standards, which for primary and secondary education is pretty well known. I am not sure where we rank, but it is easily in the 20s among countries. Many countries in Europe and Asia in particular have significantly more rigorous requirements through high school.