My 4-yr old son obsessed w/girl stuff-IS IT NORMAL??

[Anonymous]

I'd discourage him from picking that kind of costume simply because it would open him up to unnecessary ridicule.

Discourage or forbid? I would want my boys to know if they were opening themselves up to ridicule, but I would let them know that it's really the ridicule -ers who are ridiculous, and Halloween costumes are their choice unless they're offensive or a lot of work for me.

[Anonymous]

"Guy"- If the only reason you wouldn't let your son wear a princess costume is because you wanted to protect him from ridicule, that might be reason enough. But I doubt that's your only reason (though I'm speculating here...) If you could be sure that your son's school were supportive and intolerant of bullying of any sort, and that your son's friends wouldn't care, then there should be no reason for you to stop him from expressing himself, right? If there is, I suspect it's YOUR insecurity that's the problem and nothing else.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Guy"- If the only reason you wouldn't let your son wear a princess costume is because you wanted to protect him from ridicule, that might be reason enough. But I doubt that's your only reason (though I'm speculating here...) If you could be sure that your son's school were supportive and intolerant of bullying of any sort, and that your son's friends wouldn't care, then there should be no reason for you to stop him from expressing himself, right? If there is, I suspect it's YOUR insecurity that's the problem and nothing else.

what color is the sky in your world? I don't live on fantasyland, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Guy"- If the only reason you wouldn't let your son wear a princess costume is because you wanted to protect him from ridicule, that might be reason enough. But I doubt that's your only reason (though I'm speculating here...) If you could be sure that your son's school were supportive and intolerant of bullying of any sort, and that your son's friends wouldn't care, then there should be no reason for you to stop him from expressing himself, right? If there is, I suspect it's YOUR insecurity that's the problem and nothing else.

what color is the sky in your world? I don't live on fantasyland, unfortunately.

It's a simple 'yes' or 'no' question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Guy"- If the only reason you wouldn't let your son wear a princess costume is because you wanted to protect him from ridicule, that might be reason enough. But I doubt that's your only reason (though I'm speculating here...) If you could be sure that your son's school were supportive and intolerant of bullying of any sort, and that your son's friends wouldn't care, then there should be no reason for you to stop him from expressing himself, right? If there is, I suspect it's YOUR insecurity that's the problem and nothing else.

what color is the sky in your world? I don't live on fantasyland, unfortunately.

It's a simple 'yes' or 'no' question.

of course the answer would be yes, why would I possibly care? but on planet Earth, the answer is no, because I have common sense and know that everyone would be staring and laughing at the poor kid. and I just briefly read that blogpost and think the mother is an imbecile.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Guy"- If the only reason you wouldn't let your son wear a princess costume is because you wanted to protect him from ridicule, that might be reason enough. But I doubt that's your only reason (though I'm speculating here...) If you could be sure that your son's school were supportive and intolerant of bullying of any sort, and that your son's friends wouldn't care, then there should be no reason for you to stop him from expressing himself, right? If there is, I suspect it's YOUR insecurity that's the problem and nothing else.

what color is the sky in your world? I don't live on fantasyland, unfortunately.

It's a simple 'yes' or 'no' question.

of course the answer would be yes, why would I possibly care? but on planet Earth, the answer is no, because I have common sense and know that everyone would be staring and laughing at the poor kid. and I just briefly read that blogpost and think the mother is an imbecile.

woman here, and I totally agree with the "guy" and please...give me a fucking break. I would never let my son go out with a pink poodle purse and polish nails...ahhh come on! and please don't come with this bullshit : "let your son do what he wants"...I BET this is the policy of those parents who had the disgrace in their lives because their little babies decided to get a gun and shot everybody at the fucking school, mall or whatever.

I also find totally ridiculous Angelina Jolie with that awful daughter wearing only boy's clothes. She also said, she does because she wants! the same to parents who let their children go out in pijamas or costumes when it is not halloween. ALL OF YOU ARE RIDICULOUS!!! and this is a very american way of parenting. The kid almost break the fucking house because she doesn't want the blue cup but the green one. the damn kid almost missed the dentist app because she didn't want the pink shirt but the purple one....afff

let's do what they want! always! the world will teach them that things don't happen as we want....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"Guy"- If the only reason you wouldn't let your son wear a princess costume is because you wanted to protect him from ridicule, that might be reason enough. But I doubt that's your only reason (though I'm speculating here...) If you could be sure that your son's school were supportive and intolerant of bullying of any sort, and that your son's friends wouldn't care, then there should be no reason for you to stop him from expressing himself, right? If there is, I suspect it's YOUR insecurity that's the problem and nothing else.

what color is the sky in your world? I don't live on fantasyland, unfortunately.

It's a simple 'yes' or 'no' question.

of course the answer would be yes, why would I possibly care? but on planet Earth, the answer is no, because I have common sense and know that everyone would be staring and laughing at the poor kid. and I just briefly read that blogpost and think the mother is an imbecile.

woman here, and I totally agree with the "guy" and please...give me a fucking break. I would never let my son go out with a pink poodle purse and polish nails...ahhh come on! and please don't come with this bullshit : "let your son do what he wants"...I BET this is the policy of those parents who had the disgrace in their lives because their little babies decided to get a gun and shot everybody at the fucking school, mall or whatever.

I also find totally ridiculous Angelina Jolie with that awful daughter wearing only boy's clothes. She also said, she does because she wants! the same to parents who let their children go out in pijamas or costumes when it is not halloween. ALL OF YOU ARE RIDICULOUS!!! and this is a very american way of parenting. The kid almost break the fucking house because she doesn't want the blue cup but the green one. the damn kid almost missed the dentist app because she didn't want the pink shirt but the purple one....afff

let's do what they want! always! the world will teach them that things don't happen as we want....

Maybe it's ridiculous to support your child's own interests and preferences but, mark my words, your kids are going to HATE you one day. You will be a very sad and lonely old woman when they are grown up and can make their own choices. I feel really sorry for you and your kids.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you sound unpleasantly angry, 15:44 PP. There's no reason not to let kids experiment with constructing their identity by trying on different clothes. That's what play is: experimenting with life.

It's not exactly a slippery slope to gun violence -- parents aren't suggesting letting their kids play with weapons "because they want to." I'm pretty sure the parents with the guns around the house aren't usually the ones with the little boys in drag, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Guy back, and 100% agree with 15:44.

and 15:49, my parents had the sense not to every absurd whim of me (or my sisters) when we were children, and I love my parents very much as an adult. My guess is it is the pampered indulged kids who grow up hating their parents. But do what you think is best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you sound unpleasantly angry, 15:44 PP. There's no reason not to let kids experiment with constructing their identity by trying on different clothes. That's what play is: experimenting with life.

It's not exactly a slippery slope to gun violence -- parents aren't suggesting letting their kids play with weapons "because they want to." I'm pretty sure the parents with the guns around the house aren't usually the ones with the little boys in drag, anyway.

re bolded part: agree. but dressing up in women's clothes at home in front of mom is different from walking around the neighborhood or school in high heels and painted fingernails. please!

[Anonymous]

Another "woman here" who agrees with "Guy" (and the first "woman here" until she went around the bend). I don't think anyone has posted that they are trying to change a boy's sexual orientation by letting them wear a princess costume or not, but as has already been posted, it's just common sense not to. We don't get to express every part of ourselves in life. We just don't. What if the kid grows up straight and hates you for LETTING him do that? What if he says, "Mom (or dad), I was just a little kid experimenting with gender roles and dress up, but YOU WERE AN ADULT! WHY DIDNT' YOU STOP ME!! All those shocked looks really affected my emotional and psychological development!" Etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy back, and 100% agree with 15:44.

and 15:49, my parents had the sense not to every absurd whim of me (or my sisters) when we were children, and I love my parents very much as an adult. My guess is it is the pampered indulged kids who grow up hating their parents. But do what you think is best.

There's a difference between indulging absurd whims and supporting your child's creative play and individual interests. 15:44 sounds completely crazy and totally controlling and that is why her kids are going to hate her. BTW, "Guy," my mom supported me in all of my interests and she and I ended up best friends. Could not have asked for a better mom. Dad tried to control me and that relationship is extremely strained and difficult. My brother hates him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Guy back, and 100% agree with 15:44.

and 15:49, my parents had the sense not to every absurd whim of me (or my sisters) when we were children, and I love my parents very much as an adult. My guess is it is the pampered indulged kids who grow up hating their parents. But do what you think is best.

There's a difference between indulging absurd whims and supporting your child's creative play and individual interests. 15:44 sounds completely crazy and totally controlling and that is why her kids are going to hate her. BTW, "Guy," my mom supported me in all of my interests and she and I ended up best friends. Could not have asked for a better mom. Dad tried to control me and that relationship is extremely strained and difficult. My brother hates him.

my guess by "control" and with respect to your relationship with your dad, the disagreement goes beyond what costume you wanted to wear when you were 6. If my 8 year old wanted to wear a monkey costume to school this morning, would I let him? of course not.

[Anonymous]

"Guy" and "woman here"...you're cut from the same cloth and you both suck hard.