what schools DON'T have female MS grads in white dresses?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Part of what I am reacting to in the Norwood photos is that there isn’t any deviation from “boys in blue jackets girls in white dresses” that I can see. If there was even one girl in a blue jacket or white pant suit I would find it so much less repelling.

This can't be a serious comment from a sane parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Part of what I am reacting to in the Norwood photos is that there isn’t any deviation from “boys in blue jackets girls in white dresses” that I can see. If there was even one girl in a blue jacket or white pant suit I would find it so much less repelling.

Middle school kids are ultra conformist. It’s the age.

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Anonymous wrote:At my kid’s public school graduation pretty much all the girls were in white. It’s not required or even encouraged, it’s just super trendy right now. It’s not a deb thing. This is not a reason to avoid a school.

This was required for eighth grade at my public school growing up and they were definitely not going to be debs, a lot of those kids weren't going to have another graduation.

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Anonymous wrote:At Congressional’s k-8, the students just have to dress nicely. As of several years ago they dropped the requirement that girls wear dresses and boys wear pants/blazers or suits. The girls never had to wear white; the dresses were all colors. The boys never had to wear white and navy. Most girls still wear dresses but not all. In DC’s year, one boys was in a snazzy plaid suit and fancy hat. OP, you might like that better. The students have pretty much full range of agency to choose as long as the outfit can be described as appropriate for a special occasion (jeans aren’t gonna cut it).

This (bolded) is so unbelievably tacky and screams "look at me."

OP, frankly, get over yourself. Everything is not about you or your child as an "individual" who must express "themselves."

The purpose of a uniform code of dress for males and females is to show that these graduates are joining a long line of tradition, where the school as a unit is more important than Doris who decides she wants to stand out by wearing a black pants suit, or Albert who thinks is so cool to wear his "fancy" hat.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At Congressional’s k-8, the students just have to dress nicely. As of several years ago they dropped the requirement that girls wear dresses and boys wear pants/blazers or suits. The girls never had to wear white; the dresses were all colors. The boys never had to wear white and navy. Most girls still wear dresses but not all. In DC’s year, one boys was in a snazzy plaid suit and fancy hat. OP, you might like that better. The students have pretty much full range of agency to choose as long as the outfit can be described as appropriate for a special occasion (jeans aren’t gonna cut it).

This (bolded) is so unbelievably tacky and screams "look at me."

OP, frankly, get over yourself. Everything is not about you or your child as an "individual" who must express "themselves."

The purpose of a uniform code of dress for males and females is to show that these graduates are joining a long line of tradition, where the school as a unit is more important than Doris who decides she wants to stand out by wearing a black pants suit, or Albert who thinks is so cool to wear his "fancy" hat.

He was a drama kid and a nice boy. My point was that he was allowed to make his own sartorial choices, as was everyone else, and they all looked different. There was even one girl in white! My kid wore teal. OP seems to want the graduation photo to reflect students’ individuality, so this was an example.

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Why do people make a big deal about white dresses? It’s perplexing to me.

We did this at my 8th and 12th grade graduation (private and public). It’s long been a tradition.

Now because it’s a “trend” among teenagers, people are freaking out - LOL.

I don’t know what you’re thinking it implies or means, but it means nothing! Except they want to look cute.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Part of what I am reacting to in the Norwood photos is that there isn’t any deviation from “boys in blue jackets girls in white dresses” that I can see. If there was even one girl in a blue jacket or white pant suit I would find it so much less repelling.

Middle school kids are ultra conformist. It’s the age.

The age and the generation. I don’t know if it’s social media or what but I feel like my kids are much more committed to respectability than we were in the 90s.

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Well, we brought DD a white dress that's great - never really went into it focused on the color but it happens to be white. I don't know that we'd dump it just because it's white but we def did not buy because it is white. I think sometimes you see a lot of white dresses just because it's hot out during the summer??! You wear a black dress to a formal cocktail event even though you can wear other colors but that's just easy. Maybe it's just as easy picking white as a dress color for teens for outdoor formal events at school you know? You do you but it is easy to find a white dress that works and that's about the only reason we have it!

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Anonymous wrote:Well, we brought DD a white dress that's great - never really went into it focused on the color but it happens to be white. I don't know that we'd dump it just because it's white but we def did not buy because it is white. I think sometimes you see a lot of white dresses just because it's hot out during the summer??! You wear a black dress to a formal cocktail event even though you can wear other colors but that's just easy. Maybe it's just as easy picking white as a dress color for teens for outdoor formal events at school you know? You do you but it is easy to find a white dress that works and that's about the only reason we have it!

This is the most defensive comment I’ve read on DCUM in some time. And that’s a high bar.

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It is hot. Many of these schools have outside graduations. White is a traditional and also cooler option to wear vs. black.

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Contrarily, clear defined social rules allow kids on the autism spectrum to function, and the more precise the rules are, the better they do.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Part of what I am reacting to in the Norwood photos is that there isn’t any deviation from “boys in blue jackets girls in white dresses” that I can see. If there was even one girl in a blue jacket or white pant suit I would find it so much less repelling.

This can't be a serious comment from a sane parent.

You obviously haven't had the experience of parenting a kid who was not ultra gender conforming. It's harder than you might think and can be heartbreaking at moments like these.

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Anonymous wrote:It just looks pretty and may be sentimental to mother's who attended such schools.

All grad gowns and mortar boards are dumb. Most of them are pale imitations of the medieval clothes they evolved from. And now they are made out of stuff so terrible it can't even be called cloth.

Mothers, plural, PP.

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I don't see the problem. Graduations happen in summer, and white dresses are totally normal in summer.

What is the concern here?

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Anonymous wrote:Hate to break it to you, but many women wear white dresses for college graduation.

Ew! Where?

Everywhere. They can wear whatever they want but 99% of them seem to want to wear White dresses or outfits.