what schools DON'T have female MS grads in white dresses?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

Seems like an odd thing for so many people here to be vigorously defending too.

Eh, people are vigorously defending the idea of giving very little weight to this widespread tradition in choosing the best school for your kid.

[Anonymous]

This seems like fake outrage. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

Seems like an odd thing for so many people here to be vigorously defending too.

People like it. Makes life easy too because you don't have to worry about what to wear. All the kids will be dressed similarly. What's not to like? Call it defending but there are more up side than down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the regular short white dress triggers you OP, you better not look at the all girls' Catholic high school graduation photos on their websites. You might have a heart attack. I will add one school has a coming out ball where the girls dress like brides and wear long white gloves to be presented by their fathers. It doesn't bother me at all, but you might get a grip because this is what people accept/expect.

What school is that? That is some great patriarchal b.s.

StoneRidge

That is a traditional catholic school
No surprise that they have old traditions
If it isn’t for you then don’t send your daughter.

You can get a look at a typical Tres Bien Ball by just searching that term on Facebook. The fathers present their daughters on stage to the head of school. It is quite the event and the girls love it.

[Anonymous]

White dresses was the main choice for the woman at our son’’s university last and at the university where I work.


It’s easy to find this time of year in a variety of styles and prices.

I agree, how odd you’re repelled but such a nothing burger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Part of what I am reacting to in the Norwood photos is that there isn’t any deviation from “boys in blue jackets girls in white dresses” that I can see. If there was even one girl in a blue jacket or white pant suit I would find it so much less repelling.

You sound extremely judgmental and easily offended. You saw a picture of a group of children on the internet from a school that your own children don’t attend and you don’t approve of the clothes they are wearing based on their gender norms? I thought it was more 21st century to not anonymously judge other people’s kids for their clothes.

[Anonymous]

I’ve yet to see an actual explanation for why people dislike the white dresses.

[Anonymous]

I attended 2 graduations this year: public high school and a private K-8 with no dress code (other than "dress nicely"). At both events, a majority of the girls were wearing white dresses because they chose to.

It's clear that for many kids it's a requirement, and for others, it's a trend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This seems like fake outrage. Get a life.

This. Like if you are buying into the private school power complex this is a weird thing to get upset over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

There were "boys" wearing white dresses that were three inches from the floor??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know Burke isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but a quick glance at their posts from their 8th grade moving up shows several girls in dresses that aren’t white, some in pants/suits, and some of the boys in non-traditional outfits. There are still some girls in white dresses, but it doesn’t look the majority.

If you’re only looking at conservative/traditional schools, you’re gonna see kids in traditional outfits.

OP here. Sounds like Burke might be more our speed. People seem to have really latched on to the white dresses part of my comment when my even larger concern was about the intense gender dichotomy. If people look back at my original post you'll see I was suggesting something more like orchestra rules, where there are coordinating colors that people pick from and that are not strictly gendered. In my example I had white dresses as an option that could coexist along with other options.

And yes, I get that if we went to Stone Ridge, that would be what we were signing up for. Part of what confuses us about Norwood is that the school is walking and talking more thoughtful line when it comes to not forcing round pegs into square holes and vice versa (on gender and other things), and this one day seems very at odds with that. Maybe the graduation pictures are the truth, and the talk is just talk. Or maybe the graduation pictures are out of whack with the school's lived values every other day of the year.

I do have a gender non-conforming kid (not the kid who would be attending Norwood) and so this issue is very much front of mind. that picture therefore caught my eye, and not in a good way.

Appreciate the recs of Lowell, Sheridan Burke, and more.

[Anonymous]

The vast majority of individuals follow the gender dichotomy by choice, even without a strict dress code.
Understandably, this is a litmus test for you and DC thinking about where to attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My daughter graduated from high school today. It is a private school. White dresses which had to be without 3 inches of the floor or dark blue sports jackets, oxfords, khakis and a school tie. Either outfit for either girl or boy but you have to pick.

As parents, we are happy to have the tradition at graduation. We picked the school and I’m thankful they have decades of such traditions.

It seems like an odd thing to get hung up on.

There were "boys" wearing white dresses that were three inches from the floor??

It’s not so shocking to the kids, who by graduation know their classmates well. And I don’t know about the PP’s school, but it’s happened at ours, which has a similar white dress/dark suit dress code.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know Burke isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but a quick glance at their posts from their 8th grade moving up shows several girls in dresses that aren’t white, some in pants/suits, and some of the boys in non-traditional outfits. There are still some girls in white dresses, but it doesn’t look the majority.

If you’re only looking at conservative/traditional schools, you’re gonna see kids in traditional outfits.

OP here. Sounds like Burke might be more our speed. People seem to have really latched on to the white dresses part of my comment when my even larger concern was about the intense gender dichotomy. If people look back at my original post you'll see I was suggesting something more like orchestra rules, where there are coordinating colors that people pick from and that are not strictly gendered. In my example I had white dresses as an option that could coexist along with other options.

And yes, I get that if we went to Stone Ridge, that would be what we were signing up for. Part of what confuses us about Norwood is that the school is walking and talking more thoughtful line when it comes to not forcing round pegs into square holes and vice versa (on gender and other things), and this one day seems very at odds with that. Maybe the graduation pictures are the truth, and the talk is just talk. Or maybe the graduation pictures are out of whack with the school's lived values every other day of the year.

I do have a gender non-conforming kid (not the kid who would be attending Norwood) and so this issue is very much front of mind. that picture therefore caught my eye, and not in a good way.

Appreciate the recs of Lowell, Sheridan Burke, and more.

I think if you had started your original post "I have a gender non-conforming child and would like to find a school that will not have a binary choice for graduation attire based on their gender assigned at birth" you would have gotten some good school recommendations that fit the values of your family. Instead you started by criticizing children on the internet who are wearing traditional formal graduation attire because this doesn't fit your family. Why are you the gender dressing police? Do you see why you sound extremely judgmental and snobbish? How do you know that Norwood is forcing those kids to wear clothes that don't conform with their gender identity? Why do you think this isn't "thoughtful" and out of line with their values?

[Anonymous]

Lol, how many of you wore white wedding dresses?