Postcard as a wedding thank-you -- is this the new norm?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I attended a wedding recently and just received a postcard thank-you for the wedding gift. I had no idea this was a thing! On one side, it had a photo of the couple. On the other side, there were a few pre-printed lines about how lucky the couple is, and then just two short handwritten lines thanking me specifically for my gift, and in the most generic way possible (basically: thank you for the X, we really appreciate it). There were exactly sixteen handwritten words in the whole thing.

Honestly, my middle schooler could have written a more personalized and appreciative thank you: We plan to use your generous gift to do X, we hope to see you at X so we can catch up and tell you about the honeymoon, etc.

Has anyone else felt annoyed by this apparent wedding trend, or am I just being grumpy?

Stop attending weddings . Win-win.

+1. Easiest way to solve this problem.

[Anonymous]

The only reason I want a thank you note from a wedding at all is confirmation that the couple received the gift and knew it was from me. That postcard seems to do the job so I'd be happy with it. I don't need newlyweds spending hours on thank you notes. Heck, I will take a text "thanks for the check/vase/silver/whatever!"

[Anonymous]

Somebody was watching Severance.

[Anonymous]

They handwrote a specific thing. Be glad you got thanked. It sounds fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you give your gift, request the thank you that you want.

I know this is a joke, but when some wedding couples are giving their guests super specific dress codes, this feels... not far off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, my grandmother got married in the late 1940s and sent a cardstock with a photo of the couple and pre-printed lines thanking them for their attendance and gift (not specified). It was put inside an envelope and mailed, though, so not technically a postcard.

I think this was just to let people know the gift was received. A real thank you would have been sent ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not sure it's a trend, but I would be offended. I hope you didn't give an expensive gift. I guess it's better than no thank you note at all though.

Why?

Why what?

[Anonymous]

This is a you problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that this stuff bothers you old biddies.

1) It was a thank you card
2) It DID have handwriting on it
3) The specific gift WAS acknowledged.
4) It was just a bit untraditional.

Stay mad, crones.

Crone, agreeing.

I think it’s nice tbh. I love the idea of having a photo of the couple too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love that this stuff bothers you old biddies.

1) It was a thank you card
2) It DID have handwriting on it
3) The specific gift WAS acknowledged.
4) It was just a bit untraditional.

Stay mad, crones.

Crone, agreeing.

I think it’s nice tbh. I love the idea of having a photo of the couple too.

I think this would be cute if it was a pic from the honeymoon. I’d be fine with a generic note, a brief acknowledgement, or, no card at all. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

It's lazy and I say that as someone who hates writing thank you notes but I always do it.

[Anonymous]

Ha, we have gotten mad lib style ones after kindergarten bday parties and I thought they were great!

But for grownups… kinda weird. I was an exhausted medical resident when I was sending out mine a decade ago and I’d have loved this idea tho.

[Anonymous]

“Is something unusual that has never before happened to me, that I have never before seen, the new norm?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love that this stuff bothers you old biddies.

1) It was a thank you card
2) It DID have handwriting on it
3) The specific gift WAS acknowledged.
4) It was just a bit untraditional.

Stay mad, crones.

Crone, agreeing.

I think it’s nice tbh. I love the idea of having a photo of the couple too.

I think this would be cute if it was a pic from the honeymoon. I’d be fine with a generic note, a brief acknowledgement, or, no card at all. Who cares?

Our wedding was for our guests to come celebrate with us.

Our honeymoon was for US.

It’s weird, gross and intrusive to want to see a photo from a couple’s honeymoon.

[Anonymous]

It’s nice that they sent a thank you at all.

I think that if you attended the wedding/reception and the couple thanked you for coming and thanked you for your gift in person (presumably you sent the gift ahead of time), then that’s enough thanking.

If you didn’t actually attend but sent a gift, then they should send a written thank you note—and it’s nice that they included a photo from the wedding.

Not related to weddings, but I think it’s weird when you hand me a gift and I immediately thank you to your face but then I still need to mail you a handwritten note to thank you again.

Nowadays when I hand a gift to someone and they immediately thank me, I basically say, “My pleasure. And now that you’ve thanked me please do not waste a stamp or kill a tree to send me yet another thank you.” I say it in a joking way but make clear they are done thanking me.