Checking people’s backgrounds

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Look out for DWI's, speeding tickets, abuse or any criminal background. So many men lie. They can look me up too. I have no criminal background.

My girlfriend looked someone up and he had struck his last girlfriend in the face with a gun. If you had met him you would never know. Clean cut with a good job.


So many monsters out there. I feel fortunate I never encountered any speeders or jaywalkers in my time.
Anonymous
If I had to do it all over again, I would have talked to people from my STBX’s childhood neighborhood, his high school, and his colleagues at his first job. With hindsight I can see that his pattern of running away from these places was very deliberate and he hid some major struggles by disconnecting himself from his past.

My advice to anyone who dates someone that isn’t from the same area as them and doesn’t have mutual friends or connections to you from various points in their life is to do whatever you can to learn more about their family of origin and life before they met you. Living in a very mobile society is great cover for some really messed up people.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I am wondering the opposite, how can I find out if some thirsty person is violating my privacy so I can sue out of the wazoo?


Aren't you funny?. You would end up paying court fees for whomever you sue. There is nothing illegal about this. There is nothing injurious to you unless someone spreads rumours that are untrue.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
How'd you get here ? Why do you want to do this?


Because it's a smart thing to do before getting super serious with someone. I'm not the OP.


SoUpeR!
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Are there services that are actually legitimate and worth spending money on where you can check a person‘s background? I know there are ways to look up court cases and real estate information but I just want to dig a little deeper.


What is it that you are looking for?

FWIW, I actively scrub my information from those places. Most people should. Too much potential for invasion of privacy or misunderstandings.

For example, I recently found out that someone with my (unusual) name down to the same middle initial is on a registered sex offender list. They're 10 years younger and live in a different state, but even so...


You can't scrub court records, FWIW.


Yes and no. I know 3 early 20 year old boys who've had their reckless driving and dui records removed from the databases mentioned. You just have to pay a lawyer.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Employment is a justifiable reason that you give some kind of consent for a background check to be conducted. Any unjustifiable intrusion into someone’s personal life w/o consent is grounds for a lawsuit…then you get a bag!…you get a bag!…you get a bag!🤑😁


No it isn't. You ain't no lawyer.

Please explain what an unjustifiable intrusion into a person's personal life is. Right now I can hire a pi to investigate you without your consent and even follow you around and record you. Not illegal and you won't win anything if you try to sue me.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Employment is a justifiable reason that you give some kind of consent for a background check to be conducted. Any unjustifiable intrusion into someone’s personal life w/o consent is grounds for a lawsuit…then you get a bag!…you get a bag!…you get a bag!🤑😁


It's a matter of public record. You don't have to consent.


Anything you are doing out in public I can record and share. I can search all the databases I want about you and you have no grounds for a lawsuit.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Forget a divorce lawyer, recommend some real good privacy lawyers.
Not really a thing. Most lawyers would send you on your way.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Employment is a justifiable reason that you give some kind of consent for a background check to be conducted. Any unjustifiable intrusion into someone’s personal life w/o consent is grounds for a lawsuit…then you get a bag!…you get a bag!…you get a bag!🤑😁


Again, what standing would you have for a lawsuit if someone looked you up on a court website? It's public record.

Well a public record isn’t in invasion, is it? Let’s keep up…it’s the private sources of info that OP is trying to dig up that will be like stepping on a landmine. I think it’s a great idea.


Please explain what those are.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Are there services that are actually legitimate and worth spending money on where you can check a person‘s background? I know there are ways to look up court cases and real estate information but I just want to dig a little deeper.


What is it that you are looking for?

FWIW, I actively scrub my information from those places. Most people should. Too much potential for invasion of privacy or misunderstandings.

For example, I recently found out that someone with my (unusual) name down to the same middle initial is on a registered sex offender list. They're 10 years younger and live in a different state, but even so...
. How do you scrub this information?


You can't.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Look out for DWI's, speeding tickets, abuse or any criminal background. So many men lie. They can look me up too. I have no criminal background.

My girlfriend looked someone up and he had struck his last girlfriend in the face with a gun. If you had met him you would never know. Clean cut with a good job.


Same thing here. A guy I was supposed to go out with had attempted to murder his ex-gf; she saw his boot prints outside her house, called the cops, and they found him in the basement with a murder kit (knives, tarp, rope, etc). Also extremely clean cut and gentlemanly, you would have never known.


How was he not in jail[/quote

Ohh, you are young and clueless. Men don't go to jail for stuff like this. It get plead down. So many violent men get so little jail time.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:You can search Virginia arrest records for free here.

https://eapps.courts.state.va.us/gdcourts/landing.do


Be sure to check all your friends and family members too, it's eye opening.


Neighbors... I thought I lived in a nice neighborhood.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am wondering the opposite, how can I find out if some thirsty person is violating my privacy so I can sue out of the wazoo?


Aren't you funny?. You would end up paying court fees for whomever you sue. There is nothing illegal about this. There is nothing injurious to you unless someone spreads rumours that are untrue.


No, they would pay my court fees b/c had they minded their own business I wouldn’t have any costs at all and neither would they. There are plenty of injuries people can claim after someone violates their privacy. Do you know how many people fall victim to fraud, the mental stress of having to reverse engineer how someone with no cause targeted them in addition to reputation if the info was shared. Google is your friend and so is really good attorney…go on and get you one, something tells me you might need it.
Anonymous
Reread the OP. This person wants something more than public info. This is not a question about the public sources that literally everyone uses. When you go searching for private sources of information (my mind goes to health, financials, employment, etc, but what OP is specifically looking for is undefined) you need consent and is grounds for a civil suit. That’s not hard to understand.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Look out for DWI's, speeding tickets, abuse or any criminal background. So many men lie. They can look me up too. I have no criminal background.

My girlfriend looked someone up and he had struck his last girlfriend in the face with a gun. If you had met him you would never know. Clean cut with a good job.


How do you search this nationally without those intermediary sites jumping in to try to make you pay?
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