Daughter has slight (unintentional!) mustache; what to do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Does she WANT to do anything about it? If not, don't say a word to her.

Of course she wznts to fix it.

Only a hairless woman would need to ask this question.

Or the kind of woman who encourages her daughter to “embrace” her body hair.

[Anonymous]

Many times this is genetic so OP I’d check your upper lip too, you probably have it but aren’t noticing it in normal mirror / bathroom lighting. I can’t see my fine dark lip hair on the sides unless I shine my iPhone flashlight on it and get super close to the mirror or I see it in my visor mirror when getting blinded by the sun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I used to have my upper lip threaded regularly from the time I was a teenager, when I lived in India. When I came to the US for college my aunt and cousins told me they used a men’s razor to shave. I’ve been doing that ever since, three decades and counting.

Omg, are you insane???

Do not use a razor on her upper lip.

It will give eventually her stubble, a 5 o'clock shadow, and posdibly ingrown hair.

The only solutions are waxing or permanent hair removal.

No it won’t. I’ve been doing it for 30+ years with no issues. Stop spouting ignorance.

+1. I'm surprised at the comments for laser and waxing and threading. Laser, wax and thread require taking her somewhere, and it's very painful. Most of the cheap laser places are a temporary fix. Get her a Tinkle razor. I've been doing this for years and it works great, it's an old wive's tale that shaving makes hair grow in differently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she WANT to do anything about it? If not, don't say a word to her.

Of course she wznts to fix it.

Only a hairless woman would need to ask this question.

Or the kind of woman who encourages her daughter to “embrace” her body hair.

It's not about embracing or not, it's just about what the daughter thinks about it (or for that matter IF she thinks about it).
I had faint, fine dark hairs on my upper lip when I was young. Had a bf who would make a point of saying IN FRONT OF FRIENDS to not ever shave it. (He was sincere, he was not being sarcastic. But we weren't together long and I think he was actually in the closet gay). I didn't do anything about them and afaik this never affected my social life. Menopause, different story, more of them, stiffer and more noticeable, and I use tweezers.

[Anonymous]

YOU do nothing until she asks for your help.

[Anonymous]

OP I have no advice other than I like the woman who does my brazilians at Sugared and Bronzed in Logan Circle but she's never done my face so I imagine that's different.

But I did chuckle at you feeling the need to specify the mustache was unintentional as if we all assumed it WAS intentional lol.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old, who has pale skin and dark hair,
has a very fine layer of hair on her upper lip. She is about to turn 15. I would like to help her but I’ve never had this issue myself and I’m not that good at beauty stuff. Can somebody tell me what to do as specifically as possible? Bleach? Wax? At home? Where?

At 14 she needs to be taken to a dr to get her hormones checked. This is not normal.

Of course it is. Those of us with fair skin and dark hair know all about this and it’s no fun, trust me. Mine started showing up around 12 and it’s been many years and countless hours of trying to get rid of it. Same with underarms, legs, etc. It wasn’t until I was about 40 that I finally had the means to do something permanent about it.

You obviously don’t have this issue or you would know how stupid it is to say “this is not normal.”

Agree. And one advantage those of us with dark hair and fair skin have, is that lasers works so well on us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many times this is genetic so OP I’d check your upper lip too, you probably have it but aren’t noticing it in normal mirror / bathroom lighting. I can’t see my fine dark lip hair on the sides unless I shine my iPhone flashlight on it and get super close to the mirror or I see it in my visor mirror when getting blinded by the sun.

Not everyone has the same hair and skin tone as their kids? If mom is a fair blonde and DD has an Indian/Middle Eastern/Italian etc etc etc father this may be totally new to OP and no, she probably also doesn't have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old, who has pale skin and dark hair,
has a very fine layer of hair on her upper lip. She is about to turn 15. I would like to help her but I’ve never had this issue myself and I’m not that good at beauty stuff. Can somebody tell me what to do as specifically as possible? Bleach? Wax? At home? Where?

At 14 she needs to be taken to a dr to get her hormones checked. This is not normal.

Of course it is. Those of us with fair skin and dark hair know all about this and it’s no fun, trust me. Mine started showing up around 12 and it’s been many years and countless hours of trying to get rid of it. Same with underarms, legs, etc. It wasn’t until I was about 40 that I finally had the means to do something permanent about it.

You obviously don’t have this issue or you would know how stupid it is to say “this is not normal.”

Agree. And one advantage those of us with dark hair and fair skin have, is that lasers works so well on us.

+1
And that we usually have pretty good heads of hair. But the body hair is SUCH A PAIN!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many times this is genetic so OP I’d check your upper lip too, you probably have it but aren’t noticing it in normal mirror / bathroom lighting. I can’t see my fine dark lip hair on the sides unless I shine my iPhone flashlight on it and get super close to the mirror or I see it in my visor mirror when getting blinded by the sun.

Not everyone has the same hair and skin tone as their kids? If mom is a fair blonde and DD has an Indian/Middle Eastern/Italian etc etc etc father this may be totally new to OP and no, she probably also doesn't have it.

+1
I'm fair with very dark hair, like my dad. My mom is a true blonde with almost no body hair, just tiny little blonde hairs. I was lucky that she was very empathetic and understanding about my unwanted hair and helped me bleach/shave it - she could have simply not cared or said there was nothing she could do to help. And we share none of the same traits as far as our coloring goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many times this is genetic so OP I’d check your upper lip too, you probably have it but aren’t noticing it in normal mirror / bathroom lighting. I can’t see my fine dark lip hair on the sides unless I shine my iPhone flashlight on it and get super close to the mirror or I see it in my visor mirror when getting blinded by the sun.

Not everyone has the same hair and skin tone as their kids? If mom is a fair blonde and DD has an Indian/Middle Eastern/Italian etc etc etc father this may be totally new to OP and no, she probably also doesn't have it.

+1
I'm fair with very dark hair, like my dad. My mom is a true blonde with almost no body hair, just tiny little blonde hairs. I was lucky that she was very empathetic and understanding about my unwanted hair and helped me bleach/shave it - she could have simply not cared or said there was nothing she could do to help. And we share none of the same traits as far as our coloring goes.

How odd

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I used to have my upper lip threaded regularly from the time I was a teenager, when I lived in India. When I came to the US for college my aunt and cousins told me they used a men’s razor to shave. I’ve been doing that ever since, three decades and counting.

Compare and contrast for us, PP! Which method keeps the hair away longer? threading or shaving?

DP but anything that takes the hair out at the root (e.g., threading, sugaring, waxing, plucking) will keep the hair away longer than just cutting it at the skin. That seems pretty obvious, no?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Threading is the way to go.

If you like pain.

I've never found it to be particularly painful. Maybe you didn't go to the right person. Ask your Indian or Middle Eastern friends for recommendations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 14 year old, who has pale skin and dark hair,
has a very fine layer of hair on her upper lip. She is about to turn 15. I would like to help her but I’ve never had this issue myself and I’m not that good at beauty stuff. Can somebody tell me what to do as specifically as possible? Bleach? Wax? At home? Where?

At 14 she needs to be taken to a dr to get her hormones checked. This is not normal.

Are you insane? This is perfectly normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to wax — both professional and at home and it hurt like hell. I now use a little electric razor every couple of days. There’s no stubble and it’s light. It doesn’t regrow thicker. All the myths you’ve heard are just that, myths. The little flawless touch razor is perfect

There is a noticeable difference between regrowth from when hair is pulled out from the root vs. shaved at the skin. It's just the nature of shaving - when you cut the hair, it grows back with a blunt edge. When you pluck, it grows back with a thin/pointed edge.

It's of course not as thick as a man's stubble, but there IS a difference.