dating and broke

[Anonymous]

Why can't you just stay single? If you want sex it's free for you as a woman. At your age you have more to lose than gain by entering into a relationship. The men who are going to enter your life at this stage of your life are not going to be the finest men. If they are not secretly married, they are broke single parent like you, or mentally ill men who couldn't find a woman to date them.

I don't understand why some people are so scared of being single. It's not the end of the year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you just stay single? If you want sex it's free for you as a woman. At your age you have more to lose than gain by entering into a relationship. The men who are going to enter your life at this stage of your life are not going to be the finest men. If they are not secretly married, they are broke single parent like you, or mentally ill men who couldn't find a woman to date them.

I don't understand why some people are so scared of being single. It's not the end of the year.

I know Op could stay single as she does know about it but I guess she is trying to see if there is still a companionship or relationship left in her life. Ofcourse, it is easy to stay single and find sex for anybody but there is a reason more than 80% of people in this age group aspire a decent and consistent relationship and there is nothing wrong with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

As a woman you will be fine because men are incredibly stupid and will jeopardize their own financial health for p***y.

Now if you were a man, I would have said you are f@$&d. Women DO NOT LIKE BROKE MEN.

Broke women don't have to worry as much as broke men do.

as a FWB, it is very easy but noone is going to get into a serious LTR with a broke woman unless she is attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

OP is broke, but wants someone who is financially secure for a LTR? And she is overweight and 44? If you're not willing to date someone who is broke, why should they date you? OP expecting her partner to be financially secure sounds like she want to sponge off his success rather than building something together.

This would be like a broke guy with a dad bod only wanting to date modelesque women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

OP is broke, but wants someone who is financially secure for a LTR? And she is overweight and 44? If you're not willing to date someone who is broke, why should they date you? OP expecting her partner to be financially secure sounds like she want to sponge off his success rather than building something together.

This would be like a broke guy with a dad bod only wanting to date modelesque women.

She wants a bailout. Shiiiiiii**t If I broke like OP you damn right I'll look for anyone who can bail me out.

Most of us on this forum are rich let's be honest. However, I think we may be underestimating the massive number of Americans over 40s who are drowning in serious debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and ... dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

No, dating does not require dinner. This is an obese feminine perspective.

Better activities are drinking, ice skating, roller blading, dancing, bicycling, or rock climbing. Or maybe music or other shows. The point is to do something together, not to eat something. Dinner can trap you in an adversarial "interview" seating position, at the mercy of a waiter, paying to stimulate the stomach instead of more appropriate organs. You have to avoid messy food or garlic. If you don't like a guy then you can thank him and leave after one drink. But it would be rude to leave before the entree arrives. It can provoke anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and ... dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

No, dating does not require dinner. This is an obese feminine perspective.

Better activities are drinking, ice skating, roller blading, dancing, bicycling, or rock climbing. Or maybe music or other shows. The point is to do something together, not to eat something. Dinner can trap you in an adversarial "interview" seating position, at the mercy of a waiter, paying to stimulate the stomach instead of more appropriate organs. You have to avoid messy food or garlic. If you don't like a guy then you can thank him and leave after one drink. But it would be rude to leave before the entree arrives. It can provoke anxiety.

You forgot one thing - Op is very overweight so she can't do more than 1/2 of these activities. Also, all the activities require some level of money either for buying gears, tickets or anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

OP is broke, but wants someone who is financially secure for a LTR? And she is overweight and 44? If you're not willing to date someone who is broke, why should they date you? OP expecting her partner to be financially secure sounds like she want to sponge off his success rather than building something together.

This would be like a broke guy with a dad bod only wanting to date modelesque women.

She wants a bailout. Shiiiiiii**t If I broke like OP you damn right I'll look for anyone who can bail me out.

Most of us on this forum are rich let's be honest. However, I think we may be underestimating the massive number of Americans over 40s who are drowning in serious debt.

You would be surprised how many women think like that. For them, finding a guy that can help them financially is the ultimate dream and then things go south after 1-2 Years when they have the guy locked in because they know how to get them but can't keep them.

[Anonymous]

This strategy of bailing out doesn't work because slowly the flaws come out and men see through it too. I doubt she would ever be able to help him if she can't even help herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

You better very good in bed and an excellent cook! I'm talking legendary head game and Julia Childs like culinary skills.

[Anonymous]

Op get on a GLP-1 and lose the weight. You will also be shocked at how much your grocery bill goes down, thus saving money. Start there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You also may save money if you eat less junk.

Facts. Potato chips cost $5-7 a bag now. The only people _______ enough to pay that amount for a bag of chips are people on welfare who don’t know the value of money. I lost weight because I had to cut down on chips because I can’t afford them

This is just a dumb comment all around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and financially broke with significant payments towards my bills every month. How important is my financial security for dating and being in an LTR with someone who is financial secure? For the context, I am overweight with BMI of 33-34 but look good when I dress up and put make up on. I know I can date and it is easier to do but sometimes dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

You better very good in bed and an excellent cook! I'm talking legendary head game and Julia Childs like culinary skills.

I doubt OP is good in either of them otherwise she wouldn't be in this situation. I haven't seen a man leaving a woman who is good in bed and cooks well.

[Anonymous]

I used to think that men cared about a woman's financial situation. Then I got divorced and started dating again. Men don't care one bit about a woman's finances. They don't care that you have a high status career. They don't care that you earn more than 70% of men. They only care about how you look and how you make them feel about themselves. It's pathetic. But that's the way it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 44F and ... dating also needs money if you have to buy dinners now and then.

No, dating does not require dinner. This is an obese feminine perspective.

Better activities are drinking, ice skating, roller blading, dancing, bicycling, or rock climbing. Or maybe music or other shows. The point is to do something together, not to eat something. Dinner can trap you in an adversarial "interview" seating position, at the mercy of a waiter, paying to stimulate the stomach instead of more appropriate organs. You have to avoid messy food or garlic. If you don't like a guy then you can thank him and leave after one drink. But it would be rude to leave before the entree arrives. It can provoke anxiety.

Can we do anything that does not involve alcohol as a society?