Can older men really attract younger women?

[Anonymous]

I tell my daughter no more than 5 year gap. Even then, best if you can marry and mate someone your own age +- 1-2 years.

All other things aside, if Cupid strikes outside this zone go with it: these are just taxes - much like a community you live in and like. You can leave when they get too high or the value isn’t there for what you are getting. Context: (She’s twenty). I’m 55 with a 24 year marriage to a woman who is one year younger than me.

I cannot imagine dating, if god forbid, something happened to my spouse anyone younger than 38-40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They can attract younger women, but the younger woman is not going to be the cream of the crop amongst other women her age. The ones that marry older men usually have emotional issues or money issues. If a woman is young, beautiful and stable she can marry a man her own age with a solid career and/or a trust fund and she doesn’t stand to gain anything from marrying an older man.

This is spot on based on what I've observed. That being said, I do know some people in happy marriages with large age gaps. However, most of these couples are 50-something men with 30-something women, so it remains to be seen how these marriages play out as the men age.

Direct PP here. Marrying someone with a trust fund is an absolute no for me. I 100% prefer someone who has made their own money.

Those are not mutually exclusive qualifications

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 37F and make about 500k. I’ve been dating guys in the 48-53 year old age range, and it’s just right for me? I feel like a lot of 37 year old men are just still maturing- it’s strange. I’m honestly attracted to the salt and pepper, more mature look. I’m 5’5” 125, in good physical heath, and enjoy activity. I’m not bad looking but definitely not model hot (don’t have time for that haha).
I obviously don’t need their money! But I also want someone who’s more of an equal and as a professional/business owner, guys in this age range are more likely to keep up/feel less threatened.

By all means of you get serious with one of those wait to marry till your early 40s. This is when you’ll see a huge difference in sexual performance.
I had a whore of an exH who was mixed race and f..d everything until about 52 which contributed to divorce
Now in my 40s I f..k everything including women because they can O multiple times if they are into you, and men can’t get me off 5-7 times like I need.
If you get yourself hitched to an old man you’ll miss your sexual rebirth in your 40s

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy. This is definitely one of those personal preference things. I've definitely seen online younger women express an interest in older men. Of course, this is the internet, but I believe it to be true. I would definitely say that they are in the minority, though. But there are definitely plenty of stories of older men spending time with younger women.

[Anonymous]

In my my late 50s I dated a terrific woman who was more than 20 years younger. She would O a lot, usually 2 to 4 times. (Never 6 times though.) She often commented that she was actually more attracted to older men than younger men. Our time together was great but we couldn't really hang out with each other's friends or family. I broke up with her, partly because of this. She then started dating a man 5 years older than me. He's in great shape. I met him. I'm still friendly with her and she still calls me every few months. She always asks if I will introduce her to a friend my age. She is smart, has a good professional job, and very attractive.

I'm not saying the people who analyze her psychological makeup are totally wrong. She did lose her father when she was young, and she did have an abusive ex husband who was about her age. So yes, she probably has the kinds of issues people always talk about. But she is also turning down the kinds of guys that many women her age would love to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I tell my daughter no more than 5 year gap. Even then, best if you can marry and mate someone your own age +- 1-2 years.

All other things aside, if Cupid strikes outside this zone go with it: these are just taxes - much like a community you live in and like. You can leave when they get too high or the value isn’t there for what you are getting. Context: (She’s twenty). I’m 55 with a 24 year marriage to a woman who is one year younger than me.

I cannot imagine dating, if god forbid, something happened to my spouse anyone younger than 38-40.

You are just narrowed minded, maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my my late 50s I dated a terrific woman who was more than 20 years younger. She would O a lot, usually 2 to 4 times. (Never 6 times though.) She often commented that she was actually more attracted to older men than younger men. Our time together was great but we couldn't really hang out with each other's friends or family. I broke up with her, partly because of this. She then started dating a man 5 years older than me. He's in great shape. I met him. I'm still friendly with her and she still calls me every few months. She always asks if I will introduce her to a friend my age. She is smart, has a good professional job, and very attractive.

I'm not saying the people who analyze her psychological makeup are totally wrong. She did lose her father when she was young, and she did have an abusive ex husband who was about her age. So yes, she probably has the kinds of issues people always talk about. But she is also turning down the kinds of guys that many women her age would love to date.

Sounds like either she was low L or you were not very skilled lover. O only couple times a night is type of intimacy you have on 10th year of marriage. For such a large gap and her age, it should have been non-stop for hours with breaks to drink some water.
And why is she calling you if she’s with some other dude? She sounds a little weird and lost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tell my daughter no more than 5 year gap. Even then, best if you can marry and mate someone your own age +- 1-2 years.

All other things aside, if Cupid strikes outside this zone go with it: these are just taxes - much like a community you live in and like. You can leave when they get too high or the value isn’t there for what you are getting. Context: (She’s twenty). I’m 55 with a 24 year marriage to a woman who is one year younger than me.

I cannot imagine dating, if god forbid, something happened to my spouse anyone younger than 38-40.

You are just narrowed minded, maybe.

Sounds like he’s just a good dad protecting perverted men from taking advantage of his daughter, through lust, for sexual reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my my late 50s I dated a terrific woman who was more than 20 years younger. She would O a lot, usually 2 to 4 times. (Never 6 times though.) She often commented that she was actually more attracted to older men than younger men. Our time together was great but we couldn't really hang out with each other's friends or family. I broke up with her, partly because of this. She then started dating a man 5 years older than me. He's in great shape. I met him. I'm still friendly with her and she still calls me every few months. She always asks if I will introduce her to a friend my age. She is smart, has a good professional job, and very attractive.

I'm not saying the people who analyze her psychological makeup are totally wrong. She did lose her father when she was young, and she did have an abusive ex husband who was about her age. So yes, she probably has the kinds of issues people always talk about. But she is also turning down the kinds of guys that many women her age would love to date.

Sounds like either she was low L or you were not very skilled lover. O only couple times a night is type of intimacy you have on 10th year of marriage. For such a large gap and her age, it should have been non-stop for hours with breaks to drink some water.
And why is she calling you if she’s with some other dude? She sounds a little weird and lost.

Two Os a night sounds pretty good to me, and amazing in 10th year of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Yes they can but some don’t want to. My Dad is 63 and really good looking and successful but he has no interest in someone more than 5-10 years younger than him. We have a great open relationship and he has said I don’t want to date someone who has had the same life experiences as his daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 37F and make about 500k. I’ve been dating guys in the 48-53 year old age range, and it’s just right for me? I feel like a lot of 37 year old men are just still maturing- it’s strange. I’m honestly attracted to the salt and pepper, more mature look. I’m 5’5” 125, in good physical heath, and enjoy activity. I’m not bad looking but definitely not model hot (don’t have time for that haha).
I obviously don’t need their money! But I also want someone who’s more of an equal and as a professional/business owner, guys in this age range are more likely to keep up/feel less threatened.

By all means of you get serious with one of those wait to marry till your early 40s. This is when you’ll see a huge difference in sexual performance.
I had a whore of an exH who was mixed race and f..d everything until about 52 which contributed to divorce
Now in my 40s I f..k everything including women because they can O multiple times if they are into you, and men can’t get me off 5-7 times like I need.
If you get yourself hitched to an old man you’ll miss your sexual rebirth in your 40s

I am a man in my 30s and I have zero desire f**g an old woman in her 40s like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my my late 50s I dated a terrific woman who was more than 20 years younger. She would O a lot, usually 2 to 4 times. (Never 6 times though.) She often commented that she was actually more attracted to older men than younger men. Our time together was great but we couldn't really hang out with each other's friends or family. I broke up with her, partly because of this. She then started dating a man 5 years older than me. He's in great shape. I met him. I'm still friendly with her and she still calls me every few months. She always asks if I will introduce her to a friend my age. She is smart, has a good professional job, and very attractive.

I'm not saying the people who analyze her psychological makeup are totally wrong. She did lose her father when she was young, and she did have an abusive ex husband who was about her age. So yes, she probably has the kinds of issues people always talk about. But she is also turning down the kinds of guys that many women her age would love to date.

Sounds like either she was low L or you were not very skilled lover. O only couple times a night is type of intimacy you have on 10th year of marriage. For such a large gap and her age, it should have been non-stop for hours with breaks to drink some water.
And why is she calling you if she’s with some other dude? She sounds a little weird and lost.

Two Os a night sounds pretty good to me, and amazing in 10th year of marriage.

It’s amazing for a man in his late 50s. Not “amazing” for a 30-40 yo woman in a new relationship. I would have to go into very explicit detail of my same sex experience with women in 30-50s . All I can tell when both are into it and skilled with oral, hands a toys, female O in a new relationship is unlimited. Either she wasn’t that into him, or he wasn’t into her. Or they didn’t have a great mental connection. Or maybe she was emotionally connected to him as “daddy” figure but biological differences between her body and his aging features still were in play, even subconsciously.
All these older men wanting younger body omit a simple fact that lack of commonalities, life everyone and cultural references affects mental chemistry for both. Sexuality is as much mental as physical: for women O is truly in their head not between the legs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 37F and make about 500k. I’ve been dating guys in the 48-53 year old age range, and it’s just right for me? I feel like a lot of 37 year old men are just still maturing- it’s strange. I’m honestly attracted to the salt and pepper, more mature look. I’m 5’5” 125, in good physical heath, and enjoy activity. I’m not bad looking but definitely not model hot (don’t have time for that haha).
I obviously don’t need their money! But I also want someone who’s more of an equal and as a professional/business owner, guys in this age range are more likely to keep up/feel less threatened.

By all means of you get serious with one of those wait to marry till your early 40s. This is when you’ll see a huge difference in sexual performance.
I had a whore of an exH who was mixed race and f..d everything until about 52 which contributed to divorce
Now in my 40s I f..k everything including women because they can O multiple times if they are into you, and men can’t get me off 5-7 times like I need.
If you get yourself hitched to an old man you’ll miss your sexual rebirth in your 40s

I am a man in my 30s and I have zero desire f**g an old woman in her 40s like you.

I don’t see where I said I was f..g 30s men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 37F and make about 500k. I’ve been dating guys in the 48-53 year old age range, and it’s just right for me? I feel like a lot of 37 year old men are just still maturing- it’s strange. I’m honestly attracted to the salt and pepper, more mature look. I’m 5’5” 125, in good physical heath, and enjoy activity. I’m not bad looking but definitely not model hot (don’t have time for that haha).
I obviously don’t need their money! But I also want someone who’s more of an equal and as a professional/business owner, guys in this age range are more likely to keep up/feel less threatened.

By all means of you get serious with one of those wait to marry till your early 40s. This is when you’ll see a huge difference in sexual performance.
I had a whore of an exH who was mixed race and f..d everything until about 52 which contributed to divorce
Now in my 40s I f..k everything including women because they can O multiple times if they are into you, and men can’t get me off 5-7 times like I need.
If you get yourself hitched to an old man you’ll miss your sexual rebirth in your 40s

I am a man in my 30s and I have zero desire f**g an old woman in her 40s like you.

Ok, that’s fine. So now look at it from female predictive : what makes you believe 20s women want to sleep with you for how attractive you are, and not some other reasons ?
Those men advising their daughters to stay within their age group when dating are good fathers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 37F and make about 500k. I’ve been dating guys in the 48-53 year old age range, and it’s just right for me? I feel like a lot of 37 year old men are just still maturing- it’s strange. I’m honestly attracted to the salt and pepper, more mature look. I’m 5’5” 125, in good physical heath, and enjoy activity. I’m not bad looking but definitely not model hot (don’t have time for that haha).
I obviously don’t need their money! But I also want someone who’s more of an equal and as a professional/business owner, guys in this age range are more likely to keep up/feel less threatened.

By all means of you get serious with one of those wait to marry till your early 40s. This is when you’ll see a huge difference in sexual performance.
I had a whore of an exH who was mixed race and f..d everything until about 52 which contributed to divorce
Now in my 40s I f..k everything including women because they can O multiple times if they are into you, and men can’t get me off 5-7 times like I need.
If you get yourself hitched to an old man you’ll miss your sexual rebirth in your 40s

I am a man in my 30s and I have zero desire f**g an old woman in her 40s like you.

Ok, that’s fine. So now look at it from female predictive : what makes you believe 20s women want to sleep with you for how attractive you are, and not some other reasons ?
Those men advising their daughters to stay within their age group when dating are good fathers.

I know I am supposed to support my daughter. However, if she brings home an old guy I'll tell her I don't approve of that relationship.

Ok a serious note, what can an old man offer a much younger woman? Nothing. She has her father who can offer whatever she needs aside from a romantic relationship of course.

I'm divorced. I am 52. You will have a hard time convincing that a woman 10 years younger than me somehow finds me attractive or I have some unique features that she attached to. At 42, she should have no problems finding a guy between 40 and 45.