Why would parents send kid to school without coat in 20 degree weather?

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

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My son hated coats. He wore sweatshirts over long sleeved shirts. He even wore shorts in December with them. MYOB OP. My son is grown, married and successful. He still never wears a coat unless it’s a semi-formal or formal occasion. He just gets too hot.

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Anonymous wrote:They don’t want to parent, that’s why.

Oh, are you pretending to be a different poster now? Lol

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Not one of them has ever pushed back on their mother’s sartorial choices for them?

It is your job as a parent to dress your kids appropriately for the weather.

You didn’t answer the question.

If your 16-year-old decided not to wear a coat to school on a cold day, what would you do?

I didn't start parenting him at 16. That is the whole point. At 16 he has developed healthy habits and I don't have to fight with him about dumb stuff like this. They learn the rules at 2, 3, 4 and not at 16.

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Anonymous wrote:They don’t want to parent, that’s why.

Exactly!

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Anonymous wrote:DS (15) is still wearing shorts. He does add a hoodie. I've given up fighting the battle. One day there will be a fire drill at school and maybe that will encourage him to wear pants. He tells me it's too warm in the building to wear pants. Over the years, I've asked him to put a pair of sweats in his backpack just in case---nope, he knows best.

I don't fight this battle anymore. I started giving up around 4th or 5th grade.

My, now 45 yo, brother has been like that his entire life. I remember one time when we were teens, he walked to the store during a snowstorm wearing shorts, sweatshirt and slides. He survived DC winters in shorts until 23yo. He lives in the south now, thankfully.

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Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

My parents required that I wear a skirt to school once a week, part of learning to dress as a professional. I wore my skirt and slipped my pants on while on the bus to school and put the skirt back on before I went home. DS has a jacket that he wears to school when it is cold. 90% of the time he puts it in his backpack for the way home and just wears his sweater. For all I know, he takes the jacket off before he gets to the bus stop.

I can tell him all that I want but he has plenty of opportunities to comply, wear the coat out of the house, and then do what he wants anyway. We did make him wear it to school in ES because his teachers told us that kids without coats and hats and gloves were not allowed to go out for recess.

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Bodies are different if the kids aren't cold what do you care?

They ARE cold!!! Your poor kids.

You people are too much. Do your kids not voice their every whim and thought? They would certainly speak up if they were. They run around, have fun, and are no worse for the wear. The ones who are always cold will dutifully wear the coat. Magically it just all works out with no visits to the hospital for frost bite. Imagine that.

Sure, sure....so when I see kids shivering at the bus stop, it's just a hoax? It's total BS and you know it. But I suspect you'll never admit that you're actually failing as a parent.

I'm perfectly ok with my kid learning that lesson. That is part of parenting. Did you not have enough faith in your kids? Why do you doubt them so much?

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Not one of them has ever pushed back on their mother’s sartorial choices for them?

It is your job as a parent to dress your kids appropriately for the weather.

You didn’t answer the question.

If your 16-year-old decided not to wear a coat to school on a cold day, what would you do?

Nothing. Teens know how to dress to feel comfortable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I saw a kid outside in short sleeves yesterday. I saw 2 girls at the school bus stop this am wearing very light jackets, no hat, coats or gloves. Some kids won't wear coats for whatever reason. They'll live.

Depending on how cold it is and how long they're outside, they literally might not. But ok.

Yeah, no, standing in the cold in short sleeves for maaaybe 15 minutes will not kill anyone.

Right? I shiver looking at some of these kids walking to school in shorts, but I’m not dumb enough to think they literally don’t own a coat or long pants.

Literally no one said that they don't own the clothing. What we are saying is that parents just shrug and say "Susie doesn't want to wear it so I don't make her."

Susie doesn't want to to do a whole lot of things, but it's your job to teach her and guide her. Or are we just letting kids decide everything now?

What decisions did you allow your kids to make?

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Not one of them has ever pushed back on their mother’s sartorial choices for them?

It is your job as a parent to dress your kids appropriately for the weather.

You didn’t answer the question.

If your 16-year-old decided not to wear a coat to school on a cold day, what would you do?

Nothing. Teens know how to dress to feel comfortable.

Some kids learn that much earlier apparently.

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Bodies are different if the kids aren't cold what do you care?

They ARE cold!!! Your poor kids.

You people are too much. Do your kids not voice their every whim and thought? They would certainly speak up if they were. They run around, have fun, and are no worse for the wear. The ones who are always cold will dutifully wear the coat. Magically it just all works out with no visits to the hospital for frost bite. Imagine that.

Sure, sure....so when I see kids shivering at the bus stop, it's just a hoax? It's total BS and you know it. But I suspect you'll never admit that you're actually failing as a parent.

I'm perfectly ok with my kid learning that lesson. That is part of parenting. Did you not have enough faith in your kids? Why do you doubt them so much?

Like i said, lazy BS parenting and now you're having to do mental gymnastics to justify it. It's not like the rest of us have some special, super agreeable kids. We know it's a struggle to make them do the right thing. You're just choosing the easy, lazy path. We get it.

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Anonymous wrote:"Send kid"
OP, your words matter. Instead of how you view parenting, in other families, the kid is deciding. Or forgetting. Or is expected to take a coat and doesn't, because they don't want to. The kid may be getting-out-the-door on their own, more independently. Maybe all on their own, parent not home when the kid leaves for school. Greater independence may have a more significant positive result vs the poor decision re: a coat

Poster child for lazy parenting right here. It's your job to make sure your kids get out in the world prepared for the day. It's why they don't live on their own yet.

Eh some kids learn better the hard way. They aren't all rule following robots who never push boundaries with authoritative parents making all the decisions for them.

Keep telling yourself that. The rest of us know you're failing as a parent.

NP. How old are your kids?

22, 20 and 16. All of them dressed appropriately at all ages and still do.

Not one of them has ever pushed back on their mother’s sartorial choices for them?

It is your job as a parent to dress your kids appropriately for the weather.

You didn’t answer the question.

If your 16-year-old decided not to wear a coat to school on a cold day, what would you do?

I didn't start parenting him at 16. That is the whole point. At 16 he has developed healthy habits and I don't have to fight with him about dumb stuff like this. They learn the rules at 2, 3, 4 and not at 16.

If your children never push back on anything, then they are unusually compliant or you are unusually controlling. Of course the third, and most likely, conclusion is that you’re lying about having three perfectly obedient children in order to win an argument on the internet.