Why would parents send kid to school without coat in 20 degree weather?

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Anonymous wrote:Because they don't want to actually parent their kids. They let their kids run roughshod and tell them how things are going to go instead of the other way around.

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This thread is very eye opening.

If your kid is so stubborn that they refuse to wear a coat in 20° weather to the point that they will throw a tantrum, then you have somehow screwed up parenting when they were younger. Raising entitled, stubborn, know-it-all kids is a major parenting fail.

Yes, it’s such a parenting fail to not fully break the will of a stubborn child when they’re young. Moron.

I'm sure one day when your child is a teen you'll be singing a different tune. Until then, enjoy your ignorance.

My oldest is a teen. I’ve never subscribed to the “total compliance, or else” model of parenting. Children should have some measure of control over their lives. If that means taking off their coat and being cold as a consequence, that’s fine.

You have some strange fantasy in your own mind about how I parent. Since a very young age some things were non-negotiable but we allowed broad leeway for all other things that were not important life skills. This approach created enough trust that our child doesn’t throw a full on tantrum just because we asked them to put on proper clothing. We laid the groundwork in the toddler years so that we didn’t end up with a kid who is not selfish and a know it all once older. They get enough freedom to make personal choices that they don’t feel the need to tantrum about basic things like wearing a coat. Kids don’t scream and argue about jackets if they feel heard and respected by their parents in the first place and the proof of what I say is waiting for you this afternoon at pickup.

NP. The conversations at my house go like this

Me: Do you want to take your coat?
Kid: No, I'm fine
Me: Okay

No tantrums involved

PS- it also includes
Me: shrugging internally - good, maybe they will learn this lesson and realize they need one next time. Or maybe they won't care and it doesn't really matter.

If they miss recess because they didn't want to wear the coat, that's on them. If they care enough they will bring it the next day. Or maybe they didn't want recess anyway.

Why would that happen

A lot of schools require wearing jackets to recess if the temperature is below a certain level.

Because the schools know that it’s dangerous and irresponsible to send kids out in the cold without proper clothing. Wonder why so many parents have a hard time understanding that.

So the problem resolves itself. And still kids thhriw the coats aside.

That’s fine. The coat is there is they get cold. It’s when they have nothing to put on if the temp drops 20 degrees that can be a problem. The most dangerous part of cold weather is wind chill factor. The weather site writes “ Frostbite is damage to body tissue caused by extreme cold. A wind chill of -20° Fahrenheit (F) will cause frostbite in just 30 minutes.” It also feels like it is much colder than it is.

Windchills are the worst part of winter. Walking in the city through a wind tunnel is torture.

Do you think all these kids just fell out of the sky and don’t know what winter is? They aren’t cold. Don’t weep for them.

Peer pressure takes over for boys and they think it’s cool to not wear a coat. Most of them are cold, they aren't polar,bears.

It’s like when a redhead goes to the beach and claims he doesn’t get sunburns. His skin is a Level 1 which means that his skin burns easily and never tans. He refuses sunblock. He comes home with 2nd degree burns . Same idea with exposed skin in frigid weather. If it’s 30 degrees with a wind chill factor of -20 he can do some damage to his exposed skin if he’s outside for an hour. Both extreme weather conditions call for covering your skin. The kid might not feel it but his skin is creating damage.

So a kid of school age is experiencing cold for the first time ever at the bus stop on the morning OP drives by? A likely story.