DH continues his infidelity - Stuck and not sure what to do

[Anonymous]

You’re not in a marriage. You’re in a non-monogamous relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce there is no other option here. He treats you like trash and is exposing you to STDS, HIV, HEP all kinds of things. You deserve better.

This.

How would OP’s daughter felt if her mom had lifelong neurological, liver, or other issues because she knew dad was cheating and he passed on an STD?

[Anonymous]

I am sorry that he is such a loser.

But you can’t stay in this situation.

It is not good for your mental health, or your daughter to learn from.

Clearly he has no values or self control.

Not sure if he loves or respects you.

But you deserve much better than this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on money. If you are friends and ok with just being that and not lovers Id stay for the money and help at least till the child is older. There arent a lot of good guys out there. Wait till you find one to leave for. That's what hes doing. He doesnt love you. He may like you and the kid.

Bad deal. When his AP gets pregnant “accidentally” the child support will come out if OPs share. Lock down half the assets and child support for your daughter immediately.

Yea, this. Get moving OP.

CS for AP’s baby is nothing. If he’s high paid, the continued accumulation of the marital assets for OP would far exceed that (hypothetical) CS. I would just date other men and continue living the lifestyle I have until I met someone worthy to leave for

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on money. If you are friends and ok with just being that and not lovers Id stay for the money and help at least till the child is older. There arent a lot of good guys out there. Wait till you find one to leave for. That's what hes doing. He doesnt love you. He may like you and the kid.

Bad deal. When his AP gets pregnant “accidentally” the child support will come out if OPs share. Lock down half the assets and child support for your daughter immediately.

Yea, this. Get moving OP.

CS for AP’s baby is nothing. If he’s high paid, the continued accumulation of the marital assets for OP would far exceed that (hypothetical) CS. I would just date other men and continue living the lifestyle I have until I met someone worthy to leave for

NP here: how do you find other people to date while in a marriage even though your spouse is cheating?

[Anonymous]

My parents divorced and it did not ruin my life, it made it better. My parents fought all the time and it was a relief when they divorced. I KNEW they weren’t happy, even at a young age. Now I’m happily married and my kids get annoyed because their dad and I kiss all the time

You owe it to your dd to show her what is acceptable and unacceptable in a relationship. She’s going to find out as she gets older and she will lose respect for YOU (not him) and that will be devastating for you and for her.

Start gathering what you need. This is not ok. You both deserve better. There ARE good men out there who will treat you well and not cheat on you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on money. If you are friends and ok with just being that and not lovers Id stay for the money and help at least till the child is older. There arent a lot of good guys out there. Wait till you find one to leave for. That's what hes doing. He doesnt love you. He may like you and the kid.

Bad deal. When his AP gets pregnant “accidentally” the child support will come out if OPs share. Lock down half the assets and child support for your daughter immediately.

Yea, this. Get moving OP.

CS for AP’s baby is nothing. If he’s high paid, the continued accumulation of the marital assets for OP would far exceed that (hypothetical) CS. I would just date other men and continue living the lifestyle I have until I met someone worthy to leave for

NP here: how do you find other people to date while in a marriage even though your spouse is cheating?

If they agree to have open marriage and these other people who that I don’t see issues

[Anonymous]

You need to understand that a serial cheater is actually shopping around for your replacement, not just having sex. He will eventually leave you for another woman.

So, what you have to decide here is whether the marriage will end on your terms or whether he will get to blindside you.

[Anonymous]

If you feel stuck, that is a sign that you need therapy, who will help you see a path that is not visible to you yet.

[Anonymous]

Divorce. He’s cheating on both you and your daughter by not upholding his part of the family unit. If you won’t demand respect for yourself, demand it for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on money. If you are friends and ok with just being that and not lovers Id stay for the money and help at least till the child is older. There arent a lot of good guys out there. Wait till you find one to leave for. That's what hes doing. He doesnt love you. He may like you and the kid.

Bad deal. When his AP gets pregnant “accidentally” the child support will come out if OPs share. Lock down half the assets and child support for your daughter immediately.

Yea, this. Get moving OP.

CS for AP’s baby is nothing. If he’s high paid, the continued accumulation of the marital assets for OP would far exceed that (hypothetical) CS. I would just date other men and continue living the lifestyle I have until I met someone worthy to leave for

NP here: how do you find other people to date while in a marriage even though your spouse is cheating?

If they agree to have open marriage and these other people who that I don’t see issues

I swear some of these people were born yesterday. The husband wants to cheat and will do as he pleases. He’ll see red if the wife asks for the same.

[Anonymous]

Keep getting checked for STDs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep getting checked for STDs.

And stop sleeping with him. Don’t do the usual and have another child either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Keep getting checked for STDs.

And stop sleeping with him. Don’t do the usual and have another child either.

+1
Or go on vacation

[Anonymous]

Well definitely do not sleep with him anymore, unless you want an STD.

Also, you have no way of knowing if HE will want to stay married. This is why burying your head in the sand does not work. He could up and leave YOU. So that's why YOU need to be prepared. Go talk to some lawyers and see what your options are. You don't need to make any decisions right now, but you do need to know potential future outcomes.