DH continues his infidelity - Stuck and not sure what to do

[Anonymous]

After the first time, around a year and a half ago, I forgave him. We did couples counseling, but he cheated again, and again. It started with texting, he would lie. I kind of buried my head in the sand until I found out he was sleeping with his AP for almost three months. He did acknowledge what he did and apologize, we did counseling, and made some changes, and I thought that was the end of it.

We have a 6 year old DD together which is the reason why I didn’t want to jump to divorce, but now I’m really stuck and feel like I am out of options. I’m also afraid of the entire divorce process, what his reaction might be, and co-parenting with him. My parents were divorced and that caused me to have a miserable childhood so I don’t want my daughter to grow up with divorced parents which is why I choose to stay, but I have tried everything, and I’m tired of the lying, and betrayal.

I know my little girl would be so devastated if we got divorced and all I want is the best for her and our future.

I’d really appreciate any advice or hope from others who were in a similar situation.

[Anonymous]

divorce. this is easy one.

[Anonymous]

Would he be willing to just stay married, not have sex, and have affairs? Would you?

[Anonymous]

You 100% have to divorce this guy, and I don’t say that lightly. He is jeopardizing your mental and physical health and you don’t deserve that (and neither does your kid). You are better off doing this while your kid is young in these circumstances.

And your parents divorce doesn’t have to be your divorce.

[Anonymous]

That husband of yours is not going to stop cheating on you and your child.

Divorce.

[Anonymous]

You’re married to a serial cheater and at some point, when your daughter is older, she will ask you why did you stay in the marriage and be miserable?

[Anonymous]

Stop with the excuses.. You aren't stuck anywhere you don't want to be.

Free yourself.

[Anonymous]

He has no respect for you do you want you daughter to see that's how she should be treated?

Divorce, now. Don't wait.

[Anonymous]

The "first time" was just the first time you caught him. Go talk to a lawyer and get things in place so that the process is as painless as it can be.

[Anonymous]

Girl...

[Anonymous]

Divorce. Do not let your daughter grow up watching you let a man disrespect, lie, cheat, and treat you like trash. I know it's scary, but you will be OK and so will your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Are you a SAHM who signed a bad prenup or something?

It's not healthy for a girl to grow up watching her dad cheat or her mom. and yes, she will figure it out.

and please stop sleeping with him - he will give you a disease. and get the hpv vaccine and get std testing.

[Anonymous]

Sorry but you need to divorce him. I understand it’s not perfect but better for you and the kid than your current situation.

[Anonymous]

Divorce is not the end of the world. My parents had an awful marriage and divorce and I am happy, healthy, have a good career, and am happily married with children. Divorce doesn't ruin people's lives.

[Anonymous]

Divorce there is no other option here. He treats you like trash and is exposing you to STDS, HIV, HEP all kinds of things. You deserve better.