Why would my son's newly engaged ex-girlfriend randomly text him a photo of her wearing an engagement ring?

[Anonymous]

27 yo is too young to get married, and this proves it.
my wife was 33 when we got married and she was still hot (and remains so at 43!), but was more emotionally ready.
I feel bad for the fiance and for your son - immature women can inflict a lot of pain and agony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:27 yo is too young to get married, and this proves it.
my wife was 33 when we got married and she was still hot (and remains so at 43!), but was more emotionally ready.
I feel bad for the fiance and for your son - immature women can inflict a lot of pain and agony.

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That is seriously stereotyping all 20-somethings.

I knew several who were married and had two kids before 30 and they were very mature and professional in their conduct. They were licensed in their profession too.

You were simply hanging out with a dubious crowd of 20-somethings.

[Anonymous]

There's nothing wrong with sharing a curiosity like this anonymously. The son probably shared the info with his mom in a "can you believe this" way or surprise and some confusion. He should ignore it completely, no need to reply congratulations if she literally sent no words. Maybe she was drunk texting to tease him, or thought he'd be interested in her happy news. It doesnt matter much. No need to judge her, nor the son, nor the mom.

[Anonymous]

Why is this your business OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:27 yo is too young to get married, and this proves it.
my wife was 33 when we got married and she was still hot (and remains so at 43!), but was more emotionally ready.
I feel bad for the fiance and for your son - immature women can inflict a lot of pain and agony.

Yeah right..

[Anonymous]

OP your son wasn't man enough for her.
Move along. Stay out of younger folks business.

Hopefully your own marriage is going strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gotta admit that if I were the girl's fiance, I would be annoyed.
But it's funny the the MIL wants us to think that she is crowd sourcing this because she is policing the girl's manners toward her fiance. please.

Right? one of the first people she thought to tell her news was her ex she hasn't talked to in 2 years? I guess he's the one that got away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP your son wasn't man enough for her.
Move along. Stay out of younger folks business.

Hopefully your own marriage is going strong.

Been dumped recently?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:27 yo is too young to get married, and this proves it.
my wife was 33 when we got married and she was still hot (and remains so at 43!), but was more emotionally ready.
I feel bad for the fiance and for your son - immature women can inflict a lot of pain and agony.

No it's not lol..DW started pressuring me at 25. She was 23.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP your son wasn't man enough for her.
Move along. Stay out of younger folks business.

Hopefully your own marriage is going strong.

Been dumped recently?

Bye!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do people think its so weird that a son might tell his mom “you’ll never guess who l heard from” and tell her the news. Men gossip too.

Agreed! She could have been a big part of the family. "Guess who got married? She sent me a picture of her ring!" Two minute conversation ensues. They move on. Mom finds herself bugged by it and crowdsources. I got harmless navel gazing from it all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
OP your son wasn't man enough for her.
Move along. Stay out of younger folks business.

Hopefully your own marriage is going strong.

Been dumped recently?

Bye!

Maybe you can show your ex a ring someday. Maybe.

[Anonymous]

I will say honestly it’s kind of weird to send it with no caption if it wasn’t part of a group text. If I sent someone just a picture with no caption of my engagement , it would be like to my best friend or something so they could call me and be like AHHH!!! If I sent it to an ex or an old neighbor or anyone else who was fully out of my life but I wanted to be friendly to, it would include a short note like “hi! Hope you’re well! I just wanted to share my big news with you even though we haven’t talked in a long time. Hope you and your family are having a nice holiday week!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all-as others have said, it’s very weird that your son told you about this. No matter how close you are this is a weird thing to share.

It could be any one of the reasons people have mentioned. But I think the more likely reason is that his ex is still a little salty and wanted to send it as sort of a “my life is good, i’m getting married and things really worked out after we broke up.” Regardless of the reason(s) she sent it-the best response from your son is to say “Congrats, so happy for you” or some very close variation of that. it’s the mature thing to do regardless of how he actually feels about it. He could also ignore but I think responding is better only because (even if in his mind he is saying it with sarcasm) he is going to be looked at as someone who responded with class.

i disagree that it is wierd the son to share it. what's wrong with "hey Mom, I got an odd text last night from my ex girlfriend Tiffany. she texted me a photo of a hand with an engagement ring, which I assume means she got engaged. I'm happy for her."

I think that the girl's text itself is wierd, and the Mom getting upset and coming here to crowdsource is also wierd - but the son mentioning it to his Mom is actually the one part that is NOT so strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want us to say that she's a terrible person and is looking to twist the knife or something?

There might be a tiny bit of that going on (which would be entirely understandable), but mostly she's just happy and wants everyone to know. That is perfectly normal.

Your son sends back congratulations and stops thinking about it. And you should stop AGONIZING.

I posted this because I am old and out of touch, so I'm crowd sourcing on here. I don't know if this is common or strange with kids this age. My gut reaction was this is rude to her fiancé, but again, I'm old.

It isn't "rude to her fiance." It is rude to your DH. Well, not rude really, but it's an aggressive see-ha-I'm-engaged-and-you-are-not text. It's a see-how-happy-I-am-without-YOU text. At any rate, it isn't strange at all, I'm sure a lot of people do it.