Why would my son's newly engaged ex-girlfriend randomly text him a photo of her wearing an engagement ring?

[Anonymous]

This much we can tell: this girl dodged two bullets—a crying momma’s boy and a gossipy MIL!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You want us to say that she's a terrible person and is looking to twist the knife or something?

There might be a tiny bit of that going on (which would be entirely understandable), but mostly she's just happy and wants everyone to know. That is perfectly normal.

Your son sends back congratulations and stops thinking about it. And you should stop AGONIZING.

I posted this because I am old and out of touch, so I'm crowd sourcing on here. I don't know if this is common or strange with kids this age. My gut reaction was this is rude to her fiancé, but again, I'm old.

Correct, OP. You are old and out of touch; but don’t forget that your son is an overly sensitive, inept whiner.

[Anonymous]

She probably sent it to all her friends. NBD

[Anonymous]

Spite, duh

He may have told you it was amicable but that doesn’t mean she agrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does it matter, OP? He can send a quick, “Congratulations, wishing you all the best!”

Instead, he…ran to Mommy?

And you…ran to the Internet?

+1. This whole thread is so cringe. I can't believe how enmeshed young people are with their parents these days.

[Anonymous]

Everyone is cringe here. I think it's kind of embarrassing to send a pic of your engagement ring to an ex you haven't spoken to in 2 years.

[Anonymous]

Ohhh yeah, believe a man’s word when you hear that a breakup was amicable. Especially when it’s your son.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a biotch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

You’re probably not getting the full story.

[Anonymous]

OP, this is a women's approach, and not usually done by guys: They were in each other's lives. They meant something to each other. They want each other to be happy (deep down they do, since they are decent human beings), it is ordinary to wonder what became of the person, where they are now. It's a gentle way to communicate, "I've made a life choice." Sometimes people consider reuniting w/lovers from their past even if it's only whimsy. This closes the book.

[Anonymous]

pp again. ok to maybe not done perfectly. But choosing to think the best of someone, it is likely this.

[Anonymous]

She’s settling and is trying to tell him to reach out if he’s interested before it’s too late.

[Anonymous]

It's refreshing to see women taking the side of men. Yes that's her child. But if she were on the other side she would be defending her.

Women are complicated creatures lol.

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for her fiance. He is clearly option #2...So sad...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She probably sent it to all her friends. NBD

If someone sends a mass text, does each recipient see if it's a mass text?