Why would my son's newly engaged ex-girlfriend randomly text him a photo of her wearing an engagement ring?

[Anonymous]

“Stop contacting me.”

[Anonymous]

It’s either that she still wants to be with him and is hinting at wanting him to reach out for the final time.

OR

She’s being petty and trying to make him jealous.

Either way, I don’t know why both have the other ones numbers still.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal to think a serious ex should hear about your engagement from you. I have 2 exes that let me know when they got engaged; 1 was also a guest at my wedding. I do not actually think this is weird at all if they ended on decent terms.

Exactly.

Most people would rather hear it directly from the person rather than through the grapevine.

Exactly what? Why would someone you haven’t talked to in two years care? Nobody is inviting people to their wedding that haven’t talked to in years.

Do you know what is meant by “through the grapevine”?

So men should start texting years-ago ex girlfriends their own engagement, maybe wedding and first child photos too - you know, so they hear it from him first? You phonies would advise any woman receiving random texts like this to file a restraining order because it’s not a courtesy, it’s mentally unsound.

[Anonymous]

Striver women at this age go nuts as they see all their girlfriends getting engaged and married and buying houses. She probably felt your son wasted years of her prime, broke her heart, and jeopardized her finding some high status man to wife her up. Sure it’s immature to send this but it was also immature to waste however many years of her life and then move 3,000 miles away from her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s either that she still wants to be with him and is hinting at wanting him to reach out for the final time.

OR

She’s being petty and trying to make him jealous.

Either way, I don’t know why both have the other ones numbers still.

Either way, forward the text to her new fiancé. Since it’s all above board, he’ll be totally thrilled to know his future wife is cold texting her ex boyfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some if you must not have very good relationships with your adult sons. My son would totally tell me something like this. We have regular conversations and things come up.

Not cosigning on PP's judging other relationships. But my son would tell me this, as would my daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

You seem to know an offer lot about your son’s love life. Maybe she broke up with him bc your son shares every detail of his life with mommy. Is he nearly 30 or 5?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

You seem to know an offer lot about your son’s love life. Maybe she broke up with him bc your son shares every detail of his life with mommy. Is he nearly 30 or 5?

Awful lot*

[Anonymous]

OP did your son share this w his father?
What was his response ?

[Anonymous]

The last thing on my mind after I got engaged were my exes. This is weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

You seem to know an offer lot about your son’s love life. Maybe she broke up with him bc your son shares every detail of his life with mommy. Is he nearly 30 or 5?

Normal families know about each other's lives. Your dysfunctional family experience is not universal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

Typical zoomer girl boss juvenile. Just jumping through hoops and chasing status. Wants the ring and "adult" milestone of being married, ambivalent of the dork who gave her the ring. Wants to keep her options open. Still seeks out the attention of other men, still keeps tabs on her exes. Will keep her (dad's) last name, not take her husbands. Wishy-washy atheist, so 50/50 she divorces the schmuck within five years or quiet quits the starter marriage without a second thought.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You want us to say that she's a terrible person and is looking to twist the knife or something?

There might be a tiny bit of that going on (which would be entirely understandable), but mostly she's just happy and wants everyone to know. That is perfectly normal.

Your son sends back congratulations and stops thinking about it. And you should stop AGONIZING.

I posted this because I am old and out of touch, so I'm crowd sourcing on here. I don't know if this is common or strange with kids this age. My gut reaction was this is rude to her fiancé, but again, I'm old.

I'm old, too, OP, and to me her text is weird. Why would she send only a picture to someone she hasn't talked to in two years who is an ex-boyfriend. Her text is inappropriate and cringy. Any of the PPs acting like this is even in the realm of appropriate are equally weird. The PPs who are surprised an adult son would ever talk to his mom make me sad.

Hopefully your son ignored or just texted back "Congrats" and left it at that. No need to get hooked into whatever BS drama this weirdo is looking for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

College educated young adults don't break up just because of distance. They can get a job anywhere, work remotely, take turns flying to see each other, hybrid work schedule leave 3-5 day weekends, reroute work flights, FaceTime. Whatever, they can make it work.

Your son broke this girl's heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They broke up due to living on opposite coasts. According to him it was pretty mutual. Sad but not messy. They have not communicated since Christmas 2023. He randomly got a photo text from her over the weekend with no caption, just her hand showing off her engagement ring. What motivates such a text from a 27 year old woman and what reaction is she looking for?

You seem to know an offer lot about your son’s love life. Maybe she broke up with him bc your son shares every detail of his life with mommy. Is he nearly 30 or 5?

Normal families know about each other's lives. Your dysfunctional family experience is not universal.

Most grown sons would share this with their buddies and aren’t as open about their love life with their mother. Mothers/daughters type of conversation or father/son but mother/som ehh it’s giving mommy boy vibes. Like when he is in a relationship/marriage he will tell his mom about his relationship issues causing more strain in his relationship. Ask me how I know.