20 yr old - Sophomore College Living Situation

[Anonymous]

Airbnb the old room

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. There are a lot of young adult children replying to this post.

OP here, please reply. I need to gauge my feelings against other moms with daughters in college, or against women who also lived with a college BF.

Gen X mom here , she needs to chip in something , even if it’s half the light and while I certainly wouldn’t give up the apartment because she needs to have a place of her own, she needs a deeper understanding of the sacrifices you all are making for her to have something that she does not use.

If she wasn't using the boyfriend's place, what would the difference be?

More wear and tear on her place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you know too much. First, get rid of location sharing on your phones - this is making you crazy.

Next year, you pay as you always would - but less. NO reason any college-age kid needs a 2 bathroom place. Two bedroom, two bath, that is extravagant. Pay less. A lesser place.

If they move in, in the future, it's on her not to waste any of your money on a commitment to two places. Since she hasn't mentioned, don't assume.

Agree with everything except of getting rid of her location... for safety purposes.

I have a son in College and we still share Life 360 and [b]he's ok with it. He knows it's for my peace of mind[/b] while he's away or when he has to drive home.

How selfish to make him be tracked like an animal so you have a peace of mind. Get therapy for your anxiety/nosiness and leave him alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you know too much. First, get rid of location sharing on your phones - this is making you crazy.

Next year, you pay as you always would - but less. NO reason any college-age kid needs a 2 bathroom place. Two bedroom, two bath, that is extravagant. Pay less. A lesser place.

If they move in, in the future, it's on her not to waste any of your money on a commitment to two places. Since she hasn't mentioned, don't assume.

Agree with everything except of getting rid of her location... for safety purposes.

I have a son in College and we still share Life 360 and [b]he's ok with it. He knows it's for my peace of mind[/b] while he's away or when he has to drive home.

How selfish to make him be tracked like an animal so you have a peace of mind. Get therapy for your anxiety/nosiness and leave him alone.

We all share Life 360. Mom, dad, siblings. It's Ok. Nothing different that the kids tracking their group of friends through Snapchat.

One night, our youngest (16) had car troubles at night on a dark area and we were able to get to them quickly because we had the exact location. So, no animal behavior here. LOL.

Life360 has approximately 88 million monthly active users btw.

[Anonymous]

Tell her to start using her apartment, not the BF's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Airbnb the old room

You can't but sub leasing is allowed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you know too much. First, get rid of location sharing on your phones - this is making you crazy.

Next year, you pay as you always would - but less. NO reason any college-age kid needs a 2 bathroom place. Two bedroom, two bath, that is extravagant. Pay less. A lesser place.

If they move in, in the future, it's on her not to waste any of your money on a commitment to two places. Since she hasn't mentioned, don't assume.

Agree with everything except of getting rid of her location... for safety purposes.

I have a son in College and we still share Life 360 and [b]he's ok with it. He knows it's for my peace of mind[/b] while he's away or when he has to drive home.

How selfish to make him be tracked like an animal so you have a peace of mind. Get therapy for your anxiety/nosiness and leave him alone.

Well you can't track without kid's consent and parents usually do it to ensure safety not control. If there is any issue, parents are the one dealing with the trouble and cost.

[Anonymous]

One of mine didn't consent to we don't have his information, others did so we've access but its only used if there is a justification , not randomly.

[Anonymous]

I married my college bf. We started dating at the end of freshman year. He was only 17 and I was only 19. I felt a few times that we were too young to he that serious and tried breaking up, but it didn’t last. I’m so glad I was able to have the space to do that though.

After college he lived with his parents for a year and then went to grad school in the DC area for his PhD. I lived with my parents two years (one year of us being a 3 hr drive apart and one year of us being a 2 hr flight apart) before moving to DC. Even then I lived with friends from college.

I eventually bought a studio and also went to grad school. We got married when I finished grad school - about 10 years after we started dating!

Although, by that point, we spent about 5 out of 7 nights together (some nights at his place and some at mine) we didn’t live together. I’m glad I had the experience of living with roommates and having some independence in DC and even buying my condo (which he eventually moved into).

Granted my oldest is only 13, but I wouldn’t want to create that pressure in a relationship for her. Housing and relationships are both so stressful anyway, and combining them so one is contingent on the other seems hard at a young age!

[Anonymous]

Would you be this irritated if she was in a dorm?

This is normal, OP. The cost of college. Your irritation is NOT normal and your feelings about this was irrational and invalid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you know too much. First, get rid of location sharing on your phones - this is making you crazy.

Next year, you pay as you always would - but less. NO reason any college-age kid needs a 2 bathroom place. Two bedroom, two bath, that is extravagant. Pay less. A lesser place.

If they move in, in the future, it's on her not to waste any of your money on a commitment to two places. Since she hasn't mentioned, don't assume.

Agree with everything except of getting rid of her location... for safety purposes.

I have a son in College and we still share Life 360 and [b]he's ok with it. He knows it's for my peace of mind[/b] while he's away or when he has to drive home.

How selfish to make him be tracked like an animal so you have a peace of mind. Get therapy for your anxiety/nosiness and leave him alone.

We all share Life 360. Mom, dad, siblings. It's Ok. Nothing different that the kids tracking their group of friends through Snapchat.

One night, our youngest (16) had car troubles at night on a dark area and we were able to get to them quickly because we had the exact location. So, no animal behavior here. LOL.

Life360 has approximately 88 million monthly active users btw.

We track the family, kids don't care. Then again, we don't micromanage...it's more about safety. They also can see us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of mine didn't consent to we don't have his information, others did so we've access but its only used if there is a justification , not randomly.

One didn't consent? We pay the bills for college, so it's not really a "choice". Just like as long as we are paying for auto insurance/car and they are on our plan, there is no using your phone to text while driving...do it and we take car away for a given amount of time (in HS it was a week---only happened once)

[Anonymous]

For adults, it should be a choice. Pay for college or don't, that's a separate issue.

[Anonymous]

Well, high school living at home teens, commuter students, on campus students, students with parent approved roommates, all find ways to sleep and hang together with opposite gender so assuming that solo apartment dwellers are the corrupted ones is odd but common thinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of mine didn't consent to we don't have his information, others did so we've access but its only used if there is a justification , not randomly.

One didn't consent? We pay the bills for college, so it's not really a "choice". Just like as long as we are paying for auto insurance/car and they are on our plan, there is no using your phone to text while driving...do it and we take car away for a given amount of time (in HS it was a week---only happened once)

If you want to ruin your relationship, use money to control them.