Surprised by Dad and step mom relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a trophy husband. Women are dogs. This surprises you?

Also can be true in some cases but mostly it’s the men who want a hot wife who puts out.

[Anonymous]

You dad is 70. He’s not interested in a career woman at his age. He wants someone who is easy to get along with and will take care of him as he continues to age. If she leaves him because he gets too demanding about doing more around the house, what’s his option? Go on dating apps to find someone else? I know someone whose father was in a similar situation after her mother died and she recognized that the stepmother took a load off of some of the caregiving she and her sister would have had to provide if Stepmother wasn’t there. Be grateful your father is happy.

[Anonymous]

What’s OP’s real concern here? That stepmom is going to walk off with what should have been your inheritance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because he did not raise you, your mother did.

You have idolized this man in your mind.

He wanted to control someone your mother was not that person. He wants a personal maid with sexual favors and that is what he has.

But, she is not a personal maid . She is doing the bare minimum at home and she is perfectly happy doing very little. Seems like the ex-wife (mom of OP) must have been an unpleasant person to be with - even if she was super efficient and super successful. Maybe the dad did not like the stress of being with that lady. Or maybe the sex with the 2nd wife is just that good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He’s a trophy husband. Women are dogs. This surprises you?

Also can be true in some cases but mostly it’s the men who want a hot wife who puts out.

And the woman wants a rich man to care for her. She’s a lazy dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because he did not raise you, your mother did.

You have idolized this man in your mind.

He wanted to control someone your mother was not that person. He wants a personal maid with sexual favors and that is what he has.

But, she is not a personal maid . She is doing the bare minimum at home and she is perfectly happy doing very little. Seems like the ex-wife (mom of OP) must have been an unpleasant person to be with - even if she was super efficient and super successful. Maybe the dad did not like the stress of being with that lady. Or maybe the sex with the 2nd wife is just that good.

He is 70 and probably can’t have sex. Younger wife is probably relieved and likes her lazy unambitious life. What could go wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s a trophy husband. Women are dogs. This surprises you?

Switching the gender doesn't work because it doesn't happen enough to make it a cultural cliché.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10 years ago there was a survey about what qualities men want in their daughters versus their wives. You will be unsurprised on how it turned out.

https://www.businessinsider.com/what-men-want-in-a-wife-and-in-a-daughter-2015-4

In my life, this is so true. My parents had a very traditional marriage and the way my dad treats my mom couldn’t be more opposite how he raised me and my sister.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because he did not raise you, your mother did.

You have idolized this man in your mind.

He wanted to control someone your mother was not that person. He wants a personal maid with sexual favors and that is what he has.

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

PP with the brother here; I am not OP.

OP sorry didn't mean to hijack your thread!

But I can relate. Solidarity, friend. I've worked on letting my resentment go for some time. Almost there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s OP’s real concern here? That stepmom is going to walk off with what should have been your inheritance?

Bingo!

[Anonymous]

He's most likely married to what he prefers now. No need to call her a doormat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because he did not raise you, your mother did.

You have idolized this man in your mind.

He wanted to control someone your mother was not that person. He wants a personal maid with sexual favors and that is what he has.

But, she is not a personal maid . She is doing the bare minimum at home and she is perfectly happy doing very little. Seems like the ex-wife (mom of OP) must have been an unpleasant person to be with - even if she was super efficient and super successful. Maybe the dad did not like the stress of being with that lady. Or maybe the sex with the 2nd wife is just that good.

He is 70 and probably can’t have sex. Younger wife is probably relieved and likes her lazy unambitious life. What could go wrong?

You think 70 year olds can't have sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s OP’s real concern here? That stepmom is going to walk off with what should have been your inheritance?

Bingo!

Not OP, but that is concerning. People experience cognitive decline in their old age and exercise very poor judgment. The stepmom likely won't advocate for her step kids. It really isn't fair that she should get what OP's mom and dad worked towards jointly just bc she is there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because he did not raise you, your mother did.

You have idolized this man in your mind.

He wanted to control someone your mother was not that person. He wants a personal maid with sexual favors and that is what he has.

But, she is not a personal maid . She is doing the bare minimum at home and she is perfectly happy doing very little. Seems like the ex-wife (mom of OP) must have been an unpleasant person to be with - even if she was super efficient and super successful. Maybe the dad did not like the stress of being with that lady. Or maybe the sex with the 2nd wife is just that good.

He is 70 and probably can’t have sex. Younger wife is probably relieved and likes her lazy unambitious life. What could go wrong?

You think 70 year olds can't have sex?

The women can. But most of the men can’t, unless they are taking the pill. And even with a pill, it can still be difficult for some of them. That is the fax, so acknowledge it.