Best friend divorcing
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Anonymous
How is she married 30 years? |
Anonymous
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Why is the subject line “best friend is divorcing”?
She hasnt consulted lawyers. She hasnt told him. She hasnt served him divorce papers. She only told you she’s unhappy and has been a long time. |
Anonymous
| She needs a physician, therapist, and a lawyer. |
Anonymous
??? No, it's just realistic. |
Anonymous
OP said she'd known her for 35 years. |
Anonymous
OP here - I never said she was married 30 years, it think it was someone else in a reply but that isn’t correct. |
Anonymous
True but that seemed like a lot to convey in the subject line 😂 |
Anonymous
JFC NOOOOOOOO. |
Anonymous
| He is going to do very well in the dating market. She might do well but she might not. |
Anonymous
+1 And how can he try harder? She married him not loving him and doesn't love him to this day. How is that his fault? Nothing about this thread seems legit. |
Anonymous
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Women like OP's friend contemplate the do orce route because they know they are going to survive financially.
Men do not think hard enough when they propose. That's the only time they can control the relationship and get rush to propose. No fault divorce has been incredibly beneficial to women. It was meant to protect women who were abused, instead capricious women who are bored are taking advantage of it. |
Anonymous
If she’s divorcing a man who is C-suite at a billion dollar company, and has young kids, she might not need a job. |
Anonymous
If he’s CEO at a billion dollar company it may not change it that much, she will walk with a few million. I’m pretty unhappy and my DH makes a decent amount of money ($500k) but this would significantly impact my lifestyle. I don’t see it impacting hers that much. |
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I’ll also give my perspective (I’m the PP whose husband also is C suite for a start up and makes $500k, obviously we don’t have the financial benefits of his working for a billion dollar company like your friend but I’ll give my perspective.)
I left my job when I was pregnant with my first born. I didn’t have much of a choice due to my husband’s travel schedule and was happy to do it. In the younger years it benefitted the family immensely, we have an incredible community of friends and I was involved in a lot more than I could be if I worked full time. This was impactful as we aren’t from the area in a very tight knit community so didn’t have the connections many do. Kids are thriving. Now the bad- most men in these kind of leadership positions often really prioritize work and aren’t the best husbands. My husband loves me (or at least he says he does) and he is a wonderful and involved father but I certainly come last behind job and fatherhood. He just doesn’t have the bandwidth and our marriage feels lonely and kind of sad to me. He leaves a lot for me to deal with because of how demanding his job is and doesn’t follow through on many things he promises to take care of. I handle 99 percent of the mental load. Last few years since my kids are out of pre-K has been insanely rough on my mental health. I do all the things people suggest like volunteer, etc. But I am mentally bored out of my mind and looking for an outlet for this. As I said I worked for a top company 10 years ago but I’m not exactly a top recruit now. lol! And I know that. I have a small business but I really am sooooo depressed and hopeless I struggle with staying motivated. That’s just the reality of my situation. I’m trying to come up with a plan, maybe she needs your love and support more than you realize. |
Anonymous
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No!
Absolutely do not reach out directly to your best friend’s husband. Not only will you lose a sister > you will also cause more issues for your friend. ❤️🩹 The best thing you can do for her is just be a loyal listening ear for her when she needs to talk. It is best to offer her support w/out directly interfering in her personal affairs. Good luck OP. |