My 59 y.o. STBXH is trying to land a 22 y.o.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Im not "listening to him describe his affairs". He brought up the young woman because he wants her to meet our daughter. I saw photos of her on social media. Regarding his earlier exploits, I found out about his affairs during the second half of our marriage on his laptop.

Op it doesn’t matter what age the woman is your kid should not be meeting his newish conquest.

[Anonymous]

What is there for you to handle, other than your feelings about your ex sleeping with a woman young enough to be his daughter?

[Anonymous]

Get the divorce and get your half before a new woman swoops in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

Aghast? Really? You're an educated professional who married a man 13 years your senior, and you're "aghast" that old pervs skeeve on young college students? That doesn't sound very smart.

As for the whole "he's bringing her to your place" bit, have some standards. Why doesn't he take DD for a long weekend or some such? You can't stop the relationship from happening, but you can stop it from happening under your roof.

You sound really immature, OP. Get your ish together and be proactive about what you can control in your life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

Aghast? Really? You're an educated professional who married a man 13 years your senior, and you're "aghast" that old pervs skeeve on young college students? That doesn't sound very smart.

As for the whole "he's bringing her to your place" bit, have some standards. Why doesn't he take DD for a long weekend or some such? You can't stop the relationship from happening, but you can stop it from happening under your roof.

You sound really immature, OP. Get your ish together and be proactive about what you can control in your life.

OP here. I'd much rather DD spend two hours at my home with the "tutor" than a long weekend at STBXH's home where she would realize her dad's true intentions. She doesn't know that her dad is trying to land her tutor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

Aghast? Really? You're an educated professional who married a man 13 years your senior, and you're "aghast" that old pervs skeeve on young college students? That doesn't sound very smart.

As for the whole "he's bringing her to your place" bit, have some standards. Why doesn't he take DD for a long weekend or some such? You can't stop the relationship from happening, but you can stop it from happening under your roof.

You sound really immature, OP. Get your ish together and be proactive about what you can control in your life.

OP here. I'd much rather DD spend two hours at my home with the "tutor" than a long weekend at STBXH's home where she would realize her dad's true intentions. She doesn't know that her dad is trying to land her tutor.

Your daughter knows more than you think she knows. Her dad’s behavior is no surprise to her. Why haven’t you divorced him? Set a good example for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

Aghast? Really? You're an educated professional who married a man 13 years your senior, and you're "aghast" that old pervs skeeve on young college students? That doesn't sound very smart.

As for the whole "he's bringing her to your place" bit, have some standards. Why doesn't he take DD for a long weekend or some such? You can't stop the relationship from happening, but you can stop it from happening under your roof.

You sound really immature, OP. Get your ish together and be proactive about what you can control in your life.

OP here. I'd much rather DD spend two hours at my home with the "tutor" than a long weekend at STBXH's home where she would realize her dad's true intentions. She doesn't know that her dad is trying to land her tutor.

So he doesn't acknowledge this woman as his girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

Aghast? Really? You're an educated professional who married a man 13 years your senior, and you're "aghast" that old pervs skeeve on young college students? That doesn't sound very smart.

As for the whole "he's bringing her to your place" bit, have some standards. Why doesn't he take DD for a long weekend or some such? You can't stop the relationship from happening, but you can stop it from happening under your roof.

You sound really immature, OP. Get your ish together and be proactive about what you can control in your life.

OP here. I'd much rather DD spend two hours at my home with the "tutor" than a long weekend at STBXH's home where she would realize her dad's true intentions. She doesn't know that her dad is trying to land her tutor.

So he doesn't acknowledge this woman as his girlfriend?

OP here. As the title of the thread says, at this stage he is still trying to land her. She is not yet his girlfriend. They haven't met in person yet. He invited her to his home for a "crash course" in his field. I don't know how naive she is. At her age I would not have expected an almost 60 y.o. to want to hook up with me. However, he looks a lot younger, and given the young daughter she might think he is in his mid-forties like I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and get a divorce.

+1. Your husband is giving you notice that he is pursuing a serious relationship with another woman. Though it has been convenient so far to stay married and live separate lives, you need to accept the fact that he is ready for a divorce. Don't poison your daughter against this woman. You fell for his crap too and married a much older man. The more you malign her, the worse you look.

OP here. It wouldn't occur to me to malign the young woman. She is probably fascinated by him and eager to get ahead in her field. I think it's fine if she wants to use him as a professional stepping stone.
I am aghast that at almost 60 he aspires to a serious relationship with a woman barely out of her teens.

As for the meeting, he is planning to bring the grad student to my home where I live with my daughter, under the guise that the young woman is the math tutor. That should be interesting.

Aghast? Really? You're an educated professional who married a man 13 years your senior, and you're "aghast" that old pervs skeeve on young college students? That doesn't sound very smart.

As for the whole "he's bringing her to your place" bit, have some standards. Why doesn't he take DD for a long weekend or some such? You can't stop the relationship from happening, but you can stop it from happening under your roof.

You sound really immature, OP. Get your ish together and be proactive about what you can control in your life.

OP here. I'd much rather DD spend two hours at my home with the "tutor" than a long weekend at STBXH's home where she would realize her dad's true intentions. She doesn't know that her dad is trying to land her tutor.

So he doesn't acknowledge this woman as his girlfriend?

OP here. As the title of the thread says, at this stage he is still trying to land her. She is not yet his girlfriend. They haven't met in person yet. He invited her to his home for a "crash course" in his field. I don't know how naive she is. At her age I would not have expected an almost 60 y.o. to want to hook up with me. However, he looks a lot younger, and given the young daughter she might think he is in his mid-forties like I am.

LOL! This woman is flying across the country to stay with a wealthy man she’s never met in person. It’s fair to assume she knows what type of “mentoring” to expect.

[Anonymous]

O good grief, OP.

You are focused on the wrong thing. Focus on your DD. She should not be involved in this situation you and your DH have created. Why would you let him bring the young woman to your house while both you and he are lying to your DD? You think this will be “interesting”? Really? What kind of screwed up reason would you have to allow this? Why are you lying to your DD for your DH?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, You are only 46, you should try to have some fun too!

You STBXH is way too old, she is way too dumb!

I was just thinking the same thing. This is your opportunity to be rid of a 60 year-old man. Men start aging pretty rapidly in their 60s and by letting him pursue his new fling you are free from the responsibility of having to nurse him in his old age, which is coming up quickly. Divorce and good riddens!

[Anonymous]

So creepy. Just tell him you’re not interested in hosting her. And divorce him asap. Don’t be at all associated with this lawsuit waiting to happen.

[Anonymous]

Doesn’t sound like OP wants to be rid of him.